So, I have youth group at my local church on Thursdays after school. It runs from 6:30 to 8:30, and my mom insisted for a while that me and my sister be home by 9:00. I've been late pretty consistently, arriving at home at 9:15 most nights, and the worst she has ever done has been becoming moderately irritated with me for being late.
Until yesterday, that is.
I had just spent about a half an hour after youth group finished talking to my friends, because I don't really get to talk to them at school very much, especially my girlfriend. I got home at 9:15, as usual, only this time, instead of just getting angry at me, she straight up told me that I couldn't go to youth group anymore, even going so far as to say that I shouldn't have been at all surprised by this happening because I've been late all the time. She had never so much as threatened to take away my ability to go to youth group before now, and then she just suddenly dumped the whole "you're not going anymore, and that's that" thing on me.
I got really upset that I didn't even get to plead my case, to which she responded with a kind of cold, cavalier attitude. I got grounded yelling at myself for being so stupid and for throwing my keys on the ground in anger and disgust (which was fine; it was inappropriate and I should have been grounded for that), but only after my father came in to settle things down. He told me that I shouldn't go to youth group if I couldn't come home on time, but he thought that permanently grounding me from youth group was the wrong thing to do, which my mother silently disagreed with (she won't speak up to my father because she fears him to a degree and respects his word greatly).
If my father hadn't been there for me (which he usually isn't), I would've lost one of my only social outlets. I know that my mother was in the wrong, but also that I messed up by getting so angry. But I fear that if I make another mistake like coming home late again, I might lose the relationship that I have with my girlfriend as part of an off-hand punishment from my mother, because I don't actually think anymore that she's above that kind of thing. I'm really worried, and in order to keep everything going well, I've practically got to live flawlessly and get A's or B's on all of my assignments at school, an impossible task for me to say the least. I think that I'm pretty much screwed for the next six months (until I hopefully move out), and I don't know what to do. Advice and prayers would be much appreciated.
Until yesterday, that is.
I had just spent about a half an hour after youth group finished talking to my friends, because I don't really get to talk to them at school very much, especially my girlfriend. I got home at 9:15, as usual, only this time, instead of just getting angry at me, she straight up told me that I couldn't go to youth group anymore, even going so far as to say that I shouldn't have been at all surprised by this happening because I've been late all the time. She had never so much as threatened to take away my ability to go to youth group before now, and then she just suddenly dumped the whole "you're not going anymore, and that's that" thing on me.
I got really upset that I didn't even get to plead my case, to which she responded with a kind of cold, cavalier attitude. I got grounded yelling at myself for being so stupid and for throwing my keys on the ground in anger and disgust (which was fine; it was inappropriate and I should have been grounded for that), but only after my father came in to settle things down. He told me that I shouldn't go to youth group if I couldn't come home on time, but he thought that permanently grounding me from youth group was the wrong thing to do, which my mother silently disagreed with (she won't speak up to my father because she fears him to a degree and respects his word greatly).
If my father hadn't been there for me (which he usually isn't), I would've lost one of my only social outlets. I know that my mother was in the wrong, but also that I messed up by getting so angry. But I fear that if I make another mistake like coming home late again, I might lose the relationship that I have with my girlfriend as part of an off-hand punishment from my mother, because I don't actually think anymore that she's above that kind of thing. I'm really worried, and in order to keep everything going well, I've practically got to live flawlessly and get A's or B's on all of my assignments at school, an impossible task for me to say the least. I think that I'm pretty much screwed for the next six months (until I hopefully move out), and I don't know what to do. Advice and prayers would be much appreciated.
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