Is there something wong with me?

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PierceM

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I have this hate for girls who cheat, flirt and just talk to guys. Im 14, and currently seeing a therapist but he seems to just ask me question without advice although i have only seen him a few times. I would like to see some of your guys thoughts on this. Let me explain more. I see these people that flirt talk and cheat as "contaminated". These people that are contaminated ( i feel like its all the girls at our school ) i see as their skin peeling off and having hair that is thin oily and stringy falling out. Their skin is peeling and oily from when guys talk to them their words skink in and make it peel also all the oil from guys touching their face does that. Their hair is falling out becuase of all the guys that touch it making it oily sorta like their face. But what they do is put makeup on trying to cover their peeling skin. Its not like i am a germaphob; but it disgust me to put my hand where another guy had his romanticlly. I feel these emotions so strong i feel like killing people that break these rules or commiting suicide. I tried explaining this to my friends but they think im crazy and tell me it washes off. I get that it does but i dont want to put my hand where the other peoples hands where or where i feel like their words seeped into their skin ( i know they dont actully ). Another thing is a fear that kills me. Im so scared at the same time i will die single. Its not like i cant get a girlfriend. But i cant find somone who not "contaminated". Every girl at my school is friends with guys and that bothers me. I have another fear is they will cheat and if they cheat they will become contaminated; if i touch them it will be like im touching the guy that touched her. Oddly guys cant become contaminated they sorta just contaminate other girls. I would feel very uncoftorble if a girl i was dating talked to other guys. I feel like these guys words would stain them and i feel like its kinda like cheating. So what are your thoughts?
 
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PierceM

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I dont want to hear you will find someone someday crap. Becuase you have no idea if i will and i dont want to live off blind hope. Im an athiest btw. Also i think this is important, i feel like i would kill myself if i stayed alone without someone that i love and that loved me.
 
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ServantStrike

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PierceM said:
I have this hate for girls who cheat, flirt and just talk to guys. Im 14, and currently seeing a therapist but he seems to just ask me question without advice although i have only seen him a few times. I would like to see some of your guys thoughts on this. Let me explain more. I see these people that flirt talk and cheat as "contaminated". These people that are contaminated ( i feel like its all the girls at our school ) i see as their skin peeling off and having hair that is thin oily and stringy falling out. Their skin is peeling and oily from when guys talk to them their words skink in and make it peel also all the oil from guys touching their face does that. Their hair is falling out becuase of all the guys that touch it making it oily sorta like their face. But what they do is put makeup on trying to cover their peeling skin. Its not like i am a germaphob; but it disgust me to put my hand where another guy had his romanticlly. I feel these emotions so strong i feel like killing people that break these rules or commiting suicide. I tried explaining this to my friends but they think im crazy and tell me it washes off. I get that it does but i dont want to put my hand where the other peoples hands where or where i feel like their words seeped into their skin ( i know they dont actully ). Another thing is a fear that kills me. Im so scared at the same time i will die single. Its not like i cant get a girlfriend. But i cant find somone who not "contaminated". Every girl at my school is friends with guys and that bothers me. I have another fear is they will cheat and if they cheat they will become contaminated; if i touch them it will be like im touching the guy that touched her. Oddly guys cant become contaminated they sorta just contaminate other girls. I would feel very uncoftorble if a girl i was dating talked to other guys. I feel like these guys words would stain them and i feel like its kinda like cheating. So what are your thoughts?
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Are you saying you literally see this, or metaphorically? As in you see people's skin peeling and what not, or you are using that in a fictional sense?


And either way am I correct in assuming you want a pure untouched athiest girl - that no man has ever so much as brushed on the cheek?
 
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PierceM

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ServantStrike said:
Are you saying you literally see this, or metaphorically? As in you see people's skin peeling and what not, or you are using that in a fictional sense?


