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    hey guys…im sort of new here and i need some advice. advice from any person willing to give me some
    you see im in a long distant reationship with a guy in italy and no one knows bout it. not even my parents. we've been writing to eachother for like a year now and we're truly in love and there seems to be nothing in our way. is it right for me to keep it a secret from my parents? im afraid they wont like it. thanks for reading. hope to get some answers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gracie_14 View Post
    hey guys…im sort of new here and i need some advice. advice from any person willing to give me some
    you see im in a long distant reationship with a guy in italy and no one knows bout it. not even my parents. we've been writing to eachother for like a year now and we're truly in love and there seems to be nothing in our way. is it right for me to keep it a secret from my parents? im afraid they wont like it. thanks for reading. hope to get some answers.
    ya it might be


    how old are you?


    id say if youre any younger than 18 youre making a serious mistake
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    Default Re: Kinda new here…need some advice

    also as a caveat


    even if youre 18 or older

    it could still be a serious mistake
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    im 15 yrs. why would you think its a serious mistake???

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gracie_14 View Post
    im 15 yrs. why would you think its a serious mistake???
    because i know people who been tricked by people they knew much longer than you have known this person


    youre too young to be in a relationship

    and i dont believe youre capable of knowing if youre in love with him with such little interaction


    also if youre parents wouldnt like it... and youre keeping it from them

    what youre doing is pretty much lying

    they wouldnt like it because chances are they have your best interest in mind

    when youre only focused about your hearts desires from the sounds of it

    Jeremiah 17:9

    9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?

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    Default Re: Kinda new here…need some advice

    Quote Originally Posted by Gracie_14 View Post
    hey guys…im sort of new here and i need some advice. advice from any person willing to give me some
    you see im in a long distant reationship with a guy in italy and no one knows bout it. not even my parents. we've been writing to eachother for like a year now and we're truly in love and there seems to be nothing in our way. is it right for me to keep it a secret from my parents? im afraid they wont like it. thanks for reading. hope to get some answers.
    Yep,if they care about you,they will not be happy campers.

    Do some research. Those internet romances have a huge propensity for being disasters.

    You are not cautious. You need suspicion.

    1) This guy could be anywhere. Including next door to you.
    2) He could be any age
    3) He could have your destruction in his sights.

    ...and so on.

    Btw,how old are you? Are you 14?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gracie_14 View Post
    im 15 yrs. why would you think its a serious mistake???
    Please,please,please cut the relationship off.

    Wait for a real relationship.

    Relationships are complex. You need some time under your belt.
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    Quote Originally Posted by NoNameMcgee View Post
    because i know people who been tricked by people they knew much longer than you have known this person


    youre too young to be in a relationship

    and i dont believe youre capable of knowing if youre in love with him with such little interaction


    also if youre parents wouldnt like it... and youre keeping it from them

    what youre doing is pretty much lying

    they wouldnt like it because chances are they have your best interest in mind

    when youre only focused about your hearts desires from the sounds of it

    Jeremiah 17:9

    9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
    Extremely wise advice.

    I hope she takes it.

    I smell a rat way over in Italy

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    Default Re: Kinda new here…need some advice

    Quote Originally Posted by Gracie_14 View Post
    hey guys…im sort of new here and i need some advice. advice from any person willing to give me some
    you see im in a long distant reationship with a guy in italy and no one knows bout it. not even my parents. we've been writing to eachother for like a year now and we're truly in love and there seems to be nothing in our way. is it right for me to keep it a secret from my parents? im afraid they wont like it. thanks for reading. hope to get some answers.
    Are you two ever planning on meeting?

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    yeah…around that age.
    he doesnt seem to be any of those suspicious things you mentioned. this one is so different. he's a christian and i have absolute assurance he is not someone to be cautious about. he hasnt even asked for my address or something like that. its totally not what most people would expect

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    Default Re: Kinda new here…need some advice

    Quote Originally Posted by heartofdavid View Post
    Extremely wise advice.

    I hope she takes it.

    I smell a rat way over in Italy
    You never can tell.
    I'd like to know her age --
    And if they plan on meeting.

    I met my husband when I was only 16 years old and
    it was real love and it worked out great.

    Every relationship is different.

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    Default Re: Kinda new here…need some advice

    well…idk. maybe someday. we havent planed on it

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    Default Re: Kinda new here…need some advice

    Quote Originally Posted by Gracie_14 View Post
    yeah…around that age.
    he doesnt seem to be any of those suspicious things you mentioned. this one is so different. he's a christian and i have absolute assurance he is not someone to be cautious about. he hasnt even asked for my address or something like that. its totally not what most people would expect
    If he is a Christian,he has to have a pastor.

    That pastor can be contacted through a legit church website.
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    Default Re: Kinda new here…need some advice

    sounds to me like youre looking for justification or confirmation.... not advice

    im not biased in what i said


    have a great day and ill remember you in my prayers young lady


    i hope you eventually respect your parents enough to tell them the truth

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    Default Re: Kinda new here…need some advice

    Companies that hire people do more research than us seeking a mate.

    Be very,very particular who you give your heart,body,and soul to.
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    Default Re: Kinda new here…need some advice

    Quote Originally Posted by FranC View Post
    You never can tell.
    I'd like to know her age --
    And if they plan on meeting.

    I met my husband when I was only 16 years old and
    it was real love and it worked out great.

    Every relationship is different.
    Yes,but my fatherly advice and instict will always be "throw the bum out".

    Nobody is good enough for her.....not saying I'm right,just a knee jerk

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    Default Re: Kinda new here…need some advice

    Quote Originally Posted by heartofdavid View Post
    If he is a Christian,he has to have a pastor.

    That pastor can be contacted through a legit church website.

    well, i guess you guys are right. i have to figure out a way to tell my parents. but i still dont understand. even thought my parents have no idea…how am i lying to them? i mean, i really respect them. but i just dont really think im causing them harm

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gracie_14 View Post
    well, i guess you guys are right. i have to figure out a way to tell my parents. but i still dont understand. even thought my parents have no idea…how am i lying to them? i mean, i really respect them. but i just dont really think im causing them harm
    James 4:17 - Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth [it] not, to him it is sin.


    you know telling them is the right thing to do

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    Default Re: Kinda new here…need some advice

    Seeing how you are only 15 years old I would say that your seriously going down the wrong road. Yes, I can understand you being hesitant in telling your parents. My advice is to focus on your studies and enjoy the single life for a few more years before even contemplating entering into a long term relationship. There is love and then there is puppy love. These feelings will pass, sooner rather than later. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.
    M & M's melt in your mouth and not in your hands.

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    Default Re: Kinda new here…need some advice

    Quote Originally Posted by tourist View Post
    Seeing how you are only 15 years old I would say that your seriously going down the wrong road. Yes, I can understand you being hesitant in telling your parents. My advice is to focus on your studies and enjoy the single life for a few more years before even contemplating entering into a long term relationship. There is love and then there is puppy love. These feelings will pass, sooner rather than later. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.
    thank you!
    well, i didnt think i was that young. most people believe im capable at this age…i look as if im 18. but i get your point. i should be focusing on my studies instead of being in this situation. ill have to think about it… what is the appropiate age? 16? 18?

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