adults suck

[Levichevett]

why do adults always treat children like crap all the time. like one moment youre to young to be doing something and adults belive they have the right to intervine with your life and then the next youre old enough to take respsonsibilty for your own actions and they don't care whats going on with you. Im sick of being told that my problems are insignificant and mean nothing and I need to just 'get over it' because that is not going to happen. ever. why do adults think that they know whats best when they don't even listen when you try and talk to them and then when you act out they cant even admit that you tried to get help but they turned you down. all these people who say they love me are lying and if they aren't then why have I grown up so messed up and so alone. and if my problems really aren't important compared to theirs then I can tell you something I am never going to be an adult. my life is already too much. I don't want things to get any worse. for anyone.

 

[posthuman]

if the people that say they love you aren't perfect at loving you, it doesn't mean they don't love you - it means they need love just as much as you do.

only God loves perfectly. all of us - we're trying to measure up to that, and a lot of us are measuring each other against that perfection, finding out we all come short.

 

[G4JC]

I don't know much about the circumstance from your post, but I remember being frustrated at your age too. We might not understand it, but usually parents do think ahead and try to do what is best for their children. As teenagers and children, we should still respect our Christian parents and do what they say, even if it doesn't always make sense. Same goes for non-Christian parents, but if they tell you to jump off a cliff you shouldn't do that.

Further reading -

Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise; )
That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. - Ephesians 6:2-3


We should seek to honor our parents in much the same way that we strive to bring glory to God—in our thoughts, words, and actions. For a young child, obeying parents goes hand in hand with honoring them. That includes listening, heeding, and submitting to their authority. After children mature, the obedience that they learned as children will serve them well in honoring other authorities such as government, police, and employers.

While we are required to honor parents, that doesn’t include imitating ungodly ones (Ezekiel 20:18-19). If a parent ever instructs a child to do something that clearly contradicts God’s commands, that child must obey God rather than his/her parents (Acts 5:29).

Honor begets honor. God will not honor those who will not obey His command to honor their parents. If we desire to please God and be blessed, we should honor our parents. Honoring is not easy, is not always fun, and certainly is not possible in our own strength. But honor is a certain path to our purpose in life—glorifying God. “Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord” (Colossians 3:20).
Read more: What does it mean to honor my father and mother?

Praying for you.

 

[kenthomas27]

Hey Levi and thanks for your post. You know, you're right; adults do kinda suck. You sound like a thoughtful intelligent young man and I have to say that your writing is a heck of a lot more spot on than other "adults" writing is. That aside, you are also correct in your analysis of a seemingly unfair treatment. You are at this confusing age where you tend to get some mixed messages. I know I did. On the one hand I should know better, and on the other hand, I don't know anything. It's difficult, tiring, and doesn't really solve some very intimate problems you might be experiencing.

Adult life takes on a different set of obstacles. No one warns you anymore of impending dangers - even dangers you don't see coming or were too naive to know about. Excuses become invalid, especially when you're late paying bills. A good meal and a roof over your head becomes non-absolutes. In short, you're kinda on your own without lifelines.

I'm hoping you have some lifelines with adults in your life. Along with that comes some patience on your part and a hearing ear on their part. You're not insignificant even to me. How much more significant would you be to adults who know and love you.

they worry for you, just like they were worried over when they were 13. You resent that just like they did. Just know they sound like they love you and love sometimes feels smothering while other times feels comforting. I think you'll find good friends here too and of course, people who will listen. God speed!

 

[Bassey]

Deal with it

 

[1joseph]

Hang in there. You'll get through it. I did. Now I'm a sucky adult with a teenager.

So...I'll do what Christian parents do. "Lord, reveal Yourself to Levichevett. Until then, take care of him. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen."

Your CC friend,
Joseph

 

[kinzo]

I pray that your parents stop and listen to your concerns and take them seriously. I learned the hard way with my teen daughter that I was overly controlling in attempts to protect when she began making choices that I thought were potentially spiritually and emotionally harmful. Eventually, God spoke to my heart to step back, be humble, and finally listen. Even, adults can become more mature if we let God work in our lives. When I changed my attitude and actions my relationship with my daughter gradually changed over time, but she also chose to hear my concerns more constructively. It is a 2-way street.

However, I agree with 1joseph, that you try your best to hang in there and that you act more reasonably with your parent's expectations instead of acting out. Unfortunately, your parents are reacting to your anger and frustration and not dealing with the pain you feel. If you have not done so yet, I pray that you would ask Jesus into your life and receive forgiveness, peace and hope that He only can give. His grace and strength is available to us when we are at our lowest points. He can give us patience and courage to persevere. I also pray that communication opens up in your home and that you no longer feel alone in an endless battle.

