Sigh.......Masturbation

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Hello Everyone, my name is Tierra' and i'm 17 years old. Today is my 4th day on here so i'm still pretty new and learning more about this site every day. Other then a few close guy friends, i've never told any one else about my addiction to masturbating and occasionaly watching pornography. My closest friends and family don't know about all of the nights that i struggle to do what i know is right (which is of course not to do it or watch it). I don't open up easily and at times i'm really shy. I know i can't get over this problem myself, i know that i need help not only from god but from somewhere else as well. I've been struggling with this for quite sometime and i want to stop. I give into temptation and i cry for hours and ask for forgiveness and just go into a miserable state of mind because of all of the guilt that i feel inside. I want help with this. I want to stop. I need help. I'm definitely not use to asking for help but i just want to say to everyone who reads this If you can help me, PLEASE help me. I know this was extremely long and i apologize but thank you for taking time out of your life to read this and God Bless You.
 
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Let me tell you a little secret... everyone does it. No one talks about it. Take it easy on yourself, you're only human after all!

This will probably turn into another debate thread but one thing always stands true..."The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak." (Matthew 26:42)

If you believe its sin, repent! BUT dont believe that you can completely resist doing it until you are married. There are hormones at work in your body. Its not just in your head. The longer you don't do it, the more the tension is going to build in you. Ok, Ive said too much already. Thats all I have to say. PM me if u feel u need to talk more.
 
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So much for being the first poster! Kudos to ~zeroturbulence, especially for offering a very wisened insight in the topic!
Well, I can't say too much in the way of weaning yourself from said addictions, but all I can say is that I am, like you, a teenager struggling with the same addictions. I've wanted to leave it alone for some time but I keep getting drawn back to it.
If you want someone of alike age with whom you can empathise, simply PM me and we'll talk. God bless.
 
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Thank you both and others who have sent me messgaes. I really appreciate you reading about me and sharing with me your personal situations in your lives and your opinions.
 
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Be Your Own Master

Remember, you need to master your behavior, or else sin will master it for you. Even a good thing can become sinful without the right heart. Even if you don’t believe that masturbation is a sin, if it is controlling you then it is a sin.

1 Corinthians 6:12 – “Everything is permissible for me, but not everything is beneficial. ‘Everything is permissible for me’ – but I will not be mastered by anything.” (NIV)

Even though these scriptures are used as an argument against masturbation, they do not necessarily make masturbation as a sin very clear. Yet, it is important that a person look at the reasons for masturbation to see if the desire behind the act is actually a sin. Some Christians believe that, because masturbation does not hurt others, it is not a sin. However, other Christians ask a person to look deeper within to see if masturbation is building a relationship with God or taking away from it.
 
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Tierra said:
Hello Everyone, my name is Tierra' and i'm 17 years old. Today is my 4th day on here so i'm still pretty new and learning more about this site every day. Other then a few close guy friends, i've never told any one else about my addiction to masturbating and occasionaly watching pornography. My closest friends and family don't know about all of the nights that i struggle to do what i know is right (which is of course not to do it or watch it). I don't open up easily and at times i'm really shy. I know i can't get over this problem myself, i know that i need help not only from god but from somewhere else as well. I've been struggling with this for quite sometime and i want to stop. I give into temptation and i cry for hours and ask for forgiveness and just go into a miserable state of mind because of all of the guilt that i feel inside. I want help with this. I want to stop. I need help. I'm definitely not use to asking for help but i just want to say to everyone who reads this If you can help me, PLEASE help me. I know this was extremely long and i apologize but thank you for taking time out of your life to read this and God Bless You.
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Sister, for years I had that problem... along with many other. And still, from time to time it pops into my head as an idea when im sitting at the computer even today. But only as an idea now. Only a temptation.
What did it for me was one night lying in bed, once again, feeling like crap, realising that i couldn't deal with it myself, and I felt called to literally speak the words "Lord i rebuke the power of lust over my life, and I give up my feelings of lust to you". For a while i spoke those words often as God kept working in my life. But God got me out of it. He's powerful sister. Oh so powerful. Ask for his forgiveness and then give up your hardships to him :)

God Bless sister. You are not alone.
- Daniel

- PM anytime you wish :)
God bless.
 
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Great posts here! I think this is something most people have or do struggle with. God knows your struggling though, remember that, and that he loves you! I struggle with it, and talk with someone on here about it, he is very encouraging, and of course I pray about it!!!

A Pastor at another Church here where I live preached on how to fight sin and overcome it. He said many of us ask God to simply take it away, or help us. Yes he will do that, but he has already given us a tool to strengthen ourselves Spiritually; Fasting. I don't know if you ever had or where your at Spiritually in your walk with God, but fasting truly helps you keep your flesh under control because your Spirituality has risen. Before you do fast though, if you don't know much about it, I would ask your Pastor about it or even ask around, or search it.

