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cj88

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My name is CJ.
I have been in and around church for most of my life, and have considered myself a "christian" for a lil while now, but i find myself struggling with the issue of porn. It's been in and out of my life since i was 12, and as a guy who has never really attracted girls, and has been rejected multiple times, i began to give up on "Relationships" and found porn as a substitute, i know its wrong, its been a few weeks since ive watched it, but ive also struggled with shame from masturbation, ive always thought about porn and masturbation as a substitute to being sexually active before marriage, but then i found out porn forsure is a sin, and masturbation can be considered one along with it. which allows for shame and self hate....i do believe we have a forgiving God, but i also feel like im just in continuous failure considering i fell to masturbation again earlier today, and at times i feel like "well masturbation is better than full on porn"...but then when masturbation fails to succeed i desire porn more, and thats where i am at currently, that im desiring porn more, im remembering how shameful i feel after, but i have a massive, hard to fight desire, and im just looking for some christian family help and advice. While there are some people i do trust at my church i just feel like the people they are around (wife, assistant pastor, etc) will spread it to other people, and im just really confused, cuz i've read some articles where they say masturbation Isnt a sin, then where they say i should be super ashamed because of it, and shouldnt claim christianity with this as an issue. It seems ive gotten everything but help in this issue :/
any advice helps, thanks in advance.
 
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Malcyboy

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Hey buddy i know masturbation and porn seems isolating and sometimes unconquerable...but i encourage you to meditate on 1 corinthians 10:13 were it tells us that every temptation is common to man and that God is faithful to provide a way of escape and a way that we may be victorious over it :) just to say i have dropped you a pm
 
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Peter96

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Masturbation is a sin. We all have a conscience that tells us that. Over time as you continue in this sin your conscience gets seared with a hot iron and you start to not feel bad about it but deep down you know its still wrong that's Jesus telling us to repent. I'm not going to act like I'm perfect and all cause I am far, far, far, far from it and I do struggle with this sin. Take it to Jesus. Like you said it's a substitute for intimacy. It is false intimacy. Jesus can give you the love that you desire, He really can. Take it to Jesus He loves you so much.
 
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cj88 said:
My name is CJ.
I have been in and around church for most of my life, and have considered myself a "christian" for a lil while now, but i find myself struggling with the issue of porn. It's been in and out of my life since i was 12, and as a guy who has never really attracted girls, and has been rejected multiple times, i began to give up on "Relationships" and found porn as a substitute, i know its wrong, its been a few weeks since ive watched it, but ive also struggled with shame from masturbation, ive always thought about porn and masturbation as a substitute to being sexually active before marriage, but then i found out porn forsure is a sin, and masturbation can be considered one along with it. which allows for shame and self hate....i do believe we have a forgiving God, but i also feel like im just in continuous failure considering i fell to masturbation again earlier today, and at times i feel like "well masturbation is better than full on porn"...but then when masturbation fails to succeed i desire porn more, and thats where i am at currently, that im desiring porn more, im remembering how shameful i feel after, but i have a massive, hard to fight desire, and im just looking for some christian family help and advice. While there are some people i do trust at my church i just feel like the people they are around (wife, assistant pastor, etc) will spread it to other people, and im just really confused, cuz i've read some articles where they say masturbation Isnt a sin, then where they say i should be super ashamed because of it, and shouldnt claim christianity with this as an issue. It seems ive gotten everything but help in this issue :/
any advice helps, thanks in advance.
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CJ. Please don't give up the struggle! Use prayer and distract yourself with other activities. Use the feeling of being ashamed to push yourself away from porn and masturbation. You will succeed!
 
TheAristocat

TheAristocat

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cj88 said:
My name is CJ.
I have been in and around church for most of my life, and have considered myself a "christian" for a lil while now, but i find myself struggling with the issue of porn. It's been in and out of my life since i was 12, and as a guy who has never really attracted girls, and has been rejected multiple times, i began to give up on "Relationships" and found porn as a substitute, i know its wrong, its been a few weeks since ive watched it, but ive also struggled with shame from masturbation, ive always thought about porn and masturbation as a substitute to being sexually active before marriage, but then i found out porn forsure is a sin, and masturbation can be considered one along with it. which allows for shame and self hate....i do believe we have a forgiving God, but i also feel like im just in continuous failure considering i fell to masturbation again earlier today, and at times i feel like "well masturbation is better than full on porn"...but then when masturbation fails to succeed i desire porn more, and thats where i am at currently, that im desiring porn more, im remembering how shameful i feel after, but i have a massive, hard to fight desire, and im just looking for some christian family help and advice. While there are some people i do trust at my church i just feel like the people they are around (wife, assistant pastor, etc) will spread it to other people, and im just really confused, cuz i've read some articles where they say masturbation Isnt a sin, then where they say i should be super ashamed because of it, and shouldnt claim christianity with this as an issue. It seems ive gotten everything but help in this issue :/
any advice helps, thanks in advance.
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There's nothing in the Bible that claims that masturbation is a sin. Some people use Genesis 38:9-10 to show that it is a sin, but this passage isn't about masturbation or wasting one's seed. It's about Onan choosing to not give his dead brother a child through a regulation in the Old Testament known as levirate marriage. Levirate marriage is where there are two brothers, one brother who has a wife dies without giving a child to his wife, the remaining brother, whether or not he has a wife, is supposed to marry the dead brother's wife and raise offspring for his dead brother. Onan refused to do this, and God saw that as sin. That's why he died. Again, nothing to do with masturbation or "seed-wasting".
 
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