Apparently I'm creepy

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Blueblonde9916

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I have been praying to God for a while now, asking him to give me a hint or an answer. The question I had was if a guy I liked still liked me back. I went to church yesterday and God answered my prayer and he made it clear. I had prayed the day before yesterday for God to give me a sign or two just to make sure I knew whether or not that guy likes me.

Turns out, that guy doesn't like me. I've been pathetic and an idiot for liking the same dude for nearly 5 years. I also know how he and my other friend feel about me. (I call them friends but we hardly TALK talk.) They both think I'm weird and maybe even just a little too much. Or creepy. And annoying. Maybe even clingy.

I don't know why I'm like this. I know I'm socially awkward and that probably contributed to the curse of people thinking I'm weird. I'm either too quiet or too loud. I'm either too shy or too blunt. I blush and stutter and sweat when I'm talked to by a stranger. I can hardly handle paying for things at stores and I nearly cry if I lose the person I was with in public. Then I get these adrenaline rushes that make me do things I don't mean to and make me seem silly and stupid. I'm not stupid. Occasionally, I've had a few temporary friends say I was fun and cool, but if I was, then why am I being weird?
I just want friends. And I would love to have a boyfriend that I could hang out with and just have fun doing little things together. But I live in the middle of nowhere with no real friends, let alone love interests. I'm tired of being alone. And it hurts when a guy you've been after for many years is actually not even fond of you.

So I know I'm alone. Oh, yeah, I have God. But that isn't the same. I mean, my brother always wants me to listen to his problems and all he has to say but if I try to tell him mine, he turns the convo back to himself. I wish someone would listen and care.

(Yeah, I know. I'm whining and it's pathetic and I shouldn't do it. But if I'm already creepy and weird then why not be pathetic too?)

So tell me. Am I the only one here feeling this way?
 
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NewWine

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I'm so sorry you're hurting. I wish I could make it better instantly for you.
I'm an odd duck too. High school was HORRIBLE for me. Those people you called friends don't love you. They think they do, but in reality, they're not mature enough to have a clue what love means yet. That is more about their immaturity than it is about you at all. The people who love you, love you BECAUSE of your quirks, because those quirks are part of make you the amazing person God created in you.
The world might think we're less, because we stand out, but the Bible says God calls us His masterpiece! We were uniquely created just for Him. Now surely, if the creator of all things call us His Masterpiece, with all the amazing things we see daily, then we're enough for mere people, right? You keep being the amazing person God created, keep yourself focused on God and what His will for you in, and people will begin to see your light and be drawn to you.

It's tough and sometimes heartbreaking, but it's worth the risk when you find those few people in your life you can truly call a friend.
Praying for you, little sister!
 

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God has something special for you---keep serving Him---forget about all your weird feelings and focus on other people----I have been encouraging people to pray 30 minutes a day in tongues---it changed my life---I came out of drugs 40 years ago---had blown my mind----praying in the Holy Ghost actually healed me----I would pray alot everyday---regular prayer is good too---but the Spirit knows our needs and problems...Grace and Preace..
 
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NewWine

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The best thing about high school is that it's only 4 years long.
 
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Tinuviel

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How old are you, BlueBlonde? Because it sounds like something a lot of teens go through, and if you work on it, it will get better. Trust me! I no longer get a rash on my hands from rubbing them together when they're all sweaty when people I don't know very well talk to me. I'm a lot better now and I think a huge part of it was deciding to forget about me and instead think about how I can minister to others and make them comfortable. When I try that, I actually find myself being more comfortable!! Yeah, I often stutter or say something dumb when someone says something unexpected, and yeah, sometimes I want to crawl into a hole and die when I laugh too loud or say something off-the-wall that made people think I'm weird.

Everyone in the world is a bit weird. The "friends" you have who apparently can't love you for who you are aren't really worth your time. I can't help you with advice about boyfriends, but for friends in general I have found adults to be way more caring, and for much of my life, my my friends have mostly been old enough to be my mother...that's ok! You can actually have a great friendship with someone who is older than you. Sometimes, they're more helpful to you than a peer because they've been where you are and know that the world isn't going to end because you made a social mistake (Because it feels like it IS going to end sometimes!!) God bless you, and know you are NOT alone!
 
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Colt45Bullet

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I've been there. Hard place to be. But the only way out is through
 

EmilyNats

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Most of my friends are old people from church, or my mom and dads friends. As Tinuviel said, adults can often, and usually do, make much better friends and influences. They don't have all that peer-pressure making them self conscious about who they are associating themselves with as long as you are not acting like a hoodlum.

As for boyfriends, in my opinion the only reason to have one is if you want to marry him.

But those "friends" of yours stink. Period. Hate to be so blunt, especially when talking about people you go to church with, but you just need to detach yourself from them. When you love a person, and I am speaking from personal experience, their personal flaws, past, etc... is not going to make you love them less.

And may I ask how exactly they communicated to you that they thought you were weird in a bad way?
 

G00WZ

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I have been praying to God for a while now, asking him to give me a hint or an answer. The question I had was if a guy I liked still liked me back. I went to church yesterday and God answered my prayer and he made it clear. I had prayed the day before yesterday for God to give me a sign or two just to make sure I knew whether or not that guy likes me.

Turns out, that guy doesn't like me. I've been pathetic and an idiot for liking the same dude for nearly 5 years. I also know how he and my other friend feel about me. (I call them friends but we hardly TALK talk.) They both think I'm weird and maybe even just a little too much. Or creepy. And annoying. Maybe even clingy.

