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Please help me. I don't really know how to put this but I am a horrible Christian. (I don't even deserve to call myself that) I'm 16 and I know close to NOTHING. I haven't been to church regularly since I was very young. I only go a few times a year if my grandma decided to take me. But I hate church so much because I have to go to childrens church and when I go there I just feel stupid and embarrassed. I don't know how to pray, I barely know some basic things from the Bible... but I just feel so awful for this I feel like a traitor. My life is going so bad right now from mental illness, bad home life, and problems with school it feels so hopeless and I wanted to be able to turn to God but I cant because I dont even know how and I dont even know if its ok for me to do that at this point. Is it too late? I need advice.. thank you for reading all the way through
 
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Going to church has nothing to do with being a Christian.....yes it is good to fellowship with believers but it does not guarantee salvation...and people will try to guilt you into going to church saying your not saved if you don't that's complete crap....I don't go to church but have a great relationship with Christ.....and live for him the best I can.....What you can do is read some psalms and just tell God through prayer how you feel....if your unsure about your salvation,....confess repent of your sins and then ask Jesus to truly come into your heart and change your life....small steps toward God will cause big changes in your life eventually.....
 
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What mental illness do you suffer from? That could provide insight into your behavior and may help you find others who may deal with it.
 
levi85

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Just believe Jesus. keep praying to God and read Bible. You will than know what to do?
Lord please bless!
 
AmberJeanetteGardner

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Just talk to God like a friend. Tell Him what's on your heart! And take the time to read the Gospels in the New Testament so you can learn for yourself what Jesus said. Also, read Proverbs because it's Wisdom to live life!!
 
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apple said:
Please help me. I don't really know how to put this but I am a horrible Christian. (I don't even deserve to call myself that) I'm 16 and I know close to NOTHING. I haven't been to church regularly since I was very young. I only go a few times a year if my grandma decided to take me. But I hate church so much because I have to go to childrens church and when I go there I just feel stupid and embarrassed. I don't know how to pray, I barely know some basic things from the Bible... but I just feel so awful for this I feel like a traitor. My life is going so bad right now from mental illness, bad home life, and problems with school it feels so hopeless and I wanted to be able to turn to God but I cant because I dont even know how and I dont even know if its ok for me to do that at this point. Is it too late? I need advice.. thank you for reading all the way through
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Weird that you have to go to the childrens church. No wonder you don't like it. Try to find a nice church where they can help you and teach you the basics. It's never too late. Have you ever asked Him to forgive your sins and come in your heart?
 
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Talking to God (praying) is sometimes scary because to do that we have to look into the ugliness of our hearts; but its like talking to a friend or parent, the only difference is God ALWAYS has time, NEVER gets bored, and REALLY cares! Try reading through the Bible yourself; an accurate, easy-to-read translation is the ESV (English Standard Version). If you cannot find another church to go to, simply ask to stay in the church service when they tell you about the children's church.

It is normal to feel like a bad Christian, even the best Christians had times in their lives when they felt like failures. The more you get to know God, the more you see your sin and the more dirty you feel; but the amazing thing? God saved YOU from that! Anytime you do something sinful or feel like a bad christian, God has already forgiven that. He's an awesome God, and he is just waiting for you to search the scriptures to get to know Him better.

No matter where you are in life, no matter how you feel, remember that He loved you enough to send the most precious thing in the whole universe--His Son--to die for you, so you could be close to Him! I hope you feel encouraged by this post, because God loves YOU!
 
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It's never too late to turn to God. If we're in a place of shame we should still turn to God. That's like a child who made a mistake and turns to its parents. God is there to reconcile you. Take baby steps and God will lead you the rest of the way. Start with talking to God (which is a form of praying as well). Talk to him as you have to us. Same way. Definitely go to church as much as you can. One of the devil's biggest trick is to make one feel undeserving. How you can throw his crap back into his face is by going to church, that tells him "ha, I'm not perfect but I always have a place with my Father". Start there and little by little more and more will open up for you. Just doing those simple things will lead you to reading your word etc.
 
