Having problems with boys

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Noble_Wolf

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for some reason it didn't say XD

but that was a reply to Blue Lady bug
 
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blue_ladybug

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Didn't you used to be Wolf_Gaming? I never forget a name..lol.. Anyhoo, I never said that what happened to me will happen to the OP. But many times, it IS a bad idea to date someone you're good friends with. :)
 
laura_charlotte

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Noble_Wolf said:
Just because your friends did that to you does not mean it will happen to others.
Becoming friends with someone you show interest in is a very good idea, and if you have been friends for a while it makes it even better for many reasons.


What i am getting at is it does not seem like the best advise to tell someone "NEVER date friends"
Also, this is just my opinion about dating friends. However I think it best for her to take this to the Lord in prayer and
spending some alone time with him and in his word.

Who knows maybe one of them is the one God wants, but at the same time maybe not. But she should probobly talk to God about this difficult situation she is in.
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Fantastic advice! The generalisations offered in advice from a limited perspective of extreme experiences to innocent, young people working through a simple situation is startling. My parents started out as friends long before they entered courtship and have been together happy and healthy for 40 years going strong. With the right people involved under God's will, friends factor has no negative influence.
 
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Blueblonde9916

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Okay, I kinda know how it is. I am still friends with a guy I've liked for years. We've even dated. But he's a good guy so, unlike the others here, I'm not going to suggest you leave them. If they're truly good friends, don't leave them. If God wants you to have different friends, then you'll know. And if he has some other person in mind for you to like then he'll show you.
 
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Chelsea1030

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Blueblonde9916 said:
Okay, I kinda know how it is. I am still friends with a guy I've liked for years. We've even dated. But he's a good guy so, unlike the others here, I'm not going to suggest you leave them. If they're truly good friends, don't leave them. If God wants you to have different friends, then you'll know. And if he has some other person in mind for you to like then he'll show you.
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Yeah, I'm not going to leave them. I'm deciding to take everything slow.
 
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Tinuviel

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Chelsea1030 said:
Yeah, I'm not going to leave them. I'm deciding to take everything slow.
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Chelsea, you're the only one who can make that choice, but please be careful. We've been discussing some of these things in the Ladies Forum in the thread I started titled Friends? Give it a look-see, and/or leave your own input.
 
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Blueblonde9916

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Honestly, if your friends/crushes are still very good friends, then don't stop being friends with them. And there's nothing wrong with dating a friend. It'd just be best to pick one and stick with that one.

Besides, when you date a friend you knew well, then you know how they are before they try to be your boyfriend. You kinda get to know a person more when you're friends first.

Just my opinion :)
 
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