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You know, when Jesus' friends were suffering when their brother Lazarus had died, even though He deliberately tarried, delaying His arrival there, and knowing that Lazarus had died, Jesus was so moved by compassion for the suffering of those He loved, that the shortest Bible passage of Scripture was written:
Jesus wept.
Jesus weeps for us. He know our failings and understands our challenges and can relate to our struggles because He was tempted in every way just as we are. Still He did not turn from His mission, He came to give His human life, God in the flesh walked this world as a man to show us how much He loves us, by giving His life as a testament to that love, that we may know, yes, that we may know, the love He has for us. If you can ever tap into that great love He has for us, if you can take it into yourself, take possession of it for yourself, own it, He gave His life for you! He gave His life for you because He knows our sorrow and He weeps for us. No other love will ever compare.
Jesus wept.
Jesus weeps for us. He know our failings and understands our challenges and can relate to our struggles because He was tempted in every way just as we are. Still He did not turn from His mission, He came to give His human life, God in the flesh walked this world as a man to show us how much He loves us, by giving His life as a testament to that love, that we may know, yes, that we may know, the love He has for us. If you can ever tap into that great love He has for us, if you can take it into yourself, take possession of it for yourself, own it, He gave His life for you! He gave His life for you because He knows our sorrow and He weeps for us. No other love will ever compare.
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You should exercise daily, it will give you more energy and maybe more self confidence...don't look at the scale or your size. Just focus on getting fit...maybe find something you like to do...walking, swimming, biking, etc....if you don't like any just force yourself to do a 15 min workout then,increase to 30 min the next week....
Start small do something fun to reward yourself when you accomplish something...maybe use video games as a reward?
Anyway, will pray for you.
Start small do something fun to reward yourself when you accomplish something...maybe use video games as a reward?
Anyway, will pray for you.
Lexy if u r reading this 
I want you to know I am so so so so so so so sorry for what I done to you and even though you are probably questioning me if I am a lier you know me I have been straight forward with so many things with you and I am telling you it is fine for you to block me or never even talk to me again I just want you to know I don't think I would have been the same person without u man u r like a little sister to me even more than that and u helped me so much and even tho I have done the most rotten thing I can imagine to u I just want u to know if I could take back the hurt the sorrw and all the grief I caused u I would and I would live with it because I am being as sincere as can be I cant keep up the lies I can going to be onest the phone thing was true I really did not have a phone and I will send u real pictures of me I don't take many because of self esteem issues so that is another reason I sent a fake one cuz u wanted to see me and yea... I am so dang sorry Lexy I honestly had this thought come up in my mind so much and this is main reason I have not even bought a webcam cuz I honestly if I wanted to hard enough even if it was pricey I still would have gotten it for u Lexy I just don't know what to do at this point man I feel so awful if I could give u a hug I would man I just want to cry right now I am being real with u Lexy yea I lost weight as points in my life but I got so depressed over these years so I gained weight and my confidence level has went downhill and I know u can relate since u had the same issues before but if u want to leave me ur more than welcome to Lexy and even if u hate me I want u to know I will always be there for u to back u up with whatever u need in life and help u when ur down just message me on those occasions and I will respond as soon as I can Lexy I want u to know I am not the guy that lies a lot but with this certain thing I never thought u and me would ever get this close and the picture was a random guy I tried to get someone who looked similar to me but skinny by a lot since I used to be skinny.... Well I am sorry Lexy I can not say it enough man I even thought about taking my own lfie because of what I have done I just did not want to lose u (( ur the best thing that could have happened to me like best friend atleast that I met and u helped me so much I legit cried last night and everything thinking about this ( Lexy the reason idid not want a shirt was because of the size and all :/ I did not want to get embarrassed of me letting myself go I am not saying I am ugly cuz I'm not I just don't feel good about myself because of how much I let myself go and let depression over rule me and my life and I made a decision once I move to go to the gym to lose weight to get counseling to do whatever ti takes to get myself happy again Lexy I have not even looked myself in the mirror for months Lexy I just made excuses and pretended to be and act like someone I am not I saw u were a pretty girl and I just made a huge mistake and if u don't want to talk to me again u don't need to I more than understand I am manning up to u today in the eyes of God and I am humbling myself no matter the consequence and this is the reason I hate it when people call others ugly because I suffer from self esteem issues myself I mean I legit remember when I used to