Sex before marriage?

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zoii

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I would just like to apply for the position of President of the Zoii Fan Club.

She is more articulate and demonstrates a far greater maturity of thought than most contributors to CC.

In my ever-humble opinion, of course :D
aww thats a very nice compliment ty
 

zoii

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a Man was stoned for having sex with a woman but letting his seed not inter her witch he was commanded to do becase he married his brothers wife when he died and I guess he was supost to keep the line going but instead letting it his seed spill on to the floor *shudder* aka birth control soooooo yep if God does not want you to have a child he can open and close the womb of a woman and like I said if you don't want to get pregnant don't have sex :) and if you do great but I feel that birth control is not right and it goes aginst what I bilive thank you for being kind to me Zoii I am sorry if I was ever rude to you but understand that a lot of people thing it is ok that is why I seem radical on a lot of things no bithdays ect but I am a Loving Christian and want to ecpress my thoughs and bealifes thanks for reading this.
Yea actually you raise a good point. Like.... I dont know the reference in the bible you talk about but... what do we do with parts of the bible like this. If Wolfie is right in his interpratation - ie old testament punishable by death for sex not for procreation - geez this is definitely an area that I dont imagine many couples would be interested in or complying. And what does that mean when it comes to birth control - I know its off topic but Wolfie raised a good point. Not that it affects either of us right now Wolfie hahaha
 

kingerik

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It's up to the couple I would say. Birth control is a post-biblical topic and under the direction of the Holy Spirit. I think birth control is wise...with everything use common sense. As for me, once I get married, I don't want children for a little while.
 
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Jack_

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Thank you if God wants us to do something or not to do something he tells us


and he does not say to use a condom or any form like it
"if God wants us to do something or not to do something he tells us"
You could use that phrase to support condoms... God doesn't say in the bible that we can't use condoms. God didn't say Sex is ONLY for procreating either.
 

zoii

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The issue too is not just about sin and submitting to the demands of the bible, there are practical issues outside of this, particularly in controlling raging epidemics affecting adults and children, especially AIDS and especially in Africa. For example in Botswana 23% of people between 15- 49 live with AIDS and 15000 children under 15 live with AIDS. 2800 people in Botswana died of AIDS in 2011 and there are 47000 orphans due to AIDS in that country. Sex either outside or inside marriage necessitates the use of condoms if the epidemic ever has a chance of being managed. While the world was justifiably worried about Ebola, AIDS in Africa makes Ebola look like a minor problem. So while, as Christians we advocate the practices of the bible, some serious practical realities have to be dealt with too.
 
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faniehennig

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8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Phil 4
 
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ServantStrike

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a Man was stoned for having sex with a woman but letting his seed not inter her witch he was commanded to do becase he married his brothers wife when he died and I guess he was supost to keep the line going but instead letting it his seed spill on to the floor *shudder* aka birth control soooooo yep if God does not want you to have a child he can open and close the womb of a woman and like I said if you don't want to get pregnant don't have sex :) and if you do great but I feel that birth control is not right and it goes aginst what I bilive thank you for being kind to me Zoii I am sorry if I was ever rude to you but understand that a lot of people thing it is ok that is why I seem radical on a lot of things no bithdays ect but I am a Loving Christian and want to ecpress my thoughs and bealifes thanks for reading this.
Onan?

God struck him dead because he decided to sleep with Tamar while intentionally not following through with the act. He took advantage of Tamar sexually and failed to provide her with an heir - an heir which under law and custom at the time would have been considered the son of her deceased husband.

The entire story is a property rights story, with sexual exploitation involved as well. Jumping from that to birth control is a bit of a leap isn't it?
 

zoii

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Onan?

God struck him dead because he decided to sleep with Tamar while intentionally not following through with the act. He took advantage of Tamar sexually and failed to provide her with an heir - an heir which under law and custom at the time would have been considered the son of her deceased husband.

