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A loss of worth occurs when you lower the standard of what you find acceptable for your life. This doesn't mean that God values you any less. It means that you've robbed yourself of living according to God's Spirit and ways. As the years pass, you continually lower the standard so that, finally, you end up with no standards at all. Like many people, perhaps you don't realize that you have to alter your perception of yourself when you continually compromise who you truly are.
When your involved in a negative relationships often tends to diminish our expectations. You start off having high standards for your relationship, but as the relationship becomes abusive or exploitative, your standards of love must lower if you're going to stay in it. As the abuse and exploitation continue, you must further lower your expectations to the point where you may begin taking personal responsibility for the abuse, saying, "It's my fault that he's treating me in this way. I must be doing something to anger him." As time goes on, you abandon your desire for a positive future by further lowering your hopes. You begin the time game: "I have invested too much time in this relationship to leave now."
Negative circumstances can create very strong emotional bonds. By the time you finally realize that you are dwelling in a destructive situation, pride and sacrifice have usually killed your expectations for a healthy relationship. You are too proud to leave because others have advised you to break off the relationship, and you haven't listen to their counsel. You've already sacrificed your self-respect to maintain the relationship, and you feel that the other person can't live without you and therefore you have to stay to help him or her.
Have you lowered your standards?
When your involved in a negative relationships often tends to diminish our expectations. You start off having high standards for your relationship, but as the relationship becomes abusive or exploitative, your standards of love must lower if you're going to stay in it. As the abuse and exploitation continue, you must further lower your expectations to the point where you may begin taking personal responsibility for the abuse, saying, "It's my fault that he's treating me in this way. I must be doing something to anger him." As time goes on, you abandon your desire for a positive future by further lowering your hopes. You begin the time game: "I have invested too much time in this relationship to leave now."
Negative circumstances can create very strong emotional bonds. By the time you finally realize that you are dwelling in a destructive situation, pride and sacrifice have usually killed your expectations for a healthy relationship. You are too proud to leave because others have advised you to break off the relationship, and you haven't listen to their counsel. You've already sacrificed your self-respect to maintain the relationship, and you feel that the other person can't live without you and therefore you have to stay to help him or her.
Have you lowered your standards?