Stealing

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JamesHurst

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The other day I took some of my parents money without asking because my best friend needed it to buy a pregnancy test. It was wrong to steal it from them and I shouldn't have done it. I know I need to tell them I did it but I don't want to tell them why I needed the money because I promised my friend I wouldn't and she has the right for it to stay private. But I shouldn't lie to them either so I'm not sure what I can do other then just tell them. I used to steal from them a lot but I'm meant to be better now so their going to get really mad at me over this. I guess it's deserved though.
 
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You need to come clean and tell your parents what you did. I don't believe that your friend has a 'right' for the matter to stay private. Hopefully, the test came back negative.
 
Willie-T

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She got herself pregnant. Why couldn't she steal her own money from HER parents? I think you may have more of a problem, yourself, than you think you do.
 
JesusLives

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You are a kid and kids make mistakes tell your parents that you took the money. If they ask you why tell them the reason it is far better that you own up to what you did and offer to pay them back the next time money comes your way via gift from grandparent or if you mow a lawn or something...

If the girl is pregnant people are going to find out anyway and in this case sooner rather than later is best. Remember your parents love you and only want the best for you. Your honestly will go a long way with them secrets and lies tend to tick parents off....but going to them will soften the punishment usually.
 
blue_ladybug

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First of all, I agree with the advice of everyone here. Second, your friend is a minor, so therefore does NOT have the "right" to keep this quiet. People WILL find out about it, I mean it will be pretty obvious when her belly starts swelling up. Do the right thing and tell your parents and accept the punishment. And if you're the one who (possibly) knocked up this girl, then I suggest you stop having sex, or use a condom. But preferably, stop having sex. Most stores won't sell pregnancy tests to minors anyway.
 
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psychomom

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James, honey, i know this may not make sense yet, but your folks love you so much you're being taught at home.

by and large, parents will do just about anything for their dear children, and this includes forgiveness.

you may take some heat for what you did (and that's because they love you, too), but everyone will be better off for your confession of the truth.

they're gonna love you forever, no matter what. :)
 
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The truth is never the problem.
 
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psychomom

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Sirk said:
The truth is never the problem.
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agreed! :)

but at that age, under your parents, it surely can seem that way. (i vaguely recall :rolleyes:)
 
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psychomom said:
agreed! :)

but at that age, under your parents, it surely can seem that way. (i vaguely recall :rolleyes:)
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Ya I get it. A lot depends on how it's been received, encouraged or modeled in the past as to the willingness of the child to reveal it.
 
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Tinuviel

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Your parents love you. Sure, they're not going to be happy, but it is the right thing to tell them anyway. We are never told to do things right because we feel like it, but rather because Christ died for us and we are now supposed to live for Him. Do not add deception to theft, as tempting as it might be. Pray for strength and come clean to your parents.
 
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Be open honest and vulnerable. This obviously bothers you so your conscience is working.....that is a good thing. Now be brave and tell your parents the truth. It is our job as parents to protect you and no matter how your parents respond that is what their intention is......to keep you safe. I really have to say to you.....way to go! For coming here and seeking advice.
 
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Ultimatum77

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Tell your parents it's the right thing to do about both the money and the girl. At your age you need to earn your parents trust and telling the truth is paramount to earning that. I always asked my parents before taking money for anything and as a result they trust me much with money and a lot of other things. My sister on the other hand took money without asking and my parents trust her less with money or getting things done like picking up a something they need at the store b/c she's frivolous with money and responsibility.

Trust the number one quality a person can have in imo....b/c it's so hard to buildup but very easy to lose with one screw-up!
 
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JamesHurst

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I've told them about all of it. They said that they don't mind about the money because I owned up to it but they've banned me from hanging with her because they think she's a bad influence. She's not though, she told me what happened and it was just a dumb mistake. The test did come back negative so it's over now and I think she's learnt not to get herself into that situation again. I guess my parents are just worried about me but she's my best friend, I'm not going to stop talking to her. They know that they can't control that anyway.
 
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JamesHurst said:
I've told them about all of it. They said that they don't mind about the money because I owned up to it but they've banned me from hanging with her because they think she's a bad influence. She's not though, she told me what happened and it was just a dumb mistake. The test did come back negative so it's over now and I think she's learnt not to get herself into that situation again. I guess my parents are just worried about me but she's my best friend, I'm not going to stop talking to her. They know that they can't control that anyway.
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I think your parents do need to understand that the last thing she needs is to be labeled by their actions of restricting you from knowing her. But, YOU also have to understand that there is a very good likelihood that the next time such a test is taken, you will be just as nervous about the outcome as she will be. (You get my drift, potential "Daddy?")

And, proof of that is the very pleasant and protective thoughts running through your mind this very minute after reading what I just wrote.
 
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psychomom

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Willie-T said:
I think your parents do need to understand that the last thing she needs is to be labeled by their actions of restricting you from knowing her. But, YOU also have to understand that there is a very good likelihood that the next time such a test is taken, you will be just as nervous about the outcome as she will be. (You get my drift, potential "Daddy?")

And, proof of that is the very pleasant and protective thoughts running through your mind this very minute after reading what I just wrote.
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although i agree with you, Willie, i'm not sure James was the boy who was responsible for the quandary the young lady was in?

he said she's his best friend... dunno what that means in modern parlance, but it used to mean just a friend.

and James, please think about it... mum and dad forgave you... do you really want to add rebellion to their authority?
we can't decide that for you, but just think about it.
 
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JamesHurst

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I didn't do anything this time and I never would. One night stands don't really appeal to me, I'd rather be with someone I love and who I know loves me and if it's like that then we would be able to do things the right way, so I won't ever let myself be in a situation like that with her or anyone else. And as for revelling against my parents, I think their wrong to not let me see her and as long as I lay low about it for the next day's they'll probably have forgotten about it the new rule and things will go back to normal.
 
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Tinuviel

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JamesHurst said:
And as for revelling against my parents, I think their wrong to not let me see her and as long as I lay low about it for the next day's they'll probably have forgotten about it the new rule and things will go back to normal.
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The question is, will your conscience let you? A seared conscience is a terrible thing to posses, don't further harden it by directly disobeying your parents. Remember, the commandment doesn't say "honor your father and mother, but only as long as they remember the rule".
 
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wwjd_kilden

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Hmmm

What if you suggest inviting her over (while your parents are at home) ?
 
blue_ladybug

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If they don't want you to hang out with her so often, then don't hang out with her so frequently anymore. Surely you can survive without seeing her ALL the time. lol
 
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