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A good place to start is always with sincere prayer and in-depth Bible reading. Also, no it isn't too late. With Jesus, so long as your heart can believe and your tongue can confess, there is always a chance of repentance and redemption. That's why they call the Gospel the "Good News". Although I have absolutely no idea what kind of illness is attacking you, or what is going on with home/school, I can assure you that not only is God bigger and cares lovingly about you, but He will get closer to you if you seek him earnestly with your whole heart.

James 4:8 says "Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you." But also remember that bad company can corrupt you, so stay away from anyone who's a bad influence if you can help it. Also, if you know anyone you can trust that is willing to give you "sheltering arms" and encouragement in Christ, so to speak, seek that person's aid and get as much help as you can. Remember, you may not be able to change those around you, but you can choose to change yourself, or even better yet let Jesus change you. The fact that you cried for help means that you are seeking. Seeking is always better than giving up, because it shows there is greater hope for you than most. But God can help even those who have given up, so hold on here! A good place for you to start in the Bible right now is the Gospel of John. Read up in John... the whole thing start to finish. Add in some Psalms here and there, it will give you hope. Again, seek encouragers and helpers in Christ and ask them to lead you closer to God (*but beware false prophets, as there are many), and stay away from toxic people. Christ loves you. God Bless... ;)
 
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apple said:
Please help me. I don't really know how to put this but I am a horrible Christian. (I don't even deserve to call myself that) I'm 16 and I know close to NOTHING. I haven't been to church regularly since I was very young. I only go a few times a year if my grandma decided to take me. But I hate church so much because I have to go to childrens church and when I go there I just feel stupid and embarrassed. I don't know how to pray, I barely know some basic things from the Bible... but I just feel so awful for this I feel like a traitor. My life is going so bad right now from mental illness, bad home life, and problems with school it feels so hopeless and I wanted to be able to turn to God but I cant because I dont even know how and I dont even know if its ok for me to do that at this point. Is it too late? I need advice.. thank you for reading all the way through
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Say bubba.... Listen.... First thing is stop feelin guilty.... Stop blaming yourself..... Breathe...... Nobody in here is perfect or ever will be..... We all fall out the saddle and hit hard sometimes but it's just a fall... It didn't kill us..... God is God...... It don't matter what you think you ain't done or what you have done HIS love don't EVER change..... It's unconditional..... And Jesus, well.... See Jesus already knows how ya feel and to make sure you know how HE feels he did a little thing called Calvary so you don't ever have to worry about being able to talk to HIM or not.... Don't worry about being proper, or cordial or anything else.... Right now, just talk to HIM... make sure you understand the Bible you got, if not just for now find one you can understand and then later you can move up..... It's gonna be alright bubba..... I promise you........ God bless
 
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Colt45Bullet

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You and I are in the same boat. My PM is always open to you if you want to talk.
 
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apple said:
Please help me. I don't really know how to put this but I am a horrible Christian. (I don't even deserve to call myself that) I'm 16 and I know close to NOTHING. I haven't been to church regularly since I was very young. I only go a few times a year if my grandma decided to take me. But I hate church so much because I have to go to childrens church and when I go there I just feel stupid and embarrassed. I don't know how to pray, I barely know some basic things from the Bible... but I just feel so awful for this I feel like a traitor. My life is going so bad right now from mental illness, bad home life, and problems with school it feels so hopeless and I wanted to be able to turn to God but I cant because I dont even know how and I dont even know if its ok for me to do that at this point. Is it too late? I need advice.. thank you for reading all the way through
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I feel what u feel ,apple u are not stupid,make ur family glad with u.. cos u are not stupid... i have the same ages like u and i ever feel that. Make a changes and get up. God love u,He want u strong from this problem. Remind: U ARE AMAZING, U ARE NOT STUPID AND NEVER GIVE UP!
 
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