love myself and was happy but things got carried away in my life both mistakes from me and parents and thigns hit us like a bus and pretty soon we lost everything and u were all I had literally Lexy I wish I could do more but this is all I got maybe we need to take a break and this is probably why I had mood swings at some point because I hide my true self to u LEXY I AM A LOSER I AM A FAKE I AM A NO LIFE but most importantly I am not even worth ur time or energy for u to call me a friend I am doing this because I am trying to change Lexy and another reason I did not tell u was because I was scared u would hurt or even kill urself which I hope not Lexy but dont this I kept this up cuz I wanted to hurt u I did it cuz I was scared u would hurt urself and I would have to live with that guilt Lexy ur just so awesome so beautiful so courageous a great friend and yes we had our ups and downs but at the end we always came back saying friend. Anyways if u ever need anything and I mean anything at all tell me plz and I will definitely send u pictures REAL ones to assure u who I actually am even tho I am hesitant I will do it anyway because I love u and care for u as a friend and I mean it from the bottom of my heart!
I want you to know I am so so so so so so so sorry for what I done to you and even though you are probably questioning me if I am a lier you know me I have been straight forward with so many things with you and I am telling you it is fine for you to block me or never even talk to me again I just want you to know I don't think I would have been the same person without u man u r like a little sister to me even more than that and u helped me so much and even tho I have done the most rotten thing I can imagine to u I just want u to know if I could take back the hurt the sorrw and all the grief I caused u I would and I would live with it because I am being as sincere as can be I cant keep up the lies I can going to be onest the phone thing was true I really did not have a phone and I will send u real pictures of me I don't take many because of self esteem issues so that is another reason I sent a fake one cuz u wanted to see me and yea... I am so dang sorry Lexy I honestly had this thought come up in my mind so much and this is main reason I have not even bought a webcam cuz I honestly if I wanted to hard enough even if it was pricey I still would have gotten it for u Lexy I just don't know what to do at this point man I feel so awful if I could give u a hug I would man I just want to cry right now I am being real with u Lexy yea I lost weight as points in my life but I got so depressed over these years so I gained weight and my confidence level has went downhill and I know u can relate since u had the same issues before but if u want to leave me ur more than welcome to Lexy and even if u hate me I want u to know I will always be there for u to back u up with whatever u need in life and help u when ur down just message me on those occasions and I will respond as soon as I can Lexy I want u to know I am not the guy that lies a lot but with this certain thing I never thought u and me would ever get this close and the picture was a random guy I tried to get someone who looked similar to me but skinny by a lot since I used to be skinny.... Well I am sorry Lexy I can not say it enough man I even thought about taking my own lfie because of what I have done I just did not want to lose u (( ur the best thing that could have happened to me like best friend atleast that I met and u helped me so much I legit cried last night and everything thinking about this ( Lexy the reason idid not want a shirt was because of the size and all :/ I did not want to get embarrassed of me letting myself go I am not saying I am ugly cuz I'm not I just don't feel good about myself because of how much I let myself go and let depression over rule me and my life and I made a decision once I move to go to the gym to lose weight to get counseling to do whatever ti takes to get myself happy again Lexy I have not even looked myself in the mirror for months Lexy I just made excuses and pretended to be and act like someone I am not I saw u were a pretty girl and I just made a huge mistake and if u don't want to talk to me again u don't need to I more than understand I am manning up to u today in the eyes of God and I am humbling myself no matter the consequence and this is the reason I hate it when people call others ugly because I suffer from self esteem issues myself I mean I legit remember when I used to love myself and was happy but things got carried away in my life both mistakes from me and parents and thigns hit us like a bus and pretty soon we lost everything and u were all I had literally Lexy I wish I could do more but this is all I got maybe we need to take a break and this is probably why I had mood swings at some point because I hide my true self to u LEXY I AM A LOSER I AM A FAKE I AM A NO LIFE but most importantly I am not even worth ur time or energy for u to call me a friend I am doing this because I am trying to change Lexy and another reason I did not tell u was because I was scared u would hurt or even kill urself which I hope not Lexy but dont this I kept this up cuz I wanted to hurt u I did it cuz I was scared u would hurt urself and I would have to live with that guilt Lexy ur just so awesome so beautiful so courageous a great friend and yes we had our ups and downs but at the end we always came back saying friend. Anyways if u ever need anything and I mean anything at all tell me plz and I will definitely send u pictures REAL ones to assure u who I actually am even tho I am hesitant I will do it anyway because I love u and care for u as a friend and I mean it from the bottom of my heart!