Larry

 

[JustAnotherUser]

why do adults always treat children like crap all the time. like one moment youre to young to be doing something and adults belive they have the right to intervine with your life and then the next youre old enough to take respsonsibilty for your own actions and they don't care whats going on with you. Im sick of being told that my problems are insignificant and mean nothing and I need to just 'get over it' because that is not going to happen. ever. why do adults think that they know whats best when they don't even listen when you try and talk to them and then when you act out they cant even admit that you tried to get help but they turned you down. all these people who say they love me are lying and if they aren't then why have I grown up so messed up and so alone. and if my problems really aren't important compared to theirs then I can tell you something I am never going to be an adult. my life is already too much. I don't want things to get any worse. for anyone.

I know what you mean. It doesn't really get 'better' as long as there's someone at least a decade older than you. It's natural to look at someone younger and think a certain way since views change over time, but how far can that really go until it's considered inappropriate and ignoring/suppressing another because of their age?

Good news is that there are folks who don't take age as a serious factor as others. Yes, thirteen is a vulnerable age and trust me, I've been there when people told me that it's nothing more than hormones when little did they know that some things I kept to myself were not considered normal back then. Just don't do anything drastic because of this.

 

[maditaylor]

Hey buddy!

I am a teenager too, I feel you, man! Sometimes adults can be totally misunderstanding, rash, and pretty darn judgmental.

A few things to remember about adults is that they grew up in a different world then us. When they were kids, there were different rules in school, different classes, jobs, pass times, "in crowds", and we can't forget that hair !!!

As adults, they have a lot of different things to worry about. Instead of flipping out on their grade in math, or if that chick from chemistry wants to 'go steady', now they get to flip out about bills, insurance, food, a house, car, jobs, and their family! Also, it's been a couple of years since adults have been where we are now. They don't always remember what it is like to be a teenager! I'm sure you and your friends say things like, "boy, when I'm an adult, I will always let my kid hang out with his friends! Even past 9 on a school night!" Don't you think your parents thought the same things when they were 13?

I wouldn't say that adults always treat children like crap. I understand that sometimes things don't seem fair, and you feel like the rules are out to get you. The adults in your life are not trying to make your life suck! Your parents want what is best for you. Their best might be a little different then what you think is best, us kids kind of have to live with that.

"One moment you're too young to be doing something and adults believe they have the right to intervene with your life and the next you're old enough to take responsibility for your own actions and they don't care whats going on"
Brother, I FEEL YOU. I can assure you that your adults do care about what is going on in your life, they just have a lot on their plates also. Parents do this silly thing that you're talking about all the time! I can't tell you why they possibly think it helps us grow up, but I can tell you a easy way to deal with it is to be calm and patient. No parents are perfect, no adults are perfect, and no kids are perfect.

The best way to have a good relationship your adults is to not act like a child around them. Try to get on their level! Remember they forgot how to speak kid. If you throw a little Grown Up talk their way, they will treat you and talk to you like an adult. For example, talking to someone who doesn't speak English. You can't walk up to a someone and have a productive conversation, if you don't speak the same language. That leads to frustration because you two can't understand each other! But if you think calmly, and use appropriate body language, be very patient, pay attention, maybe throw in some key words you might both know, you will be able to get a few points across.

Communicate clearly, ask specific questions if you have them, understand that they have a lot of responsibilities too.

If you show them that you can act like an adult then they will treat you like an adult.

The 7 Cs of Communication - a Checklist From MindTools.com

I kind of blabbed, but I hope I could help a little!

 

[Colorful]

Your generalities, prejudices, and stereotypes of adults may or may not be warranted, but I look past what you're saying, and focus on why you might feel that way. Simply put, I think the best thing for you is to find a great mentor; Someone you can trust and talk to about your issues that IS an adult but defies all the generalizations you state about the "typical adult". I wouldn't advise posting all your issues on a forum and get an entire mess of diverse solutions, just do that with a trusted and wise mentor. It might be difficult to find but when/if you do, it'll be well worth it.

 

[Elizabeth619]

Being as my son is about to be 13 I'm interested in talking to you. Sure, I was once a young one. I had my problems and I grew up but I'm now raising a boy who is no longer a child but not an adult. I'm rather scared about it. What issues are you dealing with and how would you like to be treated? How have adults affected you negatively to create such rage?

 

[didymos]

why do adults always treat children like crap all the time...

Second thread about 'things that suck.' More to come, I'm sure.

 

[AnnaBou]

I think things will get better for you Levi. I certainly hope so.

