Age difference

[blue_ladybug]

Ladybug that's not wot I said. I actually said that at 16 hanging with a 20 is maybe a bigger deal then if you were 20 and he was 24.

Maybe put your own opinion across and resist incorrectly stating what other's opinions are.

I was referring to what you said about "the age difference isn't an issue, that it's only 4 years." YOUR words those are.. But it IS an issue because she's 16, a minor CHILD and he's 20-something, and a full-grown adult who CAN AND WOULD get charged with statutory rape of a minor.. So their age difference is definitely an issue. He could get in big trouble and go to jail, and her parents also would get in trouble for letting her be with an adult man..

 

[zoii]

I was referring to what you said about "the age difference isn't an issue, that it's only 4 years." YOUR words those are.. But it IS an issue because she's 16, a minor CHILD and he's 20-something, and a full-grown adult who CAN AND WOULD get charged with statutory rape of a minor.. So their age difference is definitely an issue. He could get in big trouble and go to jail, and her parents also would get in trouble for letting her be with an adult man..

Oh its not so clear cut here Ladybug. The law here recognises that a guy can be 19 and his gf say 17. Itd be ridiculous if you locked up every teen couple in this circumstance.... n the law here accounts for that. Plus your talking about statutory rape but she hadn't actually said she was having sexual relations...she mayb but its kinda heavy to presume she is. But really my point was....its not the age gap that's the prob...its that there is a big mind difference between 20 and 16. And like I said...geez Ive never had a bf..n not looking for one. so its just my thinking

 

[blue_ladybug]

Oh its not so clear cut here Ladybug. The law here recognises that a guy can be 19 and his gf say 17. Itd be ridiculous if you locked up every teen couple in this circumstance.... n the law here accounts for that. Plus your talking about statutory rape but she hadn't actually said she was having sexual relations...she mayb but its kinda heavy to presume she is. But really my point was....its not the age gap that's the prob...its that there is a big mind difference between 20 and 16. And like I said...geez Ive never had a bf..n not looking for one. so its just my thinking

Yes, but you need to remember that you're in a different country, and she's in America.. the laws regarding this are alot different here..

 

[Bate]

You can be right too adeelfrancis25.

 

[secularhermit]

Is it wrong for me to date at 22 or 20 year old when I'm 16

Hmmm!

Several years ago, I fell in love with a young girl of 16 (when I was 9 years older).

According to what I have seen, in that age, no sound or enduring commmitment could be predicted to be happyly married.

Of course, there are exceptions to it (but I have seen them rarely)

 

[secularhermit]

Depending on what state you live in, it's likely that it's legally fishy.

However, I would have a problem with it ethically because a young man in his 20's is in a completely different life place than a young woman who is 16.

Now I know that some young people will say, "I'm very mature for my age," and that might be true. But maturity and life development aren't the same. A mature 16-year-old girl cannot understand what it's like to be a 50-year-old menopausal woman because she is simply lacking the life experience to get it. That's not a slam on anyone's abilities or intelligence.

Additionally, I'd be curious about why a 20-something young man is dating a 16-year-old and not a woman in his own peer group. When you get to age 22, you'll look back at your 16-year-old self and get how kind of slimey it seems for men that age to pursue very young women.

There is a trend in our culture for men to pursue very young women. There are lots of reasons why this trend exists. Part of it has to do with the pornification of the larger culture and the sexualization of younger and younger people.

Honestly, I would have some serious concerns. Additionally, I think you should maybe try to discuss this with your parents. I imagine they would be concerned about their 16-year-old daughter dating a man in his 20s.

Adding nothing and removing nothing from what you have said, in Venezuela I have seen parents challenging their kids to get a gf or a bf in kindergardens (just to learn how to be bragging).

My sister{ s son, at his school, was "wooed" at by several little girls.
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As shocking as it is, teens are indulged in things that should be done in adulthood only... That´s why I ran out from FB