If you wanna talk more, or need some explanation about fasting, don't hesitate to message me!!!

God Bless.
 
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Tierra said:
Hello Everyone, my name is Tierra' and i'm 17 years old. Today is my 4th day on here so i'm still pretty new and learning more about this site every day. Other then a few close guy friends, i've never told any one else about my addiction to masturbating and occasionaly watching pornography. My closest friends and family don't know about all of the nights that i struggle to do what i know is right (which is of course not to do it or watch it). I don't open up easily and at times i'm really shy. I know i can't get over this problem myself, i know that i need help not only from god but from somewhere else as well. I've been struggling with this for quite sometime and i want to stop. I give into temptation and i cry for hours and ask for forgiveness and just go into a miserable state of mind because of all of the guilt that i feel inside. I want help with this. I want to stop. I need help. I'm definitely not use to asking for help but i just want to say to everyone who reads this If you can help me, PLEASE help me. I know this was extremely long and i apologize but thank you for taking time out of your life to read this and God Bless You.
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setting captives free. com

I never had a problem with masturbation or pornography, but yeah, i'll just say. I know what your goin through. You dont wanna do something so bad, but you just cant stop. Its like paul says in romans. I do what i hate. For 12 years i had a sexual addiction. So if god can deliver me from the things i was doing, He can do it with you as well. Mine was so bad, i would feel physically sick and actually get withdrawl symptoms if i didnt do it, because for 12 years i was basically getting high off of what i was doing.

Please just dont give up hope. I know how easy it is to just slip into hopelessness, and think you'll never change or you'll never get it right! Its gonna be really painful to stop doing what your doing, but its gonna be so worth it in the end. You need to do whatever it is you have to do to stop! If that means someone putting a password on your computer that they only know... do it. When you feel that temptation to masturbate get out of wherever you are! The lady i was accountable to when i was goin through it, she would tell me if you have to lock yourself in your room to keep from leaving your house and doing something stupid. DO IT. So thats exactly what i did. The settingcaptivesfree website there will be an accountability partner for you on there that has been through what you have.
 
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hi Tierra,
welcome to christian chat. wow i never new porn could be a big struggle for girls as well. to stop this takes will power and also God's help. if you really want to stop then you can. pray to God and ask Him to help you He most certainly will give you the desire to stop. resist the things that make you want to do it. change the way you think, the things you watch, listen to. if you arent active, then maybe you could find a sport to play, join a church club with teens like yourself and become more active in working for the Lord. i think the more occupied you become with God's work, the less likely that you will want to continue this negative habit. i pray that God strengthens you. Blessings on you.
 
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Zero turbulence, you seem to have surrendered yourself to defeat. how about striving against sin? 1Corinth10:13, says that God will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able to bear but that He will also make a way to escape.
 
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Zero turbulence, you seem to have surrendered yourself to defeat. how about striving against sin? 1Corinth10:13, says that God will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able to bear but that He will also make a way to escape.
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I've surrrender to the fact that I am not perfect.

Yes there are ways to kill the temptation which involves suppressing one's libido (sex drive) but that is very unnatural, and to do that would be harming the body in other ways (lowered male and female sex hormones - estrogen and testosterone). The lowering of these hormones is bad for the body, especially in young people.

Low estrogen levels leads to depression, dry skin, weight gain, etc.. Low testosterone leads to weight gain, fatigue, loss of muscle tissue, etc..

How do u lower these hormones? By suppressing your libido..either mentally or inadvertently through obesity, depression (I guess thats mentally), poor diet, lack of exercise, etc..

No matter how you slice it, the M word is something a healthy person can't avoid unless they have a partner who is always available.
 
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It's a hard thing to get over.
I'm sure all the creepers will be PMing me once I admit that I do it, too.
But finding a way to get over it is hard.
When I start to get the urge to, I usually just go do something else. Turn off the computor, go eat a carrot.
I liek veggies, idk what yooh liek, but have a healthy snack and talk to God. Always works for me.

He's always there for yooh.

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I've surrrender to the fact that I am not perfect.

Yes there are ways to kill the temptation which involves suppressing one's libido (sex drive) but that is very unnatural, and to do that would be harming the body in other ways (lowered male and female sex hormones - estrogen and testosterone). The lowering of these hormones is bad for the body, especially in young people.

Low estrogen levels leads to depression, dry skin, weight gain, etc.. Low testosterone leads to weight gain, fatigue, loss of muscle tissue, etc..How do u lower these hormones? By suppressing your libido..either mentally or inadvertently through obesity, depression (I guess thats mentally), poor diet, lack of exercise, etc..

