who you pick as friends - Teens only plz

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I'm not sure i fit in with the christian views about this. Or maybe I'm simply not sure what the christian view is. My only criteria for friends is that they are nice people. I don't care about their religion or what they believe. I don't judge how they dress, or if they are gay. I do like people who are smart n sporty n funny n artistic. But i really think a lot of people i call my friends wouldn't be approved of here and I don't care. So what does that make me. Maybe i cant call myself a Christian. I really am only seeking comments from teens.
 

Channa

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He zoii!
Through hard times it's awesome to have christian friends on who you can count :)
I don't think there's anything wrong with having non-christian friends,
just make sure that you keep yourself and that you've got also christian friends :)
God bless,
Channa
 

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I'm not sure i fit in with the christian views about this. Or maybe I'm simply not sure what the christian view is. My only criteria for friends is that they are nice people. I don't care about their religion or what they believe. I don't judge how they dress, or if they are gay. I do like people who are smart n sporty n funny n artistic. But i really think a lot of people i call my friends wouldn't be approved of here and I don't care. So what does that make me. Maybe i cant call myself a Christian. I really am only seeking comments from teens.

I keep friends with people who are better than me...more athletic, more financially well-off, better academic friends...etc. It pushes me and drives me to be a better person and allows me the opportunity to network with other people...people I may have not gotten in contact with if it wasn't for these friends. it is even better that they are all christian so they push me to be a better follower of Christ. These are my friends. I am friendly however with those of different backgrounds...atheist, agnostic, buddhist...and I do call them my friends but I'm not going to open up to them all the way like I do my best friends, SO I pick people who are christians and like minded individuals like me that can push me to do greater and to be a greater person and I do the same.
 
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Well just me but you should pick people that are Christian and will build your faith, they should show love to you and well love is kind caring puting others first ect and should like talking about God the bible ect my point is you should not hang around people who are not Christian and I believe that for a man to date a man / woman dating a woman is a sin an abomination and if you are friends with people who are not christen or just have a deferent religion they will drag you down to there level and that is a bad place to be I know I was there and its sad but it is said here in











Matthew 7:14 13"Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it. 14"For the gate is small and the way is narrow that leads to life, and there are few who find it.






so it does matter who you are friends with for they could drag you to hell if your not careful, how they dress as well matters look here in,









1 Timothy 2:9 9Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, 10but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness.…

remember all I want to do is share scripture and be some help hey you have friends here Zoii we are here for you.:)
 
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Why do you think that your friends won't be approved of here, Zoii?

It's not wrong to have friends who have different religious beliefs. Your character and ability to say no or to stay away from the ungodly things that they do is what matters. I have a lot of friends who are not Christians, but I don't go with them to do ungodly things, I stay away. By now they know me well, and they are happy that I'm religious and that I spend time with God (even if they are of different beliefs) and they encourage me to go to the Church as well. Not all of them, but there are some who do. Some of them even try to change the plans to remove the ungodly things so I could go with them.

I try to have friends who can make me better, encourage me, push me to my limits and for that you need people who are smarter at what they do than you are, having friends with similar goals is a great thing. That's one reason why I think Christian friends are great, because they can encourage you a lot more than friends from other beliefs in your Christian life and walk with Christ. Which I think should be the most important goal for us. A non-Christian friend can encourage you as well, but only so much as encouraging your going to the Chruch etc.

Nothing wrong in having non-Christian friends, just make sure you don't end up doing the wrong things or get pulled down in your faith in Christ by them, instead, try to help them in knowing who Christ is. :)
 
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but how can you do that if your now strong in the word and faith brother what do you say about this bible passage




2 Corinthians 14:15 14Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?…
 

Channa

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I choosed to go to a non-christianschool to let my light shine. We may reflect God. I don't think it's good to have ónly christian friends. My nonchristianfriends help me to get stronger in my belief. But, what Madeingodsimage said; you need christian friends. Make sure that you've got some great people around you to lean on.
 
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That verse is talking about being bound to an unbeliever. I don't think that being friends with a non-Christian is being bound to them. Your relation with your non-Christian friends must not compromise your faith in Christ, and having friends who encourage you to sin is not wise as well, but all non-Christians are not like that. Let's see how Christ was with unbelievers -

Luke 5:29-32, "And Levi gave a big reception for Him in his house; and there was a great crowd of tax-gatherers and other people who were reclining at the table with them. 30 And the Pharisees and their scribes began grumbling at His disciples, saying, 'Why do you eat and drink with the tax-gatherers and sinners?' 31 And Jesus answered and said to them, 'It is not those who are well who need a physician, but those who are sick. 32 I have not come to call the righteous but sinners to repentance.'”

