Seriously I'm getting tired of being always alone. I feel like I'm a complete loser who doesn't have any friends or anyone to talk to at school. I don't have anyone to sit with at lunch. Instead I have to always sit alone and eat my lunch alone by the hallway. I'm always bored not having anyone to chat with at school. I don't even have anyone to talk to on the phone or have someone to hangout with in the weekend. I guess u can say I have 0 friends which mean I have no social life which suck.
I have no social life and I don't have any friend. How do you make some friends?
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I know you probably don't want to hear this, but Im gonna say it anyway....the only person stopping you from developing friendships is you. Listen, I was you about ten years ago when I was finishing high school so I understand what it feels like, but you need to get out and do things that are interesting to you and who know what or whom may come of it 
I don't have much of a social life, besides my two parents, a Muslim BFF, and my phone (does that count as a friend?)...but I love it so much, and I still live a pretty normal acedemic life, with my average grades being Bs and As. Being the most popular kid in school would in fact be among my worst nightmares. Though that may just be me, I don't think you want to rely on friends too much. They may end up overwhelming you. Instead, at least TRY to be comfortable alone. But if you still want to, despite my warning...well, I can't really describe it, as I am that silent loner kid in school, so I'll let someone else say it. What I can say, however, is that there's Facebook and Twitter, but only use this when finding friends is REALLY difficult for you.
Hi sonia,
I can feel what you feel, although we may not have exactly the same situation. I am not sure you have siblings, for i do have, but they had lots of other or extracurricular activities when we were young. We didnt get bikes bec. our parents thought there were a bit too many accidents on the roads outside, but they managed to borrow from classmates and friends-- and bike nearby too. A 'close' friend i thought i had in grade school had the nerve to eat from an 'ice candy' i was having one recess time, and i was surprised as we didnt do that at home=)! Since we were walking distance from school so always went home at lunch, i didnt experience that aloneness when young, but by high school, i often ate w/ just a classmate or 2. Perhaps being shy, i could approach other quiet or shier girls (but not guys).
I wondered abt sibs who could invite classmates at home, got into sports, even varsity later. I mostly played quieter games w/o much teamwork as those many ball games required a lot of yelling and 'friction,' meaning touching and bumping others. Since i loved music, i got the courage to approach the glee club teacher, who let me join perhaps bec. i could follow tunes even if i squeaked like a mouse... so let me ask what are your interests? And your ambition? Long ago, i dreamed of having an easel and painting outside in the wind. But i never, never thought it would be a profession. Also liked to read, but that would lead you to whatever you want to pursue, or learn abt other peoples and cultures if u may want to reach out in any way, even writing. I loved to write friendly letters, but that of course is very different to actual friendships and interactions. While young, find a way to practice interaction skills. Mom's such a friendly person, would talk to ppl at the bank she while she waits, a bus passenger she sits w/, etc. and know from what corners of the country or the world she's from and if theyre distantly related, ha2.
I can feel what you feel, although we may not have exactly the same situation. I am not sure you have siblings, for i do have, but they had lots of other or extracurricular activities when we were young. We didnt get bikes bec. our parents thought there were a bit too many accidents on the roads outside, but they managed to borrow from classmates and friends-- and bike nearby too. A 'close' friend i thought i had in grade school had the nerve to eat from an 'ice candy' i was having one recess time, and i was surprised as we didnt do that at home=)! Since we were walking distance from school so always went home at lunch, i didnt experience that aloneness when young, but by high school, i often ate w/ just a classmate or 2. Perhaps being shy, i could approach other quiet or shier girls (but not guys).
I wondered abt sibs who could invite classmates at home, got into sports, even varsity later. I mostly played quieter games w/o much teamwork as those many ball games required a lot of yelling and 'friction,' meaning touching and bumping others. Since i loved music, i got the courage to approach the glee club teacher, who let me join perhaps bec. i could follow tunes even if i squeaked like a mouse... so let me ask what are your interests? And your ambition? Long ago, i dreamed of having an easel and painting outside in the wind. But i never, never thought it would be a profession. Also liked to read, but that would lead you to whatever you want to pursue, or learn abt other peoples and cultures if u may want to reach out in any way, even writing. I loved to write friendly letters, but that of course is very different to actual friendships and interactions. While young, find a way to practice interaction skills. Mom's such a friendly person, would talk to ppl at the bank she while she waits, a bus passenger she sits w/, etc. and know from what corners of the country or the world she's from and if theyre distantly related, ha2.
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For a time, i tried to do what she did and even shared my pocket NT with a co-passenger. But thats not my lifestyle. At my age, i still wish to turn back time and took more effort to be more physically and socially active. I knew tho that i could not that easily relate to ppl my age as i can with an elder or grandparent, for example.
It will be up to you to try ways to figure out how to be more friendly. There was a campus crusade member who once shared a few mins. in class abt how shy she was before, but believed 'I can do all things through Christ who strengtheneth me.' You may assist in sunday school perhaps and see how u go with young children, helping w/ crafts. I hope u wont be self conscious w/ the young ones=). A young entrepreneur said he thought abt what others needed and 'served' them, hence not thinking abt others and not self. I hope some of this helps somehow.
For a time, i tried to do what she did and even shared my pocket NT with a co-passenger. But thats not my lifestyle. At my age, i still wish to turn back time and took more effort to be more physically and socially active. I knew tho that i could not that easily relate to ppl my age as i can with an elder or grandparent, for example.
