[OPINIONS] "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord."

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BrutalSweet38

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Hi guys, my name is Mary and im new here. Im 15 years old, im getting homeschooled and I have a question about something my mother taught me today. I dont get what she meant. She told me about Ephesians 5:22 which says "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord".
What does that mean?

Please help?
 
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Maybe this is just me.. But I really don't think a just going into highschool student should be wondering about this. Marriage is a long way away.. But basically it means a married couple works together. Read what Ephesians 5:20 and 5:21 have to say, since most people seem to forget those passages.
 
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PeacefulWarrior

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What jsr1221 said and also: 5:25 Husbands, love. The emphasis in the passage is not the husband’s authority to govern, but his responsibility to love.
 
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BrutalSweet38

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Thanks for your quick answer, and those are two great passages! I know that im not going to be married too soon. But what if I get a boyfriend in highschool? Should I submit to him like the Bible says?
 
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BrutalSweet38 said:
Thanks for your quick answer, and those are two great passages! I know that im not going to be married too soon. But what if I get a boyfriend in highschool? Should I submit to him like the Bible says?
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I think there are more important things for you to focus on than just getting a boyfriend. Highschool years, you're starting to find yourself. College you're continuing to find yourself. Even after, you're still finding yourself. Basically, don't worry about submission. If you're that concerned, talk to your youth pastor. If you're not involved at church, I would try to find one and join a youth group.
 
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PeacefulWarrior

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BrutalSweet38 said:
Thanks for your quick answer, and those are two great passages! I know that im not going to be married too soon. But what if I get a boyfriend in highschool? Should I submit to him like the Bible says?
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Again -- I agree with what jsr1221 said -- and NO! Run away! :)
 
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By the way, you might want to change your age, as it says you're 25. Not sure how you would go about doing that. Probably reach out to a mod on here.
 
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BrutalSweet38 said:
Thanks for your quick answer, and those are two great passages! I know that im not going to be married too soon. But what if I get a boyfriend in highschool? Should I submit to him like the Bible says?
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No,you do not submit to a boyfriend.The Bible does not say that.That is a discussion for marriage.
 
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blondieindahouse

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BrutalSweet38 said:
Hi guys, my name is Mary and im new here. Im 15 years old, im getting homeschooled and I have a question about something my mother taught me today. I dont get what she meant. She told me about Ephesians 5:22 which says "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord".
What does that mean?

Please help?
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You say you are 15 but yet under your name your age clearly states 25. Was that a mistake?
 
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Rather than write this or something similar again I pulled my comment from another thread with the same question.

Of coarse marriage is an equal partnership. The scripture does say in Eph.5:22-23 that wives should submit to their husbands but it also says in Eph.5:21 that husbands and wives are to submit to one another. It's not about the husband having the rule over a woman. This same chapter also says that men are to love their wives and give themselves for her just as Christ loved the church and gave himself. When this relationship functions in this manner everything works out perfectly. A woman isn't to rule over her husband but at the same time a man has to be willing to sacrifice everything for his wife.

Men need to be leaders. That's the role God created them for. That however doesn't mean that a woman can never lead. What it means more is that a man will feel less like a man when he doesn't lead and a wise woman will let him lead as she gives him godly wisdom and support. A man needs to be the hero of his wife, and a woman needs to be the one he rescues. It's just the way God set up the relationship, but when both properly fill their role both are fulfilled by it more than any other role they might play.
 
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Yeah, like right after that verse men are commanded to love their wife, as Christ loved us to the point that He gave His life for us.

Women are commanded to let the man lead, and men are commanded to put the wife and her needs before himself, really even to the point of giving his life for her :p Dont be deceived by the rebellious world, they will give you one verse without the other to villainize God, and make His will seem like evil nonsense. If both the man and the woman are doing what God wanted, its a wonderful path for all of us :p

And be weary of the wolves in sheeps clothing, who twist Gods words to fulfill their own will.
 
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Here's some great verses that talk a lot about it...

Ephesians 5:21-33

[SUP]21 [/SUP]Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
[SUP]22 [/SUP]Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. [SUP]23 [/SUP]For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. [SUP]24 [/SUP]Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
[SUP]25 [/SUP]Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her [SUP]26 [/SUP]to make her holy, cleansing[SUP][b][/SUP] her by the washing with water through the word, [SUP]27 [/SUP]and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. [SUP]28 [/SUP]In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. [SUP]29 [/SUP]After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— [SUP]30 [/SUP]for we are members of his body. [SUP]31 [/SUP]“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[SUP][c][/SUP] [SUP]32 [/SUP]This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. [SUP]33 [/SUP]However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

^^^

On the surface, God has given husbands the responsibility to lead and care for their families... like Jesus. I highlighted verse 25 to show you what I mean exactly... Jesus loved the church enough to die for the church. Likewise, husbands are suppose to love their wives enough die for his wife.

A deeper meaning... it seems like marriage is an image of God. A husband and wife acting out their roles is like how God the father and Jesus Christ interact as-well.

My opinion: I think it's something God could've easily set up to give us an idea of what God looks like... I also think it fulfills men and women needs. Verse 33 I'd say shows us what women need... LOVE and what men need... RESPECT. While granted.. I think both men and women want love and respect... I believe men have a deeper need for respect... and women have a deeper need for love.
 
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