This is an important verse to understand. You can see that Christ didn't mind being around tax-gatherers and sinners. And read what Christ says, "I have not come to call righteous but the sinners to repentance". The righteous are the ones who think they are so righteous that they have no sin in them. The sinners are the ones who acknowledge their sin and are wanting repentance.

Matt. 11:19, "The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Behold, a gluttonous man and a drunkard, a friend of tax-gatherers and sinners!’ Yet wisdom is vindicated by her deeds.”

Here also you can see that Jesus kept the company of sinners. Jesus was not doing anything wrong, neither was he drunk or sinning just because He kept their company.
There are other examples as well of Jesus being with unbelievers. Jesus had attented marriages and I'm pretty sure there were unbelievers there as well. Neither has He ever pushed unbelievers away. What the verse in Corinthians talks about would probably be an intimate relationship with an unbeliever, like a girlfriend or a wife or so. That's how you could be bound to them, as far as I understand.
 
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you still are a christian, in more ways than you think. I mean, you do accept them without looking at their outer appearance or judging them for what they are. a lot of people also need people who can openly accept them and maybe you're one of those gifted people who can open their heart for the Lord into a brighter path in life. Who knows? You're a gift to those who are around you, let yourself shine. Share His words, show them what He does in your life and He will make sure that you'll leave something for them to ponder.
Just don't forget your God, don't forget who you are and what relationship you have with Him and your good to go no matter who you are with. you are definitely a blessing :)
 
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This video has helped me with your question:

[video=youtube;-8Vhh7iB7A8]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-8Vhh7iB7A8[/video]

Hope this helps you abundantly! :)
 
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I keep friends with people who are better than me...more athletic, more financially well-off, better academic friends...etc. It pushes me and drives me to be a better person and allows me the opportunity to network with other people...people I may have not gotten in contact with if it wasn't for these friends. it is even better that they are all christian so they push me to be a better follower of Christ. These are my friends. I am friendly however with those of different backgrounds...atheist, agnostic, buddhist...and I do call them my friends but I'm not going to open up to them all the way like I do my best friends, SO I pick people who are christians and like minded individuals like me that can push me to do greater and to be a greater person and I do the same.
I like your thoughts on having friends that u think are better than u
 
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you still are a christian, in more ways than you think. I mean, you do accept them without looking at their outer appearance or judging them for what they are. a lot of people also need people who can openly accept them and maybe you're one of those gifted people who can open their heart for the Lord into a brighter path in life. Who knows? You're a gift to those who are around you, let yourself shine. Share His words, show them what He does in your life and He will make sure that you'll leave something for them to ponder.
Just don't forget your God, don't forget who you are and what relationship you have with Him and your good to go no matter who you are with. you are definitely a blessing :)
:) ty 4 ur words .. hugs
 
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That verse is talking about being bound to an unbeliever. I don't think that being friends with a non-Christian is being bound to them. Your relation with your non-Christian friends must not compromise your faith in Christ, and having friends who encourage you to sin is not wise as well, but all non-Christians are not like that. Let's see how Christ was with unbelievers -

Luke 5:29-32, "And Levi gave a big reception for Him in his house; and there was a great crowd of tax-gatherers and other people who were reclining at the table with them. 30 And the Pharisees and their scribes began grumbling at His disciples, saying, 'Why do you eat and drink with the tax-gatherers and sinners?' 31 And Jesus answered and said to them, 'It is not those who are well who need a physician, but those who are sick. 32 I have not come to call the righteous but sinners to repentance.'”

This is an important verse to understand. You can see that Christ didn't mind being around tax-gatherers and sinners. And read what Christ says, "I have not come to call righteous but the sinners to repentance". The righteous are the ones who think they are so righteous that they have no sin in them. The sinners are the ones who acknowledge their sin and are wanting repentance.

Matt. 11:19, "The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Behold, a gluttonous man and a drunkard, a friend of tax-gatherers and sinners!’ Yet wisdom is vindicated by her deeds.”

