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    I'm 15 years old and I had a boyfriend for about a year. I was crushed when he broke up with me, so I decided to focus more on what's important. Unfortunately at the time, God wasn't one of those things. I thought only my sports and school. But with that I wasn't getting anywhere, if anything I got worse I saw him in the halls and he would sometimes talk to me. Now I'm all about God. I've rededicated my my life to Jesus and I make it evident at school. It took me a long time to get where I'm at now. So he saw that and now he's reconnecting with me, talking to me about his problems and asking for prayer. Not only that but he's bringing up all the happy memories of our relationship and how he misses it. He'll say stuff like "I miss the way we did this" or "you still make me laugh" etc comments like that. I don't wanna get my hopes up and I don't wanna loose my sight of God. What should I do?
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    Default Re: what do I do about him?

    I would just say stay focused on God right now, and whatever happens happens.

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    I'd keep him at a distance. He ditched you to go explore other girls. Now he's bored of that and wants you back.
    Besides, very few relationships that start at your age last past HS.
    But to re-enter a relationship with someone who already hurt you once is typically a bad idea. And the amount of time it would take for him to prove he's different wouldn't be worth it at your age. And since all he's done is chase other girls, he likely hasn't changed at all. If someone can't appreciate you when they have you the first time, chances are they won't appreciate you the second time around either.
    Tell him enough bringing up the past and telling you all of that stuff he misses, and if he continues then drop him as a friend completely. My guess, though, is if you continue with him he will be a distraction from God and bring more hurt to you.
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    Default Re: what do I do about him?

    Tell him you are not getting back together. You can be friends who want what is best for each other but it is not necessary that you communicate or hang out. Pray for him that he will learn his lesson and change. Be firm with your decision to avoid getting manipulated again. You are still very young and will meet other guys so stop overthinking about him and enjoy life.
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    God will give you the husband He chooses for you. I'd say (not command, just advising that) you are too young and should enjoy life as a single one for a while. Travel, have fun (not in sin), live, laugh, love (not the boy girl thing but with friends and families yes?). Learn to focus on God and His will, go to church and sing like there's no tomorrow and enjoooy, and after you follow God and seek Him, everything will come to place. God said to seek first His kingdom and everything (you need) will be added (and given) unto you. Trust me, I met my wife in God's will (His time-His place), God is always in between our relationship and even both of our top priorities, and true love will always come from the one who created it - God.

    My wife and I pray everyday holding hands, every meal holding hands, every night before sleeping holding hands. We express our love for each other and show others the wonderful love Christ has modeled for us. I waited for my wife, I asked God and trusted His timing. I did not find her, she was given to me by the one who created us. And am thankful up to this day that I have met someone that I am confident will never leave me and will give me a good Christian family and a good home and the best of life, with Christ Jesus. So, there ya have it. An advice of experience from your good old monkey neighbor.

    Stay young, enjoy, and God bless you and your family.

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