And either way am I correct in assuming you want a pure untouched athiest girl - that no man has ever so much as brushed on the cheek?
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Not litterly but i think that in my head. And i really care what religion she is but the other stuff would bother me i think
 
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maditaylor

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I understand what you're talking about, I think. Do you have germophobia? People are gross! I chose to not touch them, until I establish a relationship with them. It took me three years to hug my best friend! If you're worried about getting a relationship with a girl, it will talk some time and a lot of dedication to be able to get close to her. If I'm making sense. :) You can talk to me about it, if you'd like!
 
Colorful

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1.) You're 14 years old. Why are you even concerned with dating? More importantly, why are you concerned with the prospect of touching them in a romantic way?
2.) To say it's abnormal to feel the way you do would be an understatement. I think it's great you're seeking help and are looking for answers, but I don't think many (if any at all) are qualified to diagnose or treat you. This is WELL out of the realm of anything we could remotely help you with.
3.) Your suicidal thoughts ought to take the number 1 priority and concern as opposed to your dynamics with people of the opposite sex. I'm not going to say "don't worry, you won't die alone" because frankly, that should be the least of your concerns at the moment.
4.) Stick with speaking to a professional about it (especially if you don't believe in the Savior Jesus Christ). Your insecurities and self-worth can hopefully be set to a healthy level.

If you ever need to talk to someone, feel free to PM me. I promise not to judge and just listen if you need me to.
 
Trailblazer

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Anything wrong with you? Probably not. My thoughts?
I am thankful to be a Born again Christian. WHY? The bible teaches us that there is a enemy of God ruling this world. This dark spiritual enemy has the ability to put untrue thoughts in the human mind. thoughts that are not reality. but they can be very disturbing at times.

Being a believer in Jesus. Jesus will put restraints on how much this enemy can effect us. Jesus will give us the Holy Spirt when we accept him as our Lord and Savior. As we walk with the lord Jesus in faith. The Holy Spirit will change our heart to one of love. With this love. We will not have hate as with the struggles that you are temporally having now.
 
Percepi

Percepi

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Definitely continue to see help. Thoughts of killing people and suicide is not healthy at all.

It's easy to obtain this idea of wanting a purely innocent woman who hasn't been "tainted" by a man. It often stems from this idea that women who have had sex are unclean and seeing them flirt with other guys can portray this idea in which they aren't innocent. But it's basic human behavior and whether or not you believe women should be conservative doesn't change the fact that it's nothing for you to get upset about.

What kind of woman you want, you need to look for. But don't feel envy towards those who don't hold your standards of living. You're going to learn that most teenagers just want to get laid before they're out of highschool. Other people feel this is perfectly okay, whereas many Christians will tell you premarital sex is wrong. Regardless of what you conclude, you need to accept that nobody has to abide by your personal values.

Do what you can to love others, even if you don't agree with their lifestyles. And just look for a girl who fits your own standards. It might not hurt to reconsider your own values as well.
 
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PierceM said:
I dont want to hear you will find someone someday crap. Becuase you have no idea if i will and i dont want to live off blind hope. Im an athiest btw. Also i think this is important, i feel like i would kill myself if i stayed alone without someone that i love and that loved me.
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My thoughts are to continue your therapy and take all prescribed medication as directed.
 
SoulWeaver

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Oddly guys cant become contaminated they sorta just contaminate other girls.
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Oh yeah? Now that is interesting. You might want to question your source of information. Because I happen to know a person of authority on the matter who more than once said that guys get "contaminated" just the same.
 
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cmarieh

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I am sorry that you are going through something like this. I have to admit, I have never felt this way, but I will tell you that I was never one of the girls that allowed just any man to be all over me. I am twenty four and never really had a boyfriend because I wanted to save myself. The reason why I am telling you this, is that there are girls out there like me, who do not allow a bunch of guys to be all over them. I would love to hear responses from you. What is your relationship like with both your mom and dad, does either of them have control issues because, like you said, if a guy talks to a girl it is wrong? That is not normal thinking. Maybe you need to bring this topic up at your next appointment with your therapist. But please keep checking in. It will get better, just wait and see.
 
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