No matter how you slice it, the M word is something a healthy person can't avoid unless they have a partner who is always available.
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Red wine is also healthy for us, but does God want us to go out and drink?
There are way to get through it, prayer, fasting, and reading God's word.
Do you not think that the People in the NT had these temptations? But I'm sure they were able to overcome them and not "please" themselves.

If God told us not to do it, then we must be able to not do it in a healthy matter.

Guilt and condemnation of ourselves is not healthy Spiritually or mentally either.
 
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Red wine is also healthy for us, but does God want us to go out and drink?
There are way to get through it, prayer, fasting, and reading God's word.
Do you not think that the People in the NT had these temptations? But I'm sure they were able to overcome them and not "please" themselves.

If God told us not to do it, then we must be able to not do it in a healthy matter.

Guilt and condemnation of ourselves is not healthy Spiritually or mentally either.
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Didnt you know that Jesus' first miracle was to turn water into wine? Yes..so people at the wedding in Cana can drink it. (John 2:1-11)

Since Im still here, did u guys know that when a person gets aroused, there is an actual build up of fluids in the body and it has a medical term, 'vascoconstriction'. Its more than just resisting the temptaion. There are things happening inside you when u get aroused. Not attending to these things can lead to medical emergencies such as priapism. Its not natural to supress the urge. Not just unnatural, but medically it can harm you.
 
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Didnt you know that Jesus' first miracle was to turn water into wine? Yes..so people at the wedding in Cana can drink it. (John 2:1-11)

Since Im still here, did u guys know that when a person gets aroused, there is an actual build up of fluids in the body and it has a medical term, 'vascoconstriction'. Its more than just resisting the temptaion. There are things happening inside you when u get aroused. Not attending to these things can lead to medical emergencies such as priapism. Its not natural to supress the urge. Not just unnatural, but medically it can harm you.
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That point can be argued... Wine was both fermented and non-fermented in the NT.

Anyways, masturbation can be an addiction, and we can't serve two masters.
 
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There seems to be a lot of people saying that this is a sin that is acceptable....I assure you it is not. If you don't believe me then google Ted Bundy's last interview and see what a mass murderer has to say about pornography and sexual addiction. It is never OK and it is never acceptable to God. He came to set us free so why do we remain captives to sin and lust? I judge no one for I struggled with this for almost 20 years; the last question was rhetorical.

1 Corinthians 6:
18. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.
19. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;
20. you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

I had to get on my knees and cry out to God over and over to finally be delivered from my sexual lusts. There is hope for all! Jesus is in you and if Christ be for you then who can possibly be against you!

Throw out all of your pornography! Try the web site: Porn Addiction, Sex Addiction, Recovery and Help for some helpful hints, and steps to take, for freedom from this horrible sin.
God bless you all!
Thank the Lord!
Praise His name!
 
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There seems to be a lot of people saying that this is a sin that is acceptable....I assure you it is not. If you don't believe me then google Ted Bundy's last interview and see what a mass murderer has to say about pornography and sexual addiction. It is never OK and it is never acceptable to God. He came to set us free so why do we remain captives to sin and lust? I judge no one for I struggled with this for almost 20 years; the last question was rhetorical.

1 Corinthians 6:
18. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.
19. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;
20. you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

I had to get on my knees and cry out to God over and over to finally be delivered from my sexual lusts. There is hope for all! Jesus is in you and if Christ be for you then who can possibly be against you!

Throw out all of your pornography! Try the web site: Porn Addiction, Sex Addiction, Recovery and Help for some helpful hints, and steps to take, for freedom from this horrible sin.
God bless you all!
Thank the Lord!
Praise His name!
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Amen Brother!
 
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...Since Im still here, did u guys know that when a person gets aroused, there is an actual build up of fluids in the body and it has a medical term, 'vascoconstriction'...
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I meant to type "vasocongestion" not vasoconstriction lol.

Yes we cannot serve two masters, and if it is mastering you (taking over your life) you should seek real help from professional counselors.
 
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If you have sex with yourself and you are a man you are having sex with a man
If you are having sex with yourself and your a woman you are having sex with a woman
and we all know what the bible says about beging with the same sex.
 
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I'm not going to get TOO much into the debate on this, but it's not specifically a sin by itself. The Bible says nothing on it honestly. However, as far as porn and lustful thoughts go, those are DEFINITELY wrong, and hard to stop. I don't have too much advice for you... But if you think you can, set up an "accountability" partner, that will ask you about it every once in a while. Make sure it's not somebody who will just crush you if you tell them, but somebody who will do their best to help you.

Having someone to account to will help I think =) Don't expect to stop immediately (though it's definitely possible), but I hope you improve soon! I'll pray for you =)
 
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