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    Default How to control yourself :(

    I suddenly feel this, when I reach after 19 :'( .. I became Christian at 18 and I know that feeling hot, romantic and fantasizing is bad .. Some times I can't control my mind and emotions which compels me to watch bad and chatting on different guys online.. And worst is I do mast..

    I am maybe the worst member here but all I want is to be renewed.. Please help ! Please help me how to control this. Please help me how to live pure and holy.. I don't like to be a maniac :'( .. Is this a disease? How to stop feeling

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    Default Re: How to control yourself :(

    I'm sorry you are going through this. It's going to be ok though. We still inhabit our fleshly bodies, with all it's lustful desires, even after we are saved.

    Our spirit hates these desires and wars against it. Also, the enemy hates you, and the fact that God loves you. So he is attacking you as well.

    We ALL need to walk in the Spirit, so that the desires of the flesh have no effect on us. Walking in the Spirit means to focus our thoughts and actions on Jesus. Renew our minds EVERY day to His Grace and love towards us by the washing of the Word EVERY day.

    Dear Holy Father, we ask You to give Your daughter the revelation of who she is NOW. A child of the one true King! Let Your love and Presence overwhelm her, and keep this baby sheep close to You. In Jesus sweet Name I pray.

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    Default Re: How to control yourself :(

    To want romance isn't a bad thing. However feeling "hot" & " fantasizing" can be equated to lust. You aren't the only one who deals with that so it's not a disease of any kind just a desire of the flesh. As the scriptures tells us in Galatians 5:16 - So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. Try not to be hard on yourself what you are dealing with isn't impossible for you to overcome & in fact is pretty common.

    Do you pray often? Do you mediate on the word as often as you can? As it states in Romans 12:2 - Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will.

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    Amen... This is a big help.. Thanks for reminding me to walk in the spirit #PennEd
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    Default Re: How to control yourself :(

    Pray, read the Bible and repent your sins. Ask God to help you and give you the strength to resist these urges.

    Don't feel like you are a "maniac". We all have problems and suffer from some sins, I also suffer from lust. Just pray to God and ask for help, guidance and for the strength to resist these urges. Also tell God how you feel, how you're suffering from this sin, and how you can't help doing it. Build a relationship with him.

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    Default Re: How to control yourself :(

    Quote Originally Posted by Chen-Chen View Post
    I suddenly feel this, when I reach after 19 :'( .. I became Christian at 18 and I know that feeling hot, romantic and fantasizing is bad .. Some times I can't control my mind and emotions which compels me to watch bad and chatting on different guys online.. And worst is I do mast..

    I am maybe the worst member here but all I want is to be renewed.. Please help ! Please help me how to control this. Please help me how to live pure and holy.. I don't like to be a maniac :'( .. Is this a disease? How to stop feeling

    Hi Chen Chen,

    Yes you can get help.

    God is all powerful and can help you. You've become caught in a web of lust, just as many have. Because we've put
    ourselves in that situation, through God's help we can also remove ourselves from that lust. That's how powerful God is.

    2 Timothy 2:22 Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.

    When the desire comes, flee it and instead go to prayer and read the scriptures. Pursue righteousness.

    Praise the Lord for giving you new
    life in Him. Spend that time with Jesus instead of doing what you do. When thoughts begin to come to your mind, say out loud what God says and agree with Him.

    Thank the Lord that He's helping you to overcome the sin. Say it out loud for your ears to hear the truth.

    Hide God's word in your heart so that you won't sin. And above all, preach the Gospel to yourself.

    The new life in Christ is all about denying yourself, taking up your cross and following Him. We learn to do this each and every day. We're like babies being taught the right way to live instead of the old way we use to live.

    Are you going to church somewhere? Do you have friends, family that are saved? Are you in a bible study?

    What really helps for some is to have a close friend you can confide in so that they can help you in your walk with the Lord and help you by praying with you and for you.



