I'm A Bad Brother

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Levichevett

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I am a really bad brother like I'm so dependent on him and I should stop but I need him. I rely on him so much. When I'm depressed or high or angry he's the one who has to deal with it all and he shouldn't have to. His fiancé is pregnant with twins and he told her that he can't move into her apartment with her because he has to be here with me until I get better but I don't think I'm going to get better. It's wrong he should be with her. I wish I wasnt like this. He's always been there for me and I don't think I've ever given him anything good back. Sometimes it feels like things would be better for him if I wasn't born.
 
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Practice-English

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Why don't you see a social worker or a simply therapy?
 

mar09

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Levi, i wish u wouldnt even call urself that. Youre so young to be so negative. I remember there was a time when i read smething on handwritings, wc arent necessarily true after all, that ur negative, scientific, or what or what just bec. ur handwriting is like this or that. I really wish u'd see the light and how Jesus saves. Ive really had some negative traits and memories i ask God to erase, and u know others just feel for u here. But it is the Lord who will do the miracles. I ask, not just for u, but others thinking we;re not a good child, bro or sis, Help me believe that God knows and will do what is best. Wish we'd all come as a child with the faith of one. May God help and bless you in this situation.
 
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MarvelousLight

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Hi Levichevett,

It's normal to feel the way you are right now, as an adolescent, you're still developing emotionally. You need a lot of nurturing as well as wise counsel at this stage in your life. This is a time for you to grow as a person, to learn to control your own emotions, and to solve your own problems.

First, have you ever tried depending on God? Whatever you are feeling right now, whether it is sadness or anger, tell God about it first. Go to God and see what He has to say in the Bible about our emotions. I will post some scripture verses below related to anger as well as depression here.

Also, you may also want to start a journal, and begin writing down your own emotions, and what you are going through the day. Ask yourself, why do you feel this way, and should you feel this way? How can I solve this problem? Reflect over your own thoughts and think about the situation. After thinking about it yourself, see if you can solve your own problems. You will learn how to take care of yourself without depending on others for everything. However, there is a time, that we should depend on others, when we need guidance to problems we can't solve.

If you feel like you are still troubled or conflicted in your soul, find someone you can talk to, to share your problem so that they can help you. Maybe a guidance counselor at school, a good friend, or an older mentor from church. Your brother is just one person, but it is also good to have even more. As it says in the Bible, for many "plans fail when there is no counsel, but with many advisers they succeed" (Proverbs 15:22). You need to walk in the path of godly counsel from Christians. Do you go to church? Find the youth pastor or a trusted elder to talk to.

Lastly, your brother loves you a lot, and you will get better. I think he is learning a lot through you about what young people go through, and it will help him as to how he should raise his children one day. So, don't think this way about yourself. Remember, God created you for a reason, He loves you, and as good plan for your life.

Scripture Verses:

Anger

James 1:19-20

“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.”

Proverbs 29:11
“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.”

Ecclesiastes 7:9

“Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.”

Proverbs 15:1
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Psalm 4:4
“In your anger do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent.”

Depression

Psalm 42:11
“Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.”

Psalm 54:4
“Surely God is my help; the Lord is the one who sustains me.”

Philippians 4:8
“Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

Jeremiah 29:11
“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’”

And whenever you feel depress, listen to God's music! He lifts you up~

Isaiah 40:31
But those who trust in the LORD will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.

[video=youtube;yubLGTOcm8c]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yubLGTOcm8c[/video]


- MarvelousLight
 
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Levichevett

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I dont trust other people. I dont talk to them.
 
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Levichevett

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I dont think Gods here anymore
 
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I am a really bad brother like I'm so dependent on him and I should stop but I need him. I rely on him so much. When I'm depressed or high or angry he's the one who has to deal with it all and he shouldn't have to. His fiancé is pregnant with twins and he told her that he can't move into her apartment with her because he has to be here with me until I get better but I don't think I'm going to get better. It's wrong he should be with her. I wish I wasnt like this. He's always been there for me and I don't think I've ever given him anything good back. Sometimes it feels like things would be better for him if I wasn't born.
You might have a weak constitution and co-dependent, but that scarcely makes you a bad brother. :)
 
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AgeofKnowledge

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His behavior might be making him a "bad" brother to an extent though which is why he should seek to change it. I recommend he look at some support groups. They have Celebrate Recovery and secular groups all free to attend. Many people have altered their behavior for the better by attending and participating in free to attend support groups including myself (e.g. yours truly).


You might have a weak constitution and co-dependent, but that scarcely makes you a bad brother. :)
 
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popeye

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I was the same way when young. Self centered brat. Emotionally unstable. Emotionally centered.

The cure; Get born again.

Alternative band aid would be to get around some real men,that will either inspire you or physically force you out of your little selfish world into a mode called "survival" (no work,no eat)
 
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popeye

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You are holding your family hostage.

You do not love them,or you would not put them through this.
 
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JustAnotherUser

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I would advise on seeking professional help in order to know how you can find alternatives than to have your brother by your side all the time. Nothing wrong with being close to siblings, since not everyone has that opportunity to be close and get along all the time... But your brother also has to begin his own life just as you will eventually with yours. Being overly reliant on someone, whether if it's family, friends, relationships, etc. is not healthy if you are going to need to be dependent 24/7 on them. He can be there if you agree to seek help, but if it interferes with his own life and upcoming marriage and family then yes there is a problem. You can get through this once you admit that you need help, and if needed, let your brother take you to where you need to go and go on from there yourself. I'm sorry for what ever it is that you are going through that makes you so dependent.
 
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popeye

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Hey Levi,
Drink this;
[video=youtube;f-8ygXr2sQQ]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-8ygXr2sQQ[/video]