Here also you can see that Jesus kept the company of sinners. Jesus was not doing anything wrong, neither was he drunk or sinning just because He kept their company.
There are other examples as well of Jesus being with unbelievers. Jesus had attented marriages and I'm pretty sure there were unbelievers there as well. Neither has He ever pushed unbelievers away. What the verse in Corinthians talks about would probably be an intimate relationship with an unbeliever, like a girlfriend or a wife or so. That's how you could be bound to them, as far as I understand.
Ty for that. .. just one thing though. ... i dont see them as sinners anymore than i am.
 
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but how can you do that if your now strong in the word and faith brother what do you say about this bible passage




2 Corinthians 14:15 14Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?…
If your view is right then im definitely not christian
 
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Ty for that. .. just one thing though. ... i dont see them as sinners anymore than i am.
I'm a sinner as well like everyone else in this world, I have done sins knowingly and unknowingly and I might have done a sin today as well.
I can only do my best to not commit any sins and stay away and repent for any sins I have done even unknowingly. But when it comes to Jesus, He has done no sin at all, hence I seperated Jesus and everyone else by calling them sinners or unbelievers. I'm included in that category of sinners.
 
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true but we have a deferent will we don't enjoy doing sins now we are deferent, set apart and not alike.
 
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Well just me but you should pick people that are Christian and will build your faith, they should show love to you and well love is kind caring puting others first ect and should like talking about God the bible ect my point is you should not hang around people who are not Christian and I believe that for a man to date a man / woman dating a woman is a sin an abomination and if you are friends with people who are not christen or just have a deferent religion they will drag you down to there level and that is a bad place to be I know I was there and its sad but it is said here in












Matthew 7:14 13"Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it. 14"For the gate is small and the way is narrow that leads to life, and there are few who find it.






so it does matter who you are friends with for they could drag you to hell if your not careful, how they dress as well matters look here in,









1 Timothy 2:9 9Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, 10but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness.…

remember all I want to do is share scripture and be some help hey you have friends here Zoii we are here for you.:)
Wow where do I start. Well I guess the point I was making is that I don't care about my friends sexuality. Wolf I know you have a different view...that's fine...but please don't refer to my gay friends as an abomination. They are smart n funny good looking and caring....they are not abominable.

My other point you referred to was how people dress....I know that how they dress wouldn't be approved of here so Im not going to argue the point other than saying...so whats that make me...coz I don't care and don't intend to change friends based on what they wear...actually you probably wouldn't approve of me either as I dress emo n sometimes goth.

Wolf I know a lot in CC agree with you. I don't care what religion they are either. I don't think that determines how good a friend they are to me.

To illustrate what I mean wolf...Ive commented in some forums n been torn to shreds for comments by CC Christians. So being a CC Christian doesn't necessarily mean your a nice person...... well that's my observation. So if I don't follow everything...do I assume that I am not Christian as CC Christians define it.
 
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true but we have a deferent will we don't enjoy doing sins now we are deferent, set apart and not alike.
Yes, your right. We are different and set apart from the worldly people. I never talked about me enjoying sin. I have fallen for sin like every human being has, but I had the privilege to know about Christ and I got saved. But I have not read and studied the whole Scripture, so I don't think I have read every law given to us by Jesus. Hence I can sin unknowingly. Even if I'm a scholar of the Bible and even if I'm really careful, how can I guarantee myself that I haven't done any sins today? That's why I ask God for forgiveness of sins that I have done unknowingly often everyday.

Also, just because we have been saved by Christ doesn't make us anyone better than the worldly people, the grace of God has saved us. We should be thankful to God for that and go out and try to spread the good news to others. And show our love to the worldly people and respect them equally. Like I said before, nothing wrong in being friends with unbelievers as long as our faith in Christ is not compromised.
 
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God judges your heart. If you know your friends are good people thats all that matters. I dont judge anyone either. Its not our place. It is up to us to be kind to everyone,regardless of race,religion, beliefs or behaviors. Maybe God put you in their life because he knew you could help them. You are right to think like you do. Do what you think GOD would smile down on you for, and you'll always know your right. :)
 
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God judges your heart. If you know your friends are good people thats all that matters. I dont judge anyone either. Its not our place. It is up to us to be kind to everyone,regardless of race,religion, beliefs or behaviors. Maybe God put you in their life because he knew you could help them. You are right to think like you do. Do what you think GOD would smile down on you for, and you'll always know your right. :)
OH ty vm...that makes me feel good