A
Amen and amen!!!!!!
Romans 12:15
King James Bible
Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep.
!!!!!!!!!!!!! Praise Jesus our Lord and Savior! Amen!!!!
Romans 12:15
King James Bible
Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep.
!!!!!!!!!!!!! Praise Jesus our Lord and Savior! Amen!!!!
U
Why not just sent a picture of yourself now and explain the situation...honesty/transparency goes a long way to mending relatoinships...not to say it will work out 100% all the time staying together but at least your conscience is clear.....
just send the picture man, don't worry about other accepting you, first you need to accept yourself....also gaming 24/7 is not a way to live (I used to do the same back in the day b/c I didn't have many friends) you need to limit yourself to like 2 games/rounds and then use the rest of the day to get out/do something productive like read a book, learn something new on the internet, walk around your house/outside....100% screen time is no way to live and takes a toll on your body healthwise with sleep issues and obesity.....maybe increase your gym time and decrease your gaming time....gaming is not reality....life can be hard but is more rewarding when you confront it head on! God Bless!
just send the picture man, don't worry about other accepting you, first you need to accept yourself....also gaming 24/7 is not a way to live (I used to do the same back in the day b/c I didn't have many friends) you need to limit yourself to like 2 games/rounds and then use the rest of the day to get out/do something productive like read a book, learn something new on the internet, walk around your house/outside....100% screen time is no way to live and takes a toll on your body healthwise with sleep issues and obesity.....maybe increase your gym time and decrease your gaming time....gaming is not reality....life can be hard but is more rewarding when you confront it head on! God Bless!
Sounds like your starting on the right track, the enemy (or self-induced unhealthy desires if you believe in those more), has had you in a trap, your being overweight has you feeling self-conscious which is making you hide, but this is limiting your exercise, and probably increasing your food intake (let's face it, a lot of people eat more often if they are just sitting at home) which is adding to your weight problem and your lack of confidence.
Going to the gym is a start, but walking and running help more with weight loss. Taking walks would be more effective, or if you would be more likely to walk with another reason, go do an errand on foot (remember what your bringing back though, you do not want to get stuck at the store with heavy items and have to carry them back), this is more effective than going to the gym.
As for your confidence and the effect your situation has on it, the enemy wants your self-confidence to be low. And even if you went on a successful regimate and came out looking like a body builder next summer, this issue would probably persist until addressed. Right now, standing in your way of having healthy confidence is your weight issue. What determines if you are going to gain weight or lose weight over time is the amount of calories you eat and expend on a daily basis. If you consume more calories than you use through movement, your body is going to store the extra either in muscle if they are used often, or fat, and if you eat less calories than you use through movement, your body will pull the extra calories from your reserves, first in your muscles that are not usually used, then your fat, which is your extra food reserve, calories are a measurement of food. So to lose weight, you have to expend more energy in calories than you intake in food. There are free resources over the internet to help you figure out what you expend in calories and what you take in for calories, then all you have to do is plan your day for the amount you expend is more than what you take in, it is good to not make it a large difference, but that is the simple concept behind weight loss.