I don't know why I'm like this. I know I'm socially awkward and that probably contributed to the curse of people thinking I'm weird. I'm either too quiet or too loud. I'm either too shy or too blunt. I blush and stutter and sweat when I'm talked to by a stranger. I can hardly handle paying for things at stores and I nearly cry if I lose the person I was with in public. Then I get these adrenaline rushes that make me do things I don't mean to and make me seem silly and stupid. I'm not stupid. Occasionally, I've had a few temporary friends say I was fun and cool, but if I was, then why am I being weird?
I just want friends. And I would love to have a boyfriend that I could hang out with and just have fun doing little things together. But I live in the middle of nowhere with no real friends, let alone love interests. I'm tired of being alone. And it hurts when a guy you've been after for many years is actually not even fond of you.

So I know I'm alone. Oh, yeah, I have God. But that isn't the same. I mean, my brother always wants me to listen to his problems and all he has to say but if I try to tell him mine, he turns the convo back to himself. I wish someone would listen and care.

(Yeah, I know. I'm whining and it's pathetic and I shouldn't do it. But if I'm already creepy and weird then why not be pathetic too?)

So tell me. Am I the only one here feeling this way?
Ive been there and called weird and creepy...It was especially annoying in high school when i used to try to fit in. What got me through it, was focusing exclusively on what i thought about myself, instead of trying to meet other peoples expectations, or even caring what they thought about me...You need to build yourself up in Christ, and take inner territories rather then trying to go after things that are on the outside. What you think about yourself, and how you react to it will ultimately determine how you will be, if you are constantly listening to, and agreeing with what people say about you, you will become whatever they are speaking over you.... As for the one guy not liking you after all this time... yea it hurts, but don't think about it too much.. the world is full of guys, and you still have time.
 

G00WZ

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oh yea and some guys like weird creepy girls... the first girl i had a crush on always had this green snot running from her nose, she would always sit there either picking her nose or eating boogers when she thought nobody was watching... but i saw.. and i thought she was disgustingly awesome lol
 
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Tinuviel

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Most of my friends are old people from church, or my mom and dads friends. As Tinuviel said, adults can often, and usually do, make much better friends and influences. They don't have all that peer-pressure making them self conscious about who they are associating themselves with as long as you are not acting like a hoodlum.

As for boyfriends, in my opinion the only reason to have one is if you want to marry him.

But those "friends" of yours stink. Period. Hate to be so blunt, especially when talking about people you go to church with, but you just need to detach yourself from them. When you love a person, and I am speaking from personal experience, their personal flaws, past, etc... is not going to make you love them less.

And may I ask how exactly they communicated to you that they thought you were weird in a bad way?
Never mind, disregard my message; Emily here said it in a far more compact and understandable way. :D
 
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I can assure you God doesn't think you're "creepy" or "weird". What truly matters is what the lord thinks of us not what anyone of this fallen world thinks.
 
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Tinuviel

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I agree :) (ten characters)
That Emily said it in a more compact and understandable way, or that my message should be disregarded? You realize THIS means war! :D
 
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Yahweh_is_gracious

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No, you're not the only person who feels that way. I used to be exactly the same way. I say "used to" not because I ever really solved my issues, but because I gave up entirely years ago because I am a person of very weak character.
 

88

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They don't let you do that in school---I was a teacher...
 

tourist

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I have been praying to God for a while now, asking him to give me a hint or an answer. The question I had was if a guy I liked still liked me back. I went to church yesterday and God answered my prayer and he made it clear. I had prayed the day before yesterday for God to give me a sign or two just to make sure I knew whether or not that guy likes me.

Turns out, that guy doesn't like me. I've been pathetic and an idiot for liking the same dude for nearly 5 years. I also know how he and my other friend feel about me. (I call them friends but we hardly TALK talk.) They both think I'm weird and maybe even just a little too much. Or creepy. And annoying. Maybe even clingy.

I don't know why I'm like this. I know I'm socially awkward and that probably contributed to the curse of people thinking I'm weird. I'm either too quiet or too loud. I'm either too shy or too blunt. I blush and stutter and sweat when I'm talked to by a stranger. I can hardly handle paying for things at stores and I nearly cry if I lose the person I was with in public. Then I get these adrenaline rushes that make me do things I don't mean to and make me seem silly and stupid. I'm not stupid. Occasionally, I've had a few temporary friends say I was fun and cool, but if I was, then why am I being weird?
I just want friends. And I would love to have a boyfriend that I could hang out with and just have fun doing little things together. But I live in the middle of nowhere with no real friends, let alone love interests. I'm tired of being alone. And it hurts when a guy you've been after for many years is actually not even fond of you.

So I know I'm alone. Oh, yeah, I have God. But that isn't the same. I mean, my brother always wants me to listen to his problems and all he has to say but if I try to tell him mine, he turns the convo back to himself. I wish someone would listen and care.

(Yeah, I know. I'm whining and it's pathetic and I shouldn't do it. But if I'm already creepy and weird then why not be pathetic too?)

So tell me. Am I the only one here feeling this way?
You are not alone in being alone for there are many others that are alone too. It is a shame that you wasted 5 years on a guy that was never really interested in you but that's now in the past. Perhaps you can make a few meaningful friends on this site. By the way, you are not creepy, weird or pathetic.
 

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Most creepy people are normal people thinking about stuff----instead of the Lord----God loves you---follow Him---leave the creepiness to the devil's crowd...
 

EmilyNats

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No, you're not the only person who feels that way. I used to be exactly the same way. I say "used to" not because I ever really solved my issues, but because I gave up entirely years ago because I am a person of very weak character.
You always seem pretty strong-headed to me. :p
 

Desdichado

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Sage wisdom from an elder-

If affection is not being returned after years of trying, get out and find somebody else.

Continue on a path like this, and unhealthy thoughts like this will invariably creep in.

Stay strong, sista. Being a teen is rough. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.


...okay, maybe my worst enemy.