Marrying/dating out of Christianity

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PeaceForTheWorld

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I just want to know everyone's opinions on it.

I feel that if you date someone who is atheist and tell the news about God they are very likely to become a Christian. Like you encourage them to come bible study and church/Kingdom Hall and to study and pray with you then they are likely to see God's glory and join you.

At the moment I see some wrongs to marrying out of Christianity because most importantly God is not their number 1 and why would you want to marry someone who doesn't believe in God.
I feel like if a Christian is in a marriage with a atheist then that is also not a problem as long as you continue to study the bible, pray and keep God your #1. I also feel like if that person loved you enough then they would join you in bible study, church/Kingdom Hall and prayer.
 
SkittlePumpkin

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The problem with getting involved with someone who isn't Christian in the hopes of conversion is that when the relationship is new, people tend to become a little blinded by love; this person could think that they've accepted Christ into their heart, when all they want is to win the affections of their significant other. Then, years down the road after they've gotten married, this person realizes they really don't believe in any of it, but by then you're in a commited marriage; a covenant that you can't back out of unless they're the one to walk away. Don't be unequally yolked if you can help it. It's a real struggle. Not being able to share the most important part of your life with the person you're spending the rest of your life with sucks.
 
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PeaceForTheWorld said:
I just want to know everyone's opinions on it.

I feel that if you date someone who is atheist and tell the news about God they are very likely to become a Christian. Like you encourage them to come bible study and church/Kingdom Hall and to study and pray with you then they are likely to see God's glory and join you.

At the moment I see some wrongs to marrying out of Christianity because most importantly God is not their number 1 and why would you want to marry someone who doesn't believe in God.
I feel like if a Christian is in a marriage with a atheist then that is also not a problem as long as you continue to study the bible, pray and keep God your #1. I also feel like if that person loved you enough then they would join you in bible study, church/Kingdom Hall and prayer.
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Your whole post is a contradiction. First you say if you date an atheist and preach the gospel to him, he's likely to become a christian. That is highly doubtful, since atheists DON'T believe in God or Jesus, or heaven and hell.

Then you say that you "see some wrongs to marrying out of christianity because God isn't their number 1." Obviously, if you marry/date an atheist, you're marrying/dating outside of the christian faith..

Now to recap, atheists do not believe in God, so why would you want to date an atheist? Atheists are not christians, so as you said, why would you want to marry someone who doesn't believe in God? Atheists are NOT likely to turn into christians, since they don't believe in him, so even if you shove the bible down their throat, you will NOT convert them. Your thinking here is a little messed up.
 
Desdichado

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It's hard enough being in a relationship with another Christian. Don't go into a relationship trying to change somebody. You will be disappointed. Gravely disappointed.
 
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It can work out , and end with the other being saved ... but it can also draw the Christian away from God.

I know it can work because my (step)dad was an agnostic and is now a firm Christian,
yet I wouldn't advice Christians to marry atheists
 
Desdichado

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wwjd_kilden said:
It can work out , and end with the other being saved ... but it can also draw the Christian away from God.

I know it can work because my (step)dad was an agnostic and is now a firm Christian,
yet I wouldn't advice Christians to marry atheists
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My grandfather and grandmother had a similar experience.
 
Desdichado

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It's for that reason that I generally advise against it, actually.
 
BruceWayne

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I personally have no problem with it. If you get the right people with the right personalities and the right morals, it can definitely be great. I wouldn't exactly say that it's 'very likely' that they will become a christian though. They may, anything's possible, but it's not something that you can expect to happen.

I think a lot of christians go into these relationships with the intent/idea of changing someone and that's the wrong way to enter a relationship. If you can't accept how they are and be okay with how things are(now and into the future), then just don't. It's not going to be good for anyone and it won't work. If someone's set on being with another christian, just do that from the start lol.
 
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PeaceForTheWorld

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Ah I guess I should've worded what I said better. I shouldn't of put 'very likely' and instead should've put 'sometimes happens' because it does sometimes happen.
 
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PeaceForTheWorld said:
I feel that if you date someone who is atheist and tell the news about God they are very likely to become a Christian.
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This is a very naive position to take, and given your possible age (which I do not know, yet this is in the Christian teen section, and if that avatar image is a picture of you, you are quite young), it is understandable. You need to know that atheists are normally dead set against God and religion and especially Christianity. Even an agnostic will tell you that it is impossible to know one way or another, while Scripture says we can know, and Jesus promises to show Himself to those who diligently seek Him.

Atheists are more prone to diligently seeking to prove religion/Christianity wrong. If they were brought up in a religious home and believe themselves to have been Christian at some point because they followed all the "rules," then they will be all the more against it, believing themselves to have been deceived, and likewise projecting that onto everyone else who believes. They will say we only believe because were told to, that we are brainwashed, and can't think for ourselves, and have an imaginary friend, believe in fairy tales, and are irrational, illogical, and not rational at all. Really, that is what it comes down to for many atheists. They complain about the superior attitude they think Christians have while they make themselves out to be superior themselves. A lot of them blame Christianity for most if not all the problems in the world!

Such a person will not be able to stop themselves from setting them self up against you. You really do not want to be legally yoked to such a person. Scripture forbids it for very good reasons. Here is a good page on it:

What does it mean to be unequally yoked?
 
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Godislov

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I don't think it's a good idea. Marrying or dating a non- believer will probably do more harm than good. That person may not be able to understand why you believe in God. You may find that you're always having to explain yourself and your beliefs. That person may pretend to believe in what you believe in just so they could be with you. What happens once they stop pretending? It's safer to date/marry a believer.
 
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blue_ladybug said:
Your whole post is a contradiction. First you say if you date an atheist and preach the gospel to him, he's likely to become a christian. That is highly doubtful, since atheists DON'T believe in God or Jesus, or heaven and hell.