I do believe in honour thy mother and father. I know I am lucky and it is easy to obey my father and mother because they are good people. I must say that they don't really listen to me though. When I was younger we had a nanny. Then we had a help who I found annoying when she told me what to do, but she was let go and we got a nicer one and now I am older I can ask her to do things. Plus I am a boarder and so with being away at school and having the nanny and help my parents were always a little distant. I have come to rely on myself. There is one teacher I know I could go to if I had a problem.

 

[tourist]

Second thread about 'things that suck.' More to come, I'm sure.

It is my observation, over the course of my life, that there is an abundance of things that suck. Perhaps I am need of an attitude adjustment. I will say that, in my estimation of adults in general, is that they do not suck but are greatly misunderstood by the younger generation.

 

[MadParrotWoman]

It was a long time ago now but I remember how I felt aged 13, it's an awful age - no longer a child yet not an adult. I thought I hated my parents too. How stupid is this, whenever I had a row with my parents which was pretty much daily I used to smoke cigarettes because I thought I was getting one over on them knowing how they never wanted me to smoke. I hated school too and was never one of the crowd. I'm afraid a lot of it goes with being a teen. I'm not saying you may not have other issues but a lot of it is age related and it really does get better, although of course right now you won't see that. If you would like, please pm me.

 

[secularhermit]

why do adults always treat children like crap all the time. like one moment youre to young to be doing something and adults belive they have the right to intervine with your life and then the next youre old enough to take respsonsibilty for your own actions and they don't care whats going on with you. Im sick of being told that my problems are insignificant and mean nothing and I need to just 'get over it' because that is not going to happen. ever. why do adults think that they know whats best when they don't even listen when you try and talk to them and then when you act out they cant even admit that you tried to get help but they turned you down. all these people who say they love me are lying and if they aren't then why have I grown up so messed up and so alone. and if my problems really aren't important compared to theirs then I can tell you something I am never going to be an adult. my life is already too much. I don't want things to get any worse. for anyone.

I´m sorry you feeel that way!

My daughther, of simply 14, should be an adult too, because she made me feel that way yesterday...

I hope, when you grow old, see things better.

you can cope with it! Be strong and also smart.

 

[Richie_2uk]

Is it funny how he is complaining how he thinks adults sucks? yet he is asking adults for advice and to comment back? Look Parents don't always get it right 24/7. there are only humans. they are not perfect and its all about trying to work together to make it right for all of you not just you. however kids your age, all you want to do is what you want to do and nothing else. and do you think you are too perfect to get things right in your life? NO! work with your parents, and stop whining. and learn to compromise. Instead of complaining and spitting your dummy out and cry that you not getting your own way.

Your parents may love you, but you are not receiving it the way you want it. so try working with them, talk to them, compromise with them, learn with them. Maybe and just maybe you and your parents can live a little in harmony with each other.

 

[secularhermit]

Hmm!

He was OK, just venting on Teen´s Forum.

 

[Levichevett]

Is it funny how he is complaining how he thinks adults sucks? yet he is asking adults for advice and to comment back? Look Parents don't always get it right 24/7. there are only humans. they are not perfect and its all about trying to work together to make it right for all of you not just you. however kids your age, all you want to do is what you want to do and nothing else. and do you think you are too perfect to get things right in your life? NO! work with your parents, and stop whining. and learn to compromise. Instead of complaining and spitting your dummy out and cry that you not getting your own way.

Your parents may love you, but you are not receiving it the way you want it. so try working with them, talk to them, compromise with them, learn with them. Maybe and just maybe you and your parents can live a little in harmony with each other.

I usually don't respond to people but you have made my angry so well done. but listen im not saying adults r perfect and im not saying I am either ok I know I am a really crap person but that doesn't mean that when im depressed and my parents find out that they can laugh at me and tell me to get over it and that im probably lying to get something. why should I have to put up with that? I don't care if their my parents they don't love. they don't want me around. and if they do then they can come find me and talk to me about it because frankly as soon as im 18 im going to go to uni and never go back there. I just want to leave and find people who love me. I have been loved and it is the best thing in this world but its also the thing which no one really gives out in this world. so don't mock me because honestly were both human. neither of us are exactly good.

 

[secularhermit]

Hmmm!

Do you mind if I invite you to be around CC once in a while, Levi?

I´m old and I know what you would be dreaming, since my childhood but, I´m sure you will learn who to treat people onother way you´ve been treated.

Will you mind accepting this humble invitation to stay tuned, once in a while on CC (this site) Sir?

I hope!

Because HERE there are people who have suffered like you, sir.