Well, Addicted again...

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laoshanlung

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Pornography is a real jerk, ya' know? Seems like everyone I know was addicted at one point or another. For me, it's been almost seven years of beating the hell outta' myself for being such a failure. A failure to me, as I honesty believed I was done a year ago. A failure to my mom, who believed that I could, with God's help, pull myself out of the gutter and into the light. And worst of all, a failure to my King, who gave His all to save me, but I seem to have deliberately greased myself up and slipped out from his grasp. Believe me, if I had my way, I'd already be cured. But I guess that I'm just a worthless animal, through and through. I don't want to be like this, always hating myself and pointlessly apologizing to God for my wrongdoings. I wanna be free, I just don't know how to be.
 
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I honestly think I have an answer that works. If you are serious about it, you can do some easy searching on this forum and find what I am talking about.
 

mailmandan

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A poll conducted by "one of the world's most visited Christian websites" indicates a surprising number of Christians are getting addicted to pornography.

"The poll results indicate that 50% of all Christian men and 20% of all Christian women are addicted to pornography.

The group defines "addicted" as applied to pornography as use on an ongoing basis.

"We are seeing an escalation to the problem in both men and women who regularly attend church," said Bill Cooper, President of ChristiaNet.com.

"No one is immunized against the vice-grip clutches of sexual addictive behaviors," reads a release issued by the site. "The people who struggle with the repeated pursuit of sexual gratification include church members, deacons, staff, and yes, even clergy."

How many Christians (especially) men can honestly say, "whenever I am tempted to lust, I NEVER give in." I have 100% conquered that sin. No problem?

If David, who was “a man after God’s own heart,” and many other strong men and women of faith yielded to sexual temptation, it could happen to any of us. Pornography may be the new addiction of this new century. Researchers are finding that when people indulge in porn, they release powerful chemicals in their brain and body. Mark Kastleman, author of The Drug of the New Millennium, said, "There are a growing number of therapists and psychologists who are saying that this is as addictive as cocaine," or alcohol, or even heroin. He explained that, when people view porn, "It causes the brain to release what we call endogenous drugs or endogenous chemicals. 'Endogenous' meaning 'produced from within.' So where cocaine or alcohol seek to mimic the brain's natural chemicals, pornography releases the real deal. And so we have things like adrenaline, epinephrine, ACTH." :eek:

Due to our fallen nature, we will have to deal with the temptation to lust until we die. The temptation to lust will come in many forms including ungodly sexual appetites; and there are lusts, such as the lust of power, fame or position. We must rely on the power of the Holy Spirit inside us to overcome lust every day. No matter the form of lust we face, we can be assured that we have a High Priest and Advocate with the Father who "understands every weakness of ours" and "was tempted in every way that we are. But He did not sin" (Hebrews 4:15; 1 John 2:1). 1 Corinthians 6:18 says to flee sexual immorality! I can tell you that the first step in giving up porn addiction is that you have to REALLY WANT TO GIVE IT UP. Pour your heart out to Jesus and ask Him for the power to give it up. You can't simply suppress this sin in your own strength and give it up solely in your own power.
 
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Addictions are coping skills and are an attempt to make you feel better....if even for a second. I would bet that every time you feel the urge to view porn there is something that you are feeling insecure about. Just like in the garden when satan made Adam and Eve feel insecure about their relationship with God. So...when you are tempted, use it as a reminder to ask yourself what is going on with you that you want to escape from.
 

laoshanlung

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Huh. Well, I can at least identify my insecurities, but I don't think I can do anything about them, so I'm not sure that this strategy will do anything more than make me feel even worse about myself.

Also, what happenned to my title? I could've sworn that I had used a strong word to express my disappointment, but it got edited out. Oh, yeah! The moderators did it. Whatever...
 
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Huh. Well, I can at least identify my insecurities, but I don't think I can do anything about them, so I'm not sure that this strategy will do anything more than make me feel even worse about myself.

Also, what happenned to my title? I could've sworn that I had used a strong word to express my disappointment, but it got edited out. Oh, yeah! The moderators did it. Whatever...
Well if you know your insecurities but don't speak truth to them and instead head for the quick fix they will never go away but in fact will only compound themselves.
 

laoshanlung

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Wait... what do you mean, exactly?
 

blue_ladybug

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Huh. Well, I can at least identify my insecurities, but I don't think I can do anything about them, so I'm not sure that this strategy will do anything more than make me feel even worse about myself.

Also, what happenned to my title? I could've sworn that I had used a strong word to express my disappointment, but it got edited out. Oh, yeah! The moderators did it. Whatever...
The swear got edited out of the title because I reported it. Swearing on here can get you banned. You're lucky you were'nt.. You don't need to swear to get your point across.
 
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Wait... what do you mean, exactly?
Insecurities have their basis in a lie about yourself that you believe to be true. Speaking truth to insecurities can help you heal from them. For example, it is easy at times to feel unloved and then based on that, tell yourself "I must be unlovable"....so a person walks around believing that lie and it becomes a self fulfilling prophesy about themselves.....that they are unlovable.
 

laoshanlung

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In case you need to know what my insecurity is... well, here.

