Relationships: Having a boyfriend

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modernchristianangel

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My parents think it's bad to be in a relationship and that I should only care about that stuff when I get to uni, and they say that it's not good to have a crush, but obviously I can't help it. I know a guy who wants to ask me out but knows what my parents think about this stuff
PLS I need some advice from teens and adults!!
 
Corbinscam

Corbinscam

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At your age...avoid relatioships. I didnt and I wish I would have. You cant help having a crush on someone but you can help acting on the crush. You're seriously much better off to just have friends and have fun and wait until you're older for a relationship.
 
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Ugly

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Yeah, relationships seem harmless and exciting, but especially at your age there is mostly heartache and unhealthy temptation. And really the main focus for dating is to find a marriage partner, which at your age, is pretty much fruitless.

Essentially they are your parents and God expects you to honor them. Whether you agree or disagree. It doesn't matter what anyone else says. Unless they are having expectations that go against God, which they are not, then you should listen to and obey them.

Dating is is not as great as it sounds. The excitement of meeting someone and getting close to them sounds great, but at your age it's a 99% chance it will end in tears. Spare yourself the pain and baggage. All it will do is cause you to have issues to bring into a Real relationship when you're old enough, making things more difficult.
 
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Tinuviel

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Your parents sound like they're giving you some solid advice. I've never been in a romantic relationship, and hope never to be in one until I'm sure it is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. And honestly, you can't really know that until you're older--I think your parents university age is a good one. At your age (and my age, too since I do not plan on marrying at age 17) romantic relationships are honestly just something we do to feel good, and because of the way the dating game is played, it doesn't even prepare us for the real world in any way. God gave you parents for a reason, listen to them!

Romantic relationships among teens all too soon degenerate into sleeping together. It happens, even when you think it will never happen to you. So, wouldn't you like to keep your mind and body pure, so that when that one REALLY special guy might step into your life you can honestly tell him on your wedding night that this is your first time? I even plan on saving my first kiss until after the wedding ceremony! I am so thankful that you have parents who love you enough to set boundaries, and they sound very reasonable. Out of respect for them, don't you think you need to keep them? Anyway, that's my take on it. God bless you!
 
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Colt45Bullet

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Tinuviel, you are officially the oldest person in the world
 
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Tinuviel

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Colt45Bullet said:
Tinuviel, you are officially the oldest person in the world
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Anyone who has two good eyes and the same number of ears and USES them while they keep their mouth shut would have drawn the same conclusions I did, probably better.
 
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modernchristianangel said:
My parents think it's bad to be in a relationship and that I should only care about that stuff when I get to uni, and they say that it's not good to have a crush, but obviously I can't help it. I know a guy who wants to ask me out but knows what my parents think about this stuff
PLS I need some advice from teens and adults!!
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You are only 14 years old, much too young to date or even THINK about dating a guy. At this point, your crush is only exactly that, a puppy love crush. Your parents are right, wait until you are older and more wise about what a relationship really entails.. Focus on being a kid, getting good grades, and serving God. Forget about this crush you have on this kid. Tinuviel and corbinscam have given you good advice. You'd be wise to pay attention to it. :)
 
Demi777

Demi777

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It depends on your character. It shouldnt be your priority (or even near that) but its normal. Try to distance yourself and focus on your studies. Just wait and see. Wanna bet that when your 16 your prob. gonne say : How could I ever like this dude.. Best is is if you can build a trust base with your parents. Of course no parent wants their 14 year old teen to go out and do but you must have a good basis. If you cannot trust em you have a hell of the teen time to come.try talking to them. Tell em that you like a guy and how you feel
 
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