Your porn habit is also probably hurting your confidence, because you seem to feel guilty about it. Spending a lot of time doing what you identify as a unhealthy or ugly habit makes you feel guilty over it, this guilt leads to thoughts like "how could anyone want to be around me", this effects you even when your not doing the activity, if you feel guilty, you tend to think other people can sense it on you, sometimes even think everyone can tell what you do when you're alone, so you talk yourself into thinking everyone will automatically reject you, also hurting your self confidence. One of the common traps with guilt over addiction, is you have to do everything you can to end the addiction as fast as possible. This is not the best policy if you continue to fail quitting cold turkey. With porn there are several tactics to wean yourself down your addiction, the benefit of this is you can still do it, but slowly you decrease the extent of which you do it. Let's say you watch one of these films for two hours out of your day, you personally know more what you do, but for purposes of stating the concept, let's say two hours. Try cutting back to an hour and a half a day, for however long you need to become comfortable with that, then down to the next increment of your choosing for the next period of your choosing, and keep decreasing the time you watch porn each day until you have to stop to decrease it further, if you get down to say 15 minutes, you can start going whole days without it if quitting at that point is still too difficult. Or, if there's other factors that you enjoy other than just viewing the videos, maybe take a different approach and force yourself to watch the videos without incorporating any activities which go along with it, if this is too difficult, perhaps force yourself to go a little bit longer each time where you just watch the porn in the beginning before adding any extra activities other than simply viewing it. This would help you wean off any secondary pleasures that may even be more addictive than watching the porn. Even doing the habit less should be something you should be happy about, and should boost your confidence, because even though you still do it, you are doing it less and working toward not doing it at all. If you choose weaning down, avoid the temptation to wean back up, if your current limit is 20 minutes, don't go above 20 minutes (mean, if you do 22 one day, don't beat yourself up, but do not go up to something like 30 or 40 from 20).
Now, the enemy will attempt to stop your progress in any of these areas, this is where spiritual values come in. the biBle says this becomes like warfare. What he will probably do, is tempt you with laziness to keep you from exercising regularly enough to lose weight, and cause feelings of wanting to watch porn more when you are trying to watch it less, you should be able to identify what that looks like for you, it says to treat these feeling as if they are literally your worst enemies working inside your head and body, to keep you doing the behaviors that are hurting you emotionally and spiritually. This gives you a way to motivate yourself further to resist these temptations, because you are no longer just trying to stop watching porn, and lose weight, it becomes a matter of an fighting against an enemy which has long sense sought your destruction. This makes every minute of resisting the feelings to not exercise and watch porn as if you are winning a fight against your enemy, your friend's enemy, your parents enemy, and every step you take when you feel like quitting, every piece of extra food you turn down, and everytime you put off watching porn, is a victory over your worse enemy, which is no small thing when it comes to spiritual strength, according to the biBle, if eve, the first woman, had a victory of like this over not eating a fruit, we would not surely die. Each victory of this defeats your enemy, attests to your spiritual strength, and helps you overcome your problems. which means, if you are walking, and you do not turn around because you feel it is becoming more challenging, you are winning a battle in a war as if you were a powerful warrior, if you put off watching porn, even to later, you are proving yourself more powerful than the enemy in that battle, if someone makes fun of you for your appearance, and you don't let it cause you to fall back in your progress, or go home and isolate, you have won a battle against your enemy using the very thing he despises and is trying to keep from you, your confidence. Do these things, and you will prove capable of having determination, self-control, emotional strength, all of which attest you would be foolish to not have confidence, because these qualities are qualities of a healthy, strong and respectable man. Having victory over spirits of the enemy, improving your own life, and making yourself even more respectable to others than you already are. The enemy might send temptations your way to reverse your progress, you might get made fun of for your body, don't let it stop you from losing weight, your parent's divorce might provide means to depress you into not having motivation to exercise and give in to your wants, try to think of giving in as letting evil in them cause more evil in you, and resist it for the sake of strength, he may tempt you to eat extra food, remember extra food will add to your weight unless compensated by more exercise, every piece of extra food makes your weight loss require extra work, or the porn you subscribe to may corm out with a promotional, making it more attractive to view often, which would be the enemy making your addiction more attractive, every temptation you resist makes you stronger and more able to resist future temptation, and remember that everything I have suggested makes you a stronger person everytime you practice them, and you should feel stronger and more confident everytime you accomplish them, even partially, do not let thoughts of thinking these are too small of things to amount to you being worthy of confidence rob you of confidence once you achieve these things because it is not so, they are important. These are the things that make the weak man strong, they are not to be diminished.