I have a massive crush on a beautiful girl at my school. But she's a year ahead of me (and she's a senior, to make things worse), she's probably way TOO beautiful and pleasant for a guy like me (I'm really shyand clumsy, and I swear my glasses are at least a half-inch thick), and I know for a fact that if she even remotely liked me, she would've asked me out already.

That's my insecurity. That's what makes me feel sick to my stomach, and keeps me up at night while I beat on myself for being such a loser. And, heck, I actually feel that, half of the time, I SUBJECT myself to porn against my own will, just because I hate myself for being a cowardous idiot who will never get into any kind of relationship whatsoever, heaven forbid with the best (yeah, you heard me, the BEST)) girl at my school.
 

blue_ladybug

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Well if you know your insecurities but don't speak truth to them and instead head for the quick fix they will never go away but in fact will only compound themselves.
​He means that if you don't deal with your insecurities, they will only get worse.. Kind of like doing nothing when you're bleeding severely. If you don't cover the wound or get medical help, most likely you gonna bleed to death.. Speak truth from the bible to your insecurities. In other words, rebuke them away from you. :)
 

laoshanlung

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I'm really sorry LadyBlue, but that sounds like gibberish to me. Can you perhaps explain it in a more logical fashion?
 
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In case you need to know what my insecurity is... well, here.

I have a massive crush on a beautiful girl at my school. But she's a year ahead of me (and she's a senior, to make things worse), she's probably way TOO beautiful and pleasant for a guy like me (I'm really shyand clumsy, and I swear my glasses are at least a half-inch thick), and I know for a fact that if she even remotely liked me, she would've asked me out already.

That's my insecurity. That's what makes me feel sick to my stomach, and keeps me up at night while I beat on myself for being such a loser. And, heck, I actually feel that, half of the time, I SUBJECT myself to porn against my own will, just because I hate myself for being a cowardous idiot who will never get into any kind of relationship whatsoever, heaven forbid with the best (yeah, you heard me, the BEST)) girl at my school.
Ya man...that's tough. There is this guy that I really admire who plays guitar. He has an instrumental album out called "Revenge of the Nerd" and he has his grade school nerdy pic of himself on the cover. The guy is an absolutely killer guitar player....he's played for many big name artists as a touring and studio guitarist. The guy was a total nerd in his formative years but he worked hard instead of wallowing in self pity. Do yourself a HUGE favor and use this time to develop a skill that when you are an adult will make you irresistible to the right woman.
 

laoshanlung

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Hmmm... Skillz... What kind of skillz... Could I git gud at... Maybe time to pick up piano again? Wait, that's not enjoyable at all... Darn it, I don't know!!

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Fencing. Go to college, get mad fencing skills. That'll do it. But until then... what?
 
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Hmmm... Skillz... What kind of skillz... Could I git gud at... Maybe time to pick up piano again? Wait, that's not enjoyable at all... Darn it, I don't know!!
Plan for your future. Youre gonna have to do something to support yourself. Try to pick something you enjoy and study it...get proficient at it.
 

laoshanlung

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Crud, this just gets harder as it goes! First I have to get good at something "cool", and then... study accounting? Culinary arts? Sheet metal? You're killin' me here.
 

laoshanlung

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Wait a minute... why the heck am I on here, anyway? I just quit posting on reddit for a reason that applies to this site as well!! Thanks for the guidance that you've given me, CC, but I've got a life to live. See ya!!
 
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Crud, this just gets harder as it goes! First I have to get good at something "cool", and then... study accounting? Culinary arts? Sheet metal? You're killin' me here.

Or you can just sit in your room and build your upper body strength on your dates with Pamela Anderson and regret wasting all that time in 10 or 20 or 40 years.
 

blue_ladybug

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I'm really sorry LadyBlue, but that sounds like gibberish to me. Can you perhaps explain it in a more logical fashion?

If you don't do anything about your insecurity, it will only get worse.. You still following me? :) If you like that girl, try talking to her. Keep in mind that beauty really is only skin-deep. Try to find something the two of you have in common.
 

laoshanlung

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Pamela Anderson? She's got NOTHING on this girl. She's a much more kind and respectable person, and way prettier to boot. I don't have the time nor the means to incorporate a substantial excersize regimen into my life, either. I'm a straight-A student, and I don't care to learn about trades like welding or accounting. I'm studying hard, and doing well, but there's just this big freaking gap in my life where relationships would normally go in anyone else's. God never designed men to be alone.

Also, I know that beauty isn't everything. We're both decent people, that I know. But as far as interests go, I'm just a huge nerd, so I'm practically doomed in that note. That's why I hate myself. I only fit in with outcasts, for whom I don't care deeply. I hate who I am because I just don't fit in with the people that I care about the most (heck, it's even hard to fit in with my own family, much less my classmates). I guess I just wish that I was born a different person. One that was never introduced to video games, wasn't homeschooled until he was 10, and had boundless confidence around other people.

Now, what can I do to change myself? Suicide wouldn't be so bad if I could be with God afterward, but I don't think that would be the case. Aaaand... that's all I can think of. All I can think of, and it's impossible anyway. Dang it.