My family are pushing me too hard
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Lets put this into perspective. You did things you shouldnt have that could have ruined your life forever, then you are offended when the chickens come home to roost. Then your offended when your mom tries to help you. Your only 14 years old, with very limited life experience. When I was 14, I didnt have a say in my home. I respected my parents, and did what I was told. You mom is trying to help you. Hopefully one day, you can see that
your mom loves you. she cares about you. she wants what is best for you.
your mom's responsibility is to raise you to become a responsible adult. she wants you to make good choices. each choice we make has a consequence. you realized that the choice you made was not a good one, which is growth on your part. but now, you must face the consequences of that choice. discipline is to correct us. it is to help us make better choices in the future.
i know it feels like you are suffering, but if you remember your mom loves you and cares for you, you'll see it's for your own well being. this discipline won't last forever, unless a person continues to rebel. my parents didn't let me do a lot of things i thought were ok, but now that i'm older, i thank God for the parents He gave me. i didn't understand a lot of things as a teenager, but i understand them now as an adult.
your mom's responsibility is to raise you to become a responsible adult. she wants you to make good choices. each choice we make has a consequence. you realized that the choice you made was not a good one, which is growth on your part. but now, you must face the consequences of that choice. discipline is to correct us. it is to help us make better choices in the future.
i know it feels like you are suffering, but if you remember your mom loves you and cares for you, you'll see it's for your own well being. this discipline won't last forever, unless a person continues to rebel. my parents didn't let me do a lot of things i thought were ok, but now that i'm older, i thank God for the parents He gave me. i didn't understand a lot of things as a teenager, but i understand them now as an adult.
Without knowing what actually happened, it's very difficult for anyone to say whether your mother is overreacting or not. But here are a couple simple truths to ponder: 1) no matter how much you know you screwed up and want to change and not repeat that screw up, it is very difficult to change and avoid doing the same thing again if you stay in the same circumstances. A complete change of environment is difficult, but in some ways it will be much easier to develop a new group of friends that is hopefully a more positive influence. Not sure exactly how schools work there, but 14 in the US would be the start of 4 years of high school and that is a much better time of life to start a transition than to have to change schools just before your last year of school or something. It will get better and you will get to know people, but I'm sorry it's hard and lonely now.
Truth 2: Transition sucks, it takes time to build a new life, and you'll most likely be doing so for the rest of your life. I lived overseas for 3 years and just moved back home last Sept. In some ways it felt like I lost everything: my friends, my community, my church, the apartment I lived in, my favorite places to eat out and new favorite foods, etc. Soon I hope to find a job and then I'll have to transition into a new set of circumstances. And it can be a lot and overwhelming and how it affects each of us is similar but not the same. One of the best most productive things you can do at this time is start learning to transition well and get plugged in in a new community. That's a skill you will be using for your whole life.
Bonus truth: at 20, 24, 30, etc. you'll cringe at how much of a kid you still were at 14 even when you thought you were such an adult. We've all done it and we probably all hated how our parents made us do things we didn't want to when we were 14.
Couple more thoughts: please please please, save yourself the heartache and leave the boys alone until you are ready to consider marriage. Any guy you date you'll eventually either end up breaking up with or marrying and breakups are horrible.
Your surroundings will greatly influence the person you develop into; do everything you can to choose good influences
Truth 2: Transition sucks, it takes time to build a new life, and you'll most likely be doing so for the rest of your life. I lived overseas for 3 years and just moved back home last Sept. In some ways it felt like I lost everything: my friends, my community, my church, the apartment I lived in, my favorite places to eat out and new favorite foods, etc. Soon I hope to find a job and then I'll have to transition into a new set of circumstances. And it can be a lot and overwhelming and how it affects each of us is similar but not the same. One of the best most productive things you can do at this time is start learning to transition well and get plugged in in a new community. That's a skill you will be using for your whole life.
Bonus truth: at 20, 24, 30, etc. you'll cringe at how much of a kid you still were at 14 even when you thought you were such an adult. We've all done it and we probably all hated how our parents made us do things we didn't want to when we were 14.
Couple more thoughts: please please please, save yourself the heartache and leave the boys alone until you are ready to consider marriage. Any guy you date you'll eventually either end up breaking up with or marrying and breakups are horrible.
Your surroundings will greatly influence the person you develop into; do everything you can to choose good influences
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Sometimes we lose freedoms as consequences. I'm sorry you don't understand but honestly Christ doesn't explain why he punishes is either.
Obedience is the best way to gain what you want back.
But in the end. You will still be frustrated as you are obeying law and not doing things out of living your parents or God.
Again. Scripture says to obey your parents.
Obedience is the best way to gain what you want back.
But in the end. You will still be frustrated as you are obeying law and not doing things out of living your parents or God.
Again. Scripture says to obey your parents.