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Colt45Bullet

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I don't post these threads asking for help much. It feels like Im a burden to others, but I really need help on this one.
Alright, so, this girl that I know. We dated for about a year, then she broke up with me because she said God told her too, however, the more I talked to her about it, it turns out she left me because it got too hard, and then she told me she never wants to hear from me again because her friends think I am a bad influence on her life. That destroyed my heart. After that, she said that she still loved me, and had a special place in her heart for me, but I wasnt worth the pain or the time. Keep in mind, she claims to be a Christian.
P.S. She goes to some summer camp, which she says she only goes to so she can build a relationship with Christ, but whenever she comes back, she always says how she met amazing people, and gave them her number and all that.
 
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TemporaryCircumstances

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First I want to say,

You are not a burden!!!!! People wouldn't respond if you were.

Second,
I'm sorry that sounds very hard to deal with.
I used to say time heals broken hearts but I've come to the realization that that's not true. The only one that can heal broken or hurting hearts is God, but He can't help if you don't open yourself up to Him and let go of all troubles and lay them on Him.
Time makes the pain not an everyday thing or more distant from your immediate memory but the pain will always be there until you see that God is the one who will always love us no matter what.
It will never be too hard for Him.
Find comfort in that.
I am praying
 
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TemporaryCircumstances

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P.S.
If someone isn't willing to go through hell and back for you they aren't worth it.
 
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Colt45Bullet

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This whole thing has made me question myself. Am I worth it?
 
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Ultimatum77

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Sounds like a loose-cannon imo.....you've already got burned once by this girl playing with your emotions you shouldn't want to go for round 2 so to speak.....People who are not emotionally stable are not worth staying with or around....unless you did something to make her think badly of you (don't know the full story so just saying) then she is probably unstable in more than one sense by randomly giving out numbers and throwing you in an emotional whirlpool of which there is no other way but going down fast into the "psychological drain"....pun intended :) ...
 
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Im sorry bro that this is happening to you. I will just say what I see in this and I am not trying to hurt you. This girl doesnt love you and she surely isnt a Christian. I think she likes to get attention and bragging. Your worth more than that brother. I know your self-worth is down but its not your fault. Know the feel.
I was together with a guy for 2 weeks and I found out he was cheating with my ''best friend'' and dumped him and was pounded with ''how much less I am supposed to have worth than her''. He told me it was my fault. If this girl would care about God and you she would change her ways in true repentance and treat you with the respect and love you deserve. Dont give up! God is good and he doesnt let us go
 
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Colt45Bullet said:
This whole thing has made me question myself. Am I worth it?
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And the answer is:
Definitely.


Isaiah 43:4 ESV /

Because you are precious in my eyes, and honored, and I love you, I give men in return for you, peoples in exchange for your life.





Luke 12:6-7 ESV /

Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows.






1 Samuel 16:7 ESV

But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”




Romans 5:8 ESV

But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.



And by the way, I don't spend time talking to people who aren't worth it. That'd be a waste of my time.
 
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God planned to make you from the very beginning.
He makes no mistakes.
You are a beloved child of God no matter what you do in this life or what happens to you.

I have a quote always written on my wrist (except for days I have to wear my uniform :p)
And it says
"I am not what happened to me I am what I chose to become."

Choose to become more than she wants you to be
 
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Colt45Bullet

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Thanks for the comments everyone. The big kicker about this whole situation is, I would still give her my heart back if she wanted it. Im trying to give her unconditional love
 
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Colt45Bullet said:
Thanks for the comments everyone. The big kicker about this whole situation is, I would still give her my heart back if she wanted it. Im trying to give her unconditional love
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Don't,
It will hurt you more to do that.
 
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Colt45Bullet

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But thats who I am. I hold everyone to high standards even when Im upset or mad at them. I never publicly slander them
 
Demi777

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Colt45Bullet said:
Thanks for the comments everyone. The big kicker about this whole situation is, I would still give her my heart back if she wanted it. Im trying to give her unconditional love
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Brother you will have to let go. It wont do none of you any good to hold on. Your precious in so many peoples eyes here who would love to not have you suffer like this. Its never easy to let go. But its better to let go than to be destroyed from the inside out. I bet theres many girls who would love to date you who see your worth,just you dont, and just dont have the courage to ask you out. You have a beautiful soul brother. Dont give up. Talk to us if you need to. You are no burden to us for Jesus takes all ours, and we carry his for it is light.
 
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Colt45Bullet said:
But thats who I am. I hold everyone to high standards even when Im upset or mad at them. I never publicly slander them
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Public slander is not needed but neither is self suicide (sorry for using that word I hate that word)
Use kindness towards her, but don't hurt yourself by committing your heart to her
 
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Ultimatum77

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Colt45Bullet said:
Thanks for the comments everyone. The big kicker about this whole situation is, I would still give her my heart back if she wanted it. Im trying to give her unconditional love
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You sound a little infatuated with this girl....but think about it logically do you want another emotional beatdown 1 year later again if she decides to up and leave again? imo don't enjoy getting beat down by this girl...just end it man....not worth the emotional roller coaster....
 
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Ultimatum77 said:
You sound a little infatuated with this girl....but think about it logically do you want another emotional beatdown 1 year later again if she decides to up and leave again? imo don't enjoy getting beat down by this girl...just end it man....not worth the emotional roller coaster....
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Yea roller coasters are awful lol
Talk about torture xD
 
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Ultimatum77

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Yea roller coasters are awful lol
Talk about torture xD
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off topic but ....Honestly, I don't like roller coasters....if God meant for us to be shaken up and down like a paint canister in the pain mixing machine he would have made us like paint cans.....and also gravity exists for a reason lol.....to keep us planted on the earth....
 
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Ultimatum77 said:
off topic but ....Honestly, I don't like roller coasters....if God meant for us to be shaken up and down like a paint canister in the pain mixing machine he would have made us like paint cans.....and also gravity exists for a reason lol.....to keep us planted on the earth....
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Hahaha do you mind if I use that next time someone wants me to go on a roller coaster?
 
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Colt45Bullet

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So, how do I move on. Everyone just says, "Live life to the fullest.", but that way is sinful.
 
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Colt45Bullet said:
So, how do I move on. Everyone just says, "Live life to the fullest.", but that way is sinful.
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Let go.
Give all to God Colt.
Let all go, your troubles, sorrows, joy, materialistic things and rest in His arms.
You aren't going to be able to move on unless you let go and look completely and fully to God.
 
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