Then you say that you "see some wrongs to marrying out of christianity because God isn't their number 1." Obviously, if you marry/date an atheist, you're marrying/dating outside of the christian faith..

Now to recap, atheists do not believe in God, so why would you want to date an atheist? Atheists are not christians, so as you said, why would you want to marry someone who doesn't believe in God? Atheists are NOT likely to turn into christians, since they don't believe in him, so even if you shove the bible down their throat, you will NOT convert them. Your thinking here is a little messed up.
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it isnt that messed up. OP just follow your own ideals, kay?
 
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It's amazing to see what God can work through any situation. The Bible does advise us not to be unequally yoke. However, in the immediate next set of verses it states that if a believer is married to a non-believer then not to get divorced, because the non-believer is justified by the believer (Two become one right?). There are very few instances in which it works, and God knows our hearts far better than we do, and so long as we are faithful to Him and seek Him, He will work his plans out for our good, and His glory.
 
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PeaceForTheWorld said:
I just want to know everyone's opinions on it.

I feel that if you date someone who is atheist and tell the news about God they are very likely to become a Christian. Like you encourage them to come bible study and church/Kingdom Hall and to study and pray with you then they are likely to see God's glory and join you.

At the moment I see some wrongs to marrying out of Christianity because most importantly God is not their number 1 and why would you want to marry someone who doesn't believe in God.
I feel like if a Christian is in a marriage with a atheist then that is also not a problem as long as you continue to study the bible, pray and keep God your #1. I also feel like if that person loved you enough then they would join you in bible study, church/Kingdom Hall and prayer.
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How can that atheist have that deep love for anyone when they themselves tell us there aren't any rules.
If they change are they sincere or just deceiving you. I believe I would make sure first.

There are two different types of marriage. #1 marriage by Man's law #2 marriage under the oath and eyes of God. I was married under #1 and #2 at the same time and it has lasted 47 years.
Today, man's laws in most cases do not include God which is why anyone with anyone or anyone with anything can be married.

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:16


Have a Blessed day.
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PeaceForTheWorld said:
Ah I guess I should've worded what I said better. I shouldn't of put 'very likely' and instead should've put 'sometimes happens' because it does sometimes happen.
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But more commonly Christians are dragged down or held back.
If you date Anyone with the intent on changing them, that is wrong. Period. You are being dishonest with them and using manipulation as a means to serve God. There's nothing Godly about that.
If they never change, then you have to dump them for not changing. And if they find out your real motive you will do More damage and turn them away from God even further.
Perhaps they fake it and lie just to keep you? Eventually the lie will come out and you will emotionally invested, or even married, when you find out. Then what?
Or if you marry then, particularly for a female, the head of the household is Not able to fullfil the duties God wants, which is for the man to also be the Spiritual Head. So you willingly go into a marriage with someone who you know is absolutely incapable of what God commands.

This is just a Few of a number of issues that can arise from 'missionary dating'. There may be a small percentage of success but there is a bigger chance it will backfire. And there is a much greater chance of failure all together.
 
Calmador

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PeaceForTheWorld said:
I just want to know everyone's opinions on it.

I feel that if you date someone who is atheist and tell the news about God they are very likely to become a Christian. Like you encourage them to come bible study and church/Kingdom Hall and to study and pray with you then they are likely to see God's glory and join you.

At the moment I see some wrongs to marrying out of Christianity because most importantly God is not their number 1 and why would you want to marry someone who doesn't believe in God.
I feel like if a Christian is in a marriage with a atheist then that is also not a problem as long as you continue to study the bible, pray and keep God your #1. I also feel like if that person loved you enough then they would join you in bible study, church/Kingdom Hall and prayer.
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PeaceForTheworld

Marrying someone who isn't a Christian is not only one of the worst gambles or decisions you could make in your life but it's also clearly not allowed.

1 Corinthians 7:39 A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.

He must be Christian.

You could be setting yourself up to ruining your life.
 
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PeaceForTheWorld

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Thank you everyone. You have all educated me well. I am still very young, naive and learning but I am trying to improve every day and become a better person. I know some of my comments may have annoyed a lot of you and i apologise for that.
 
TheKringledOne

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blue_ladybug said:
Now to recap, atheists do not believe in God, so why would you want to date an atheist? Atheists are not christians, so as you said, why would you want to marry someone who doesn't believe in God? Atheists are NOT likely to turn into christians, since they don't believe in him, so even if you shove the bible down their throat, you will NOT convert them. Your thinking here is a little messed up.
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There are certainly times when atheists will convert to other religions.
 
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Kingdom Halls aren't Christian, they're places of 'worship' for Jehovah's Witnesses.
 
MrPibbs

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PeaceForTheWorld said:
I just want to know everyone's opinions on it.

I feel that if you date someone who is atheist and tell the news about God they are very likely to become a Christian. Like you encourage them to come bible study and church/Kingdom Hall and to study and pray with you then they are likely to see God's glory and join you.

At the moment I see some wrongs to marrying out of Christianity because most importantly God is not their number 1 and why would you want to marry someone who doesn't believe in God.
I feel like if a Christian is in a marriage with a atheist then that is also not a problem as long as you continue to study the bible, pray and keep God your #1. I also feel like if that person loved you enough then they would join you in bible study, church/Kingdom Hall and prayer.
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How many times have I read this from a woman
who has posted on the internet Christian forum... oh everything was just great...

BUT

Ut oh there is that dreaded word...BUT

Then they started enticing me to do the things I knew
were sin and telling me oh it is alright and you know...before I knew it...

I WAS JUST LIKE THEM.

What can I do I have lost much of my faith in God in fact
I don't know if I even believe there is a God any more

Please help me Pray for me.
 
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