And if you fail, show weakness, give in, now or at any point, do not despair, feel it is hopeless, or let it tempt you into giving up, this is what jesus coming for your forgiveness is for, and it is only one of the ways he strengthens people.
Going to the gym is a start, but walking and running help more with weight loss. Taking walks would be more effective, or if you would be more likely to walk with another reason, go do an errand on foot (remember what your bringing back though, you do not want to get stuck at the store with heavy items and have to carry them back), this is more effective than going to the gym.
As for your confidence and the effect your situation has on it, the enemy wants your self-confidence to be low. And even if you went on a successful regimate and came out looking like a body builder next summer, this issue would probably persist until addressed. Right now, standing in your way of having healthy confidence is your weight issue. What determines if you are going to gain weight or lose weight over time is the amount of calories you eat and expend on a daily basis. If you consume more calories than you use through movement, your body is going to store the extra either in muscle if they are used often, or fat, and if you eat less calories than you use through movement, your body will pull the extra calories from your reserves, first in your muscles that are not usually used, then your fat, which is your extra food reserve, calories are a measurement of food. So to lose weight, you have to expend more energy in calories than you intake in food. There are free resources over the internet to help you figure out what you expend in calories and what you take in for calories, then all you have to do is plan your day for the amount you expend is more than what you take in, it is good to not make it a large difference, but that is the simple concept behind weight loss.
Your porn habit is also probably hurting your confidence, because you seem to feel guilty about it. Spending a lot of time doing what you identify as a unhealthy or ugly habit makes you feel guilty over it, this guilt leads to thoughts like "how could anyone want to be around me", this effects you even when your not doing the activity, if you feel guilty, you tend to think other people can sense it on you, sometimes even think everyone can tell what you do when you're alone, so you talk yourself into thinking everyone will automatically reject you, also hurting your self confidence. One of the common traps with guilt over addiction, is you have to do everything you can to end the addiction as fast as possible. This is not the best policy if you continue to fail quitting cold turkey. With porn there are several tactics to wean yourself down your addiction, the benefit of this is you can still do it, but slowly you decrease the extent of which you do it. Let's say you watch one of these films for two hours out of your day, you personally know more what you do, but for purposes of stating the concept, let's say two hours. Try cutting back to an hour and a half a day, for however long you need to become comfortable with that, then down to the next increment of your choosing for the next period of your choosing, and keep decreasing the time you watch porn each day until you have to stop to decrease it further, if you get down to say 15 minutes, you can start going whole days without it if quitting at that point is still too difficult. Or, if there's other factors that you enjoy other than just viewing the videos, maybe take a different approach and force yourself to watch the videos without incorporating any activities which go along with it, if this is too difficult, perhaps force yourself to go a little bit longer each time where you just watch the porn in the beginning before adding any extra activities other than simply viewing it. This would help you wean off any secondary pleasures that may even be more addictive than watching the porn. Even doing the habit less should be something you should be happy about, and should boost your confidence, because even though you still do it, you are doing it less and working toward not doing it at all. If you choose weaning down, avoid the temptation to wean back up, if your current limit is 20 minutes, don't go above 20 minutes (mean, if you do 22 one day, don't beat yourself up, but do not go up to something like 30 or 40 from 20).