It will be up to you to try ways to figure out how to be more friendly. There was a campus crusade member who once shared a few mins. in class abt how shy she was before, but believed 'I can do all things through Christ who strengtheneth me.' You may assist in sunday school perhaps and see how u go with young children, helping w/ crafts. I hope u wont be self conscious w/ the young ones=). A young entrepreneur said he thought abt what others needed and 'served' them, hence not thinking abt others and not self. I hope some of this helps somehow.
Being friend with people on fb or twitter wouldn't be a good idea since some people are fake. What wrong being the popular kid at school? The popular kid get to have many people attention and are able to hangout with other people. I think I rather be a popular a girl than a quiet loner girl who seem to be weird to people that doesn't have anyone to socialize.
I know you probably don't want to hear this, but Im gonna say it anyway....the only person stopping you from developing friendships is you. Listen, I was you about ten years ago when I was finishing high school so I understand what it feels like, but you need to get out and do things that are interesting to you and who know what or whom may come of it
Plus I don't really have anything do.
Can you try to go to a local church youth group? You will meet people there. I always say one of two good close honest friends are better the a bunch of back stabbing people who say they are your friend... I had one close friend through school back way long ago I am old lol. We are still friends today 20 plus years later..... hang in there school is a creepy place especially these days. Someone will friend you.
The scriptures teach That Jesus is your friend and will not forsake you. This world is an ongoing spiritual battle.
The Battle is for the mind. Jesus works through the heart. This means negative thoughts and feelings that come to mind are not fact. Cast out the thoughts that come to mind that are not good for you Scripture calls these flaming arrows from the enemy. That spiritual enemy is against Us and God.
Knowing now that there is a invisible enemy that may be sending some untruthful OUCH into our thoughts We can now
better stand our ground and ignore these negative untruthful thoughts that may come to mind
Since this is all in the Bible as Truth. And the entire Christian Bible is Truth. We can also know that Jesus in the Bible is
the creator of all things of Heaven and Earth. Jesus has power over all things. Nothing can happen that he does not allow.
Jesus is running the Universe and this World right now. No matter what people say or do. Jesus truth will always be so.
Jesus loves us, He wants a personal relationship with us. He will come into your life if you really seek him with all your heart. You can speak to a Pastor about more of this. Jesus will make himself known to you, speak with you, Nothing in this world can compare when one feels the Lord working in their life.
Getting with people! Being someone who has just about always ended up being rejected by any and all who potentially
could and should have been friends. Seems to always be just me and the Lord again. No complaints really though. For
the Lord has worked so powerfully in my life.
I have found active club type activities/hobbies works very well at getting with people and having fun. Exercise builds mood elevators in the body. It can be fun training, having goals, and getting better at the activities. This also leads to more groups of people to get out with. Worked/train your way up to advanced. Club activities you can choose between
outing of beginner through advanced.
I got back into club hikes here in Calif. The moderate club hikes have between 50 and 110 hikers on them. Lunch on the hikes, meeting places for lunch after some of the hikes. There is also bowling leagues, bicycle riding clubs, etc. I find these clubs online.
Check out the site on line MEET UP Guessing should be all over the United states. Crazy amount of group activities there. My hike groups are on there. Interesting the hike leaders profiles state. Did not want to hike solo anymore. They pay a fee to list on the Meet Up site. Now they have up to 100+ hikers with them. :- )
Sorry for all of your Hurt :-(
The Battle is for the mind. Jesus works through the heart. This means negative thoughts and feelings that come to mind are not fact. Cast out the thoughts that come to mind that are not good for you Scripture calls these flaming arrows from the enemy. That spiritual enemy is against Us and God.
Knowing now that there is a invisible enemy that may be sending some untruthful OUCH into our thoughts We can now
better stand our ground and ignore these negative untruthful thoughts that may come to mind
Since this is all in the Bible as Truth. And the entire Christian Bible is Truth. We can also know that Jesus in the Bible is
the creator of all things of Heaven and Earth. Jesus has power over all things. Nothing can happen that he does not allow.
Jesus is running the Universe and this World right now. No matter what people say or do. Jesus truth will always be so.
Jesus loves us, He wants a personal relationship with us. He will come into your life if you really seek him with all your heart. You can speak to a Pastor about more of this. Jesus will make himself known to you, speak with you, Nothing in this world can compare when one feels the Lord working in their life.
Getting with people! Being someone who has just about always ended up being rejected by any and all who potentially
could and should have been friends. Seems to always be just me and the Lord again. No complaints really though. For
the Lord has worked so powerfully in my life.
I have found active club type activities/hobbies works very well at getting with people and having fun. Exercise builds mood elevators in the body. It can be fun training, having goals, and getting better at the activities. This also leads to more groups of people to get out with. Worked/train your way up to advanced. Club activities you can choose between
outing of beginner through advanced.
I got back into club hikes here in Calif. The moderate club hikes have between 50 and 110 hikers on them. Lunch on the hikes, meeting places for lunch after some of the hikes. There is also bowling leagues, bicycle riding clubs, etc. I find these clubs online.
Check out the site on line MEET UP Guessing should be all over the United states. Crazy amount of group activities there. My hike groups are on there. Interesting the hike leaders profiles state. Did not want to hike solo anymore. They pay a fee to list on the Meet Up site. Now they have up to 100+ hikers with them. :- )
Sorry for all of your Hurt :-(
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