The entire story is a property rights story, with sexual exploitation involved as well. Jumping from that to birth control is a bit of a leap isn't it?
We are teens :) leaping is what we do :). he was just trying to make a point he felt was important to him
 
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faniehennig

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If so be that ye have heard him, and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus:
That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts;
And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;
And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.
Eph 4
 

zoii

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If so be that ye have heard him, and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus:
That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts;
And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;
And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.
Eph 4
You posted this before in another TEEN thread . You arent really making a point - but mayb its just as a teen im not getting what your on about. Maybe your better off posting in an adult room. I dont know how other teens feel but I read this n go .... Huh?..what da ?????
 
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Having sex before marriage is something bad.We have not to be like pagans because we're supposed to be in God's city where iniquity can't come in and paganism can't influence.For me,even though the bible said nothing about it,I wouldn't agree with those practices.And indeed,the bible says this:"Don't be immoral in matters of sex.That is a sin against your own body in a way that no other sin is.You know that your body is a temple where the Holy Spirit lives.The Spirit is in you and is a gift from God.You are no longer your own.God paid a great price for you.So use your body to honour God." See! and if we're supposed to abide by God's commands,this Word has to be an absolute for us.So,let's forget pressure but remind of the kingdom of Jesus which is coming sooner.I finally believe God wants us(young people) to get married and to be happy.keep trusting Him my brethren and sisters!!!!Sex before marriage isn't good.
 
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shotgunner

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God doesn't want us to have sex before marriage because of the harm it can cause us. It's not because God doesn't want us to have any fun or because sex is somehow dirty.

When two people join in sex they share a spiritual bond. They in effect become one. Without the protection of the covenant,(an unbreakable vow before God), of marriage the relationship most likely won't last. When that happens it's as if both persons are torn in half, to be half a person. It takes some serious healing to get over it. In the marriage covenant there is also protection for any children that may come from that union. Marriage is a way for God to protect us from the result of flesh desire gone bad.
 
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Lots of people my age n a little older are starting to have sex. It doesn't change my opinion of them one bit. My opinions are based on how kind n smart n gentle they are...not who they choose to date and what they do on it. I know a lot here believe god condemns for it but ... I don't condemn though.
 
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twotwo

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Sure, simple. Because sex is only for procreating.
Completely right! Eye is only for seeing! Ear is only for hearing!

And sexual organ is only for procreating! This is as simple as that!
 
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Completely right! Eye is only for seeing! Ear is only for hearing!

And sexual organ is only for procreating! This is as simple as that!
Its not as simple as that cmon..pfft....now not that I know personally but........ sex is not some robotic sperm implanting act - whoa u make it sound so insensitive. Its a loving pleasurable act and...by the way... married couples will have sex whether they r trying to have kids or not - ru saying HEY ALL U MARRIED COUPLES OUT THERE - QUIT HAVING SEX UNLESS UR GONNA HAVE A BABY... if u are I don't think too many will listen.
 
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Tintin

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Completely right! Eye is only for seeing! Ear is only for hearing!

And sexual organ is only for procreating! This is as simple as that!
Good gravy! I was joking. God created sex both for procreation and for married couples to enjoy each other.
 
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Lots of people my age n a little older are starting to have sex. It doesn't change my opinion of them one bit. My opinions are based on how kind n smart n gentle they are...not who they choose to date and what they do on it. I know a lot here believe god condemns for it but ... I don't condemn though.
zoii!,you're right while basing your opinions on how.....but do not also forget this:you correct the one you love!!!!
 
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Zachiah

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The U.S is bad. Tv and entertainment promotes sex and drugs big time. Most of the guys I know don't believe waiting till marriage but I do. Most of the girls say they are waiting till marriage. The U.S is so far from God it's unbelievable....
 
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Gateway

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Not good! Having sex before marriage isn't cool at all...
 
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gerardina_aut

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If you are a "real" Christian you shouldn't have sex before marriage (Revelation 21:8). Like me, I want to wait until I marry.
God gave us the abaility to control ourselves.