Now, the enemy will attempt to stop your progress in any of these areas, this is where spiritual values come in. the biBle says this becomes like warfare. What he will probably do, is tempt you with laziness to keep you from exercising regularly enough to lose weight, and cause feelings of wanting to watch porn more when you are trying to watch it less, you should be able to identify what that looks like for you, it says to treat these feeling as if they are literally your worst enemies working inside your head and body, to keep you doing the behaviors that are hurting you emotionally and spiritually. This gives you a way to motivate yourself further to resist these temptations, because you are no longer just trying to stop watching porn, and lose weight, it becomes a matter of an fighting against an enemy which has long sense sought your destruction. This makes every minute of resisting the feelings to not exercise and watch porn as if you are winning a fight against your enemy, your friend's enemy, your parents enemy, and every step you take when you feel like quitting, every piece of extra food you turn down, and everytime you put off watching porn, is a victory over your worse enemy, which is no small thing when it comes to spiritual strength, according to the biBle, if eve, the first woman, had a victory of like this over not eating a fruit, we would not surely die. Each victory of this defeats your enemy, attests to your spiritual strength, and helps you overcome your problems. which means, if you are walking, and you do not turn around because you feel it is becoming more challenging, you are winning a battle in a war as if you were a powerful warrior, if you put off watching porn, even to later, you are proving yourself more powerful than the enemy in that battle, if someone makes fun of you for your appearance, and you don't let it cause you to fall back in your progress, or go home and isolate, you have won a battle against your enemy using the very thing he despises and is trying to keep from you, your confidence. Do these things, and you will prove capable of having determination, self-control, emotional strength, all of which attest you would be foolish to not have confidence, because these qualities are qualities of a healthy, strong and respectable man. Having victory over spirits of the enemy, improving your own life, and making yourself even more respectable to others than you already are. The enemy might send temptations your way to reverse your progress, you might get made fun of for your body, don't let it stop you from losing weight, your parent's divorce might provide means to depress you into not having motivation to exercise and give in to your wants, try to think of giving in as letting evil in them cause more evil in you, and resist it for the sake of strength, he may tempt you to eat extra food, remember extra food will add to your weight unless compensated by more exercise, every piece of extra food makes your weight loss require extra work, or the porn you subscribe to may corm out with a promotional, making it more attractive to view often, which would be the enemy making your addiction more attractive, every temptation you resist makes you stronger and more able to resist future temptation, and remember that everything I have suggested makes you a stronger person everytime you practice them, and you should feel stronger and more confident everytime you accomplish them, even partially, do not let thoughts of thinking these are too small of things to amount to you being worthy of confidence rob you of confidence once you achieve these things because it is not so, they are important. These are the things that make the weak man strong, they are not to be diminished.
And if you fail, show weakness, give in, now or at any point, do not despair, feel it is hopeless, or let it tempt you into giving up, this is what jesus coming for your forgiveness is for, and it is only one of the ways he strengthens people.
Thanks so much! Yea i will definately do this advice sometimes it is so hard sayign no when the desire is so strong.. I will definately at least make an effeort i wanted to ask if u can keep me in ur prayers and i am also concerned that God has hardened my heart because my emotions are like more solid like i am more mean than i want to be and more i guess not caring and it is honestly scary ;/
I hear ya bro, I remember when the exercise for me was focusing on not subconsciously moving my hand, it was really difficult, but for me it was learning to use it like a work out routine for self-control, every few minutes resisting like a set of reps, overtime gaining strength to do more reps, and the different perspective motivated me to do better, you figure out what works for you.