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    Thanks to all of your responses.. God bless..
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    Default Re: How to control yourself :(

    Worst one here? I bet you're not even close. This site is made up of a bunch of people that screw up daily. But that's what being a Christian is, screwing up and starting over while working towards our goal of growing in Christ. Even Paul, who wrote most of the New Testament, said 'I do what I do not want to do, and what I want to do I do not do'. So you're in good company with Paul and the rest of us.
    Keep striving. Renewing tour mind by bible reading and study. Continue in prayer. Find a Female Christian you can trust to talk with about all this and that will pray for you.
    Don't panic. You're normal =P
    Give me a new voice
    Give me a heart for repentance and make it stay
    Cause I've idolized my words
    It's all my fault
    But it's comfortable
    ~Poured Out, Rival Choir~

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    Default Re: How to control yourself :(

    Quote Originally Posted by Chen-Chen View Post
    I suddenly feel this, when I reach after 19 :'( .. I became Christian at 18 and I know that feeling hot, romantic and fantasizing is bad .. Some times I can't control my mind and emotions which compels me to watch bad and chatting on different guys online.. And worst is I do mast..

    I am maybe the worst member here but all I want is to be renewed.. Please help ! Please help me how to control this. Please help me how to live pure and holy.. I don't like to be a maniac :'( .. Is this a disease? How to stop feeling
    Dont worry, you're not the worst on here. I don't know if a single man or woman who HASNT fallen for the trap of lust in their life. As humans, we want sex, and sex isn't bad... unless it's taken sinfully. Between husband and wife is fine, that's how God made it. But when people commit evils in sex such as porn, fornication, adultery, and so on, we fall for the trap of the devil. Again, I'm pretty sure most of us have at least fallen for the trap once. Just don't be deceived, lust is very sinful. But like all sins you can repent and turn from it. And make sure to pray to God to help rid your struggle. He has been helping me with my OCD and intrusive thoughts.

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    Default Re: How to control yourself :(

    Quote Originally Posted by Chen-Chen View Post
    I suddenly feel this, when I reach after 19 :'( .. I became Christian at 18 and I know that feeling hot, romantic and fantasizing is bad .. Some times I can't control my mind and emotions which compels me to watch bad and chatting on different guys online.. And worst is I do mast..

    I am maybe the worst member here but all I want is to be renewed.. Please help ! Please help me how to control this. Please help me how to live pure and holy.. I don't like to be a maniac :'( .. Is this a disease? How to stop feeling



    Thank you sis for showing concern to this matter. With a forum here, filled by grace of God I hope you do recover.
    Here are some verses which I found helpful when I too was in a similar time...


    9 But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light;

    10 who once were not a people but arenow the people of God, who had not obtained mercy but now have obtained mercy.

    1Pt 2:9-10 NKJV




    10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might.

    11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.

    12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age,[a] against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.

    13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.


    14 Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness,

    15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace;

    16 above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one.

    17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God;

    18 praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints—

    Ephesians 6:10-18 NKJV

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    Default Re: How to control yourself :(

    Just try and relax. Hormones are crazy as you are getting older, they are put in you are your prime to convince you to mate. It's a natural part of your biological function so it's nothing new that you are experiencing them. Our goal as humans is to suppress our animal nature and become better through our Willpower and knowledge. That is how we get this far. Pray to God that you will do whats best for you, him, and those around you. It's okay for a thought to pop up, just try not to think about them in your forefront, have faith that it is possible. We ALL have them, you are not alone. None of us go one day without sinning and none of us are holier than you. Take less weight off your shoulders and remember that with faith all things are possible.

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    Default Re: How to control yourself :(

    Quote Originally Posted by Chen-Chen View Post
    I suddenly feel this, when I reach after 19 :'( .. I became Christian at 18 and I know that feeling hot, romantic and fantasizing is bad .. Some times I can't control my mind and emotions which compels me to watch bad and chatting on different guys online.. And worst is I do mast..

    I am maybe the worst member here but all I want is to be renewed.. Please help ! Please help me how to control this. Please help me how to live pure and holy.. I don't like to be a maniac :'( .. Is this a disease? How to stop feeling
    You're definitely not the worse member here, in fact, there are no worse members. What you are feeling is perfectly normal. I will say however to be careful with the chatting online. Some of these guys may have bad intentions or are misguided so use caution and not give out any personal info freely.

    I highly recommend a routine of daily devotion, contemplation and prayer. This will be very helpful in guiding you in your spiritual walk with the Lord.

    You're not a maniac and you don't have a disease. Pray to God for help in harnessing your emotions in a positive and wholesome way that is pleasing to Him and will benefit you.

    Glad to have you as part of our family. Welcome to CC.
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