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biblegirl0123

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I have social anxiety so talking to people and asking them to hang out kind of scary especially since a lot time I get rejected . at my youth group I am friends with people and stuff ,but they all seem to hang out with each besides church . and I don't get invited unless its posted on Facebook . plus I am getting over a guy I liked . I wanna focus on God and not relationship with boys . but it hard to get oversome one . I felt like I was hearing Gods vocie but it might of been just my own goals not Gods . I also went on a retreat . I told people i have social anxiety people prayed for me and stuff . And herd other people stories and testimonys which cool to hear . but I feel like my life got harder not better after people prayed for me . I also just feel overwhelmed by life and all I am expected of .
 

Blain

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I have social anxiety so talking to people and asking them to hang out kind of scary especially since a lot time I get rejected . at my youth group I am friends with people and stuff ,but they all seem to hang out with each besides church . and I don't get invited unless its posted on Facebook . plus I am getting over a guy I liked . I wanna focus on God and not relationship with boys . but it hard to get oversome one . I felt like I was hearing Gods vocie but it might of been just my own goals not Gods . I also went on a retreat . I told people i have social anxiety people prayed for me and stuff . And herd other people stories and testimonys which cool to hear . but I feel like my life got harder not better after people prayed for me . I also just feel overwhelmed by life and all I am expected of .
Hi welcome to cc:) getting over that kind of social anxiety is never easy but your on the right course if you focus on God then everything else will fall into place. Honestly it's nice to have a Christian forum to talk on I knew person here once who had severe social anxiety she couldn't barely mumble around people but wow on these forums she was outspoken and was wise beyond her years she had to leave after a couple years but I kept in contact with her.

It turns out that as she became closer to God by being here she was able to speak to random people like it was nothing in real life. God works in mysterious ways even online lol
 
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mariner845

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God may be strengthening you for His greater purpose in the future. He tests us, puts us through the fire so that He can mold us like clay. No one has ever been great who has not also gone through adversity, and Gods purposes for us are great. It strengthens us and makes us more resilient. Their may be a time where the enemies of Christians try to break down your faith but being strengthened through this time now, focusing on Him and learning to rely on The Lord will make you unbreakable in Him :)
 

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I have social anxiety so talking to people and asking them to hang out kind of scary especially since a lot time I get rejected . at my youth group I am friends with people and stuff ,but they all seem to hang out with each besides church . and I don't get invited unless its posted on Facebook . plus I am getting over a guy I liked . I wanna focus on God and not relationship with boys . but it hard to get oversome one . I felt like I was hearing Gods vocie but it might of been just my own goals not Gods . I also went on a retreat . I told people i have social anxiety people prayed for me and stuff . And herd other people stories and testimonys which cool to hear . but I feel like my life got harder not better after people prayed for me . I also just feel overwhelmed by life and all I am expected of .
**** get close to God---- find a couple real Christian friends....
 
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I have social anxiety so talking to people and asking them to hang out kind of scary especially since a lot time I get rejected . at my youth group I am friends with people and stuff ,but they all seem to hang out with each besides church . and I don't get invited unless its posted on Facebook . plus I am getting over a guy I liked . I wanna focus on God and not relationship with boys . but it hard to get oversome one . I felt like I was hearing Gods vocie but it might of been just my own goals not Gods . I also went on a retreat . I told people i have social anxiety people prayed for me and stuff . And herd other people stories and testimonys which cool to hear . but I feel like my life got harder not better after people prayed for me . I also just feel overwhelmed by life and all I am expected of .
Hi. I can relate. I've had some issues with social anxiety so I know it can be difficult.
The trick to social anxiety is that it changes how you act around others. Chances are, to them, you come across as unfriendly or closed off. Possibly even snobbish.
Often times the best way to beat things like this is to force yourself into unpleasant situations. Doing this over and over makes you desensitized to the fear. It may not cure it, but might help enough to make things easier and more manageable.

Far as getting over people, I've had to do that many, many times. It's a painful process, but one that is survivable. It can help to remind yourself that it was for your best if things didn't work out.

You will find friends eventually. Just keep pushing yourself. And remind yourself that the problem isn't because you're bad, but because you have a problem many others have as well.

Take care.
 
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Hello! I can definitely relate as I struggled with social anxiety quite a bit in high school and college. I know it's not easy and the thought of being rejected or brushed off is disheartening. Everyone has gone through it at some point. I still have it, but it's not nearly as severe as it used to be. It seems the older you get, the less you care about people judging you, especially when you're closer to God. Keep meditating on God's Word and doing His will for your life. It'll take time, but you'll overcome it. Praying for God's peace to fill your mind.
 

WineRose

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What you have is also known as a social phobia, and is a type of disorder. Obviously, I'm not qualified to give medical advice, so I suggest you should go see a therapist about that. But still, trust in God as always :)
 
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JustWhoIAm

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I think that the modern mental illness/disease model is almost if not all complete junk.

The idea of mental illness is very profitable and useful as population control ;)

Yes. Dis-order is right, and there are people who need care, people who are more than capable of contributing to society in a healthy and productive manner.

People cause dis-order. Don't just look in the mirror if you seem stuck with issues IMHO ;)
 
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My daughter has been diagnosed with a condition known as selective mutism. It's a social disorder that causes her to be extremely anxious around people she doesn't know. It affected her social interaction at church, school and every public forum of her life. We sought therapy for her and reluctantly put her on medication. I don't advocate medicating eveyone for every situation but in our situation, God has used it and we are seeing great results and give Him the glory for it. May not be the answer for everyone but maybe seek good christian counseling?
 

Socreta93

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Hey, you're not alone when I was your age, I went through the EXACT same thing (except the dating part). You honestly described my life during my teen years and at 23 I still struggle a bit. Just focus on God since he is the only one you need. We are all hear to help you and answer an questions you need. Welcome to CC
 
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35 That day when evening came, he said to his disciples, “Let us go over to the other side.” 36 Leaving the crowd behind, they took him along, just as he was, in the boat.There were also other boats with him. 37 A furious squall came up, and the waves broke over the boat, so that it was nearly swamped. 38 Jesus was in the stern, sleeping on a cushion. The disciples woke him and said to him, “Teacher, don’t you care if we drown?”
39 He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the waves, “Quiet! Be still!” Then the wind died down and it was completely calm.
40 He said to his disciples, “Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?”
41 They were terrified and asked each other, “Who is this? Even the wind and the waves obey him!”
Mark 4:35-41

Submit your worries and burdens to God's hands:) He will be there to calm the storms of your life:)
 
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Hai gurl!

I suffered from social anxiety for some years, it was hard. It's like you want to be with people but you are scared of that at the same time and you start feeling lonely.

God has the power to change you. If you trust Him, with time you'll realize it. :eek:
Make Him your priority above all the other things and put all your anxiety on His hands. Even if it doesn't seem this easy, it is because through grace He helps us.

I will pray for you!