On your new topic.
I will not go and say someone who bursts with joy:
"GUYS SHE FORGIVES ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YESSSSSSSSSSSSS THANK YOU JESUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
Really has a fully hardened heart, and remember strongly held tenants are love thy neighbor as thyself, and do not act in anger, envy, greed, does it sound at all like the same who told you this would harden your heart? No, treat this too as a cunning and actually more urgent to address issue caused by the enemy than even your weight issue and porn addiction. Learning specifically what is said about an issue is how one becomes guilty, so I want to leave it simply at the enemy knows a way to use this to kill you, for your conscious sake, so you can hear the importance and if you need to hear the details you will find them someday, where as a typical porn addiction defiles you, and having weight causes you to seek seclusion, the enemy knows of ways to cause your death with anger, fighting the urge to do this is far more important than what you started this thread asking for help with.
So even more so, resist the temptation to be angry, resist it strongly, do not want to watch porn more or give up exercise, but know that these things compared to anger and meanness, you would be better off doing a hundred times over. It can be difficult, parents going through divorce, being overweight, feeling guilty constantly over a porn addiction, and you just turned 17, I can imagine it would not be hard for someone to push you to anger, having all that stacked on top you and wanting to enjoy your high school days before they end. But if making yourself take a step beyond what is comfortable to lose weight is a victory over the enemy, resisting the temptation to act in anger is to fight off him coming at you with a poison dagger with your fist! Glory goes to the one who resists anger! He has all it, but Glory to be shared with you if you resist anger! The enemy does not want you to do this, with this, he will come with many deceptions, many reasons will fill you in the moment to act in anger, and those tempting you to do so will provide them on purpose, the enemy knows how devastating being angry on habit can be any given day, This is one of the temptations he would resort to sending 10 spirits to tempt you at once to do, apply dark magic to make your mind like drunk while tempting you, yet remember he can do all this to sway you, but every attack and method you resist either makes you stronger, or makes you aware of strength you already have but can't see yet. Seriously, when someone does something that offends, watch for it, you will feel a "buzzing" in your mind and the urge to offend them back, if you resist and say nothing, they may continue, pay attention as that feeling gets stronger, and the urge gets worse. The reason for it is to direct you toward the evidence of what im telling you, the "buzz", slightly debilitating like being drunk shortening thoughts, is evidence of the enemy im mentioning being real, it comes directly from the enemy, and see how it gets stronger each time you say no to it. See how thoughts spoken to you in nearly silent whispers from spirits fill you with ideas of ways to exercise anger and vengeance, say no to all of them, do not make the mistake of thinking you need to make it hard on yourself either, this is not about displaying raw strength, this is about learning to resist anger, if you need to leave a situation let no one stop you (and if they do try, in our country that is a felony which carries a 15 year prison sentence as long as it can be defined as "stopping a person from going where they choose" so don't let anyone stop you from leaving, unless it is to prevent truancy or you are under arrest), if you need to go take a break go take a break, if you need to go think go and do so, as long as you avoid acting out in anger, you will have won this battle, even if you have to run from the situation, and feel weak, it is stronger to do so than to stay and act out in anger. and if you require help after im gone and you are alone in the world, he watches down from heaven, cry out in your mind, that you have heard of the tenants, love the neighbor and do not act in anger, cry that you to want these things also, but that the enemy, the same who is accursed above all creatures of the land for tempting man to disobey, is now attacking you, and for the love of these ways, and the love that you and He agree, to rescue you from tactics you are not strong enough to fight, and give you way to find the strength for the temptations you are strong enough to fight.
And always remember the belief jesus has gotten your sins forgiven, so if you do act in anger, or violate any tenant, there is not a moment which exists you have to hurt yourself over it, and feeling guilty and beating yourself up is dishonoring that, just always try for being better.