How to tackle laziness

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abru

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Hi, lately, I have been struggling with managing my time and being productive. This has included anything from studying, and preparing for school to praying and going to Church. I used to be better when I had close friends, but now after being geographically separated from them, i just feel like I am increasingly becoming lazy. Can anyone relate to my situation and what solution do you have? Thanks
 
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Ugly

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Not sure how long it's been since the change with your friends, or who moved, but major changes are stressful, even positive ones. Moving from a small apartment into a big house. Huge stress. Marrying the person of your dreams. Huge stress. So losing your friends, even if the reasons may be good, is going to be a stress, as well as a sadness and chances are that's what this is. Over time i imagine things will improve, especially if you fight the feelings rather than settle into them.
Also having friends is mentally and emotionally healthy. So that loss can have a negative effect. The best thing i'd suggest is just know it's a normal feeling and nothing is wrong with you. In fact it shows you're a normal, emotionally healthy person. But keeping active and perhaps trying to make new friends will help fight this so that it doesn't become something more serious.
It's harder to start from a position of standing still than it is to keep something moving, which is why it's important to not settle into the feelings, but keep fighting them and moving.
Just give it time and allow yourself to feel sad, but not to dwell. Keep active, make new friends and before you know it you'll be back to normal... for you. haha
 
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abru

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Thank you! That was very helpful. I guess was headed to the point of settling to the feelings.
 
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Ugly

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It's easy to do, to settle in. So good thing you asked. (=
 
RickyZ

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People say I would make a great procrastinator, if I ever get around to it ;)
 
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mar09

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Hi abru... thanks for the guys like ugly who can respond quickly. I can only say u may be adjusting with the separation from friends, but it is also good that u are seeking ways to change where u think there is need. There was a summer in my teen yrs i learned to read some romantic pocketbooks a sis was reading, and it was like i read to bed, woke up an d picked up book and read again before breakfast... and part of the day too, and after a few wks thought, Why it's all the same! There's no sense 'rereading' what someone else has written abt, just slightly reworded. So i stopped, and since that summer, have hardly picked a book like that. I just remembered that episode in my life, bec. i was real lazy and didnt know i was being so... If someone said to my face i was being so..! But that's not it. I was like appreciating how u admit to it while early, and finding ways to change also. Have a plan, a timetable or checklist, wc does not have to be rigid. It's meant to be a guide.
This ur first post, btw. So welcome!
 
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abru

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Thank you rickyz and mar09 for replying. I appreciates your thoughts. Its just that i have had a few friends for a long time and I am not used to the whole finding new friends thing. With my old friends, there was this pressure we had on each other to ,say, prepare for a test, more like a competition. I also realized how hard it is to make new friends, people often mistake your attempts to be close to them as signs of stalking; don't know if this is just a me thing or if it's a general happening. But, I have improved greatly this past week. Thanks
 
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abru

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Thanks mar09 for welcoming me !
 
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persontalkto

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perhaps without the friend's in your life you are slowly thinking there's less reason to being productive or you being alone more you find there's less reason to be productive.
 
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Ariel82

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I make a schedule and setup deadlines and rewards for accomplishing things.

I typically compete against myself and try to do better than I did the last time.
 
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Ultimatum77

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Set your alarm clock, earlier so by the time you truly wake up you will be alert and wanting to tackle the day.....in the morning it takes a good hour to get your cortisol levels up (what makes you alert throughout the day) so if you wake up earlier by the time you need to get to work/school your cortisol is already up and you're alert w/o even needing coffee (although it helps :)

I find the earlier I set my alarm/not allow myself to sleep in....the more productive my day goes and I feel energized to take on more....also lessen your time on the internet b/c it can distract a lot :)
 
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