Church youth group Help!!

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ijoy14

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Hey, everyone!
So at my church we have a youth group for teens ages 14-17. There is about 20 youth a week, I'm fairly new to this youth group but I've always been outgoing an love meeting new people. But the kids in this youth group seem to be very almost unwelcoming. All of them have known eachother since they were little, Any one got any ideas on how I could possible make some friends n show them I'm not a bad person??? thanks
 
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Ugly

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Has nothing to do with 'showing them you're not a bad person', but has more to do with they are a clique. Cliques tend to not be very welcoming of newcomers and can be very hard to get into. You have a difficult uphill battle. All you can do is try to include yourself in the groups as much as possible and see if they are open or not.
 
maxwel

maxwel

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Apr 18, 2013
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Well...

I can't help giving advice to a 16 year old girl,
because I have no idea what I'm talking about,
and that seems really funny to me.
: )

If I was a 16 year old girl...
I'd just ignore them because I don't really like cliques.

But if you simply MUST try to bond with them....
I'd try picking the least obnoxious one,
maybe one that has been a little bit nice to you or something,
and try to really get to know her.

Invite her over for dinner, or hang out, or whatever teen girls do these days that doesn't involve police stations or juvenile detention.
: )

If you can get tight with one of them, she will most likely become an inadvertent liaison between you and the rest of the group.

BTW, if other teens are reading this, or some adult females, please jump in and give this girl some advice.
I'm fairly confident that Ugly and I have done a relatively horrible job.
: )
 
NateDaGrimes

NateDaGrimes

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when i was new to the youth, i go directly to the foosball table. I tend to make friends in foosball and things go out from there.
 
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Amandar

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My suggestion to you, coming from a 16 year old myself, is just be yourself and don't be afraid to just go up to somebody, introduce yourself, and strike up a conversation. And befriend your youth pastor and the staff! They should be able to introduce you to other people. :) PM me if you want to talk more. I have lots more ideas up my sleeve.
 
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ijoy14

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Not completely horrible! I get what you guys are saying, it's all cliques, dramatics, stuff like that. I've moved quite a few times but all the other times I've found a few people that were kinda on the outside, but this time its like their all together. I like the idea of finding the least obnoxious (which i bet will prove a difficult task) but it's a good start. And honestly I don't have to bond with them but as far as i know we wont be moving again for a few years so I would kinda like to meet some people.
 
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Sparkle1630

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I work in my youth group and its kinda like that here. Someone new comes and most people don't tend to talk to them. I first went with two friends so it isnt directly the same but i still felt like you did. Maybe you could take a friend with you? Orr ask the youth leader to introduce you to some people. Pray over it too! Coz Gods got yo back! lol.
 
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jordie

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Kill them with kindness.
It's too bad they can't be welcoming, that is, after all, one of our Christian duties.
 
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