Advice about feeling sorry

Danielc · May 6, 2011

Hi, everyone

. I need some advice on a topic, and as I write it I feel a bit embarassed that Im even going through this.

I was a sinner in the past and I made alot of mistakes. And In the past 3 months, Ive been trying to give my life to god, and its been difficult at times, but I truly feel like ive experienced change in my life and I owe it all to god.

But sometimes I still struggle with sin, but its all thoughts that I feel get pushed into my head, and I dont want evil or bad thoughts

. And they dont always get put there by a friend or relative close to me, sometimes it just comes into my mind and I know right away its wrong.

But what im struggling with the most is, when I confess my sins and repent, I dont feel sorrow for "all" the things I did in my past, and I want to feel sorry. I want to be able to get down on my knees, pray to god and confess with absolute guilt for everything Ive done.

I know the things I did in my past were bad and wrong, but I want too feel sorry and I dont know whats stopping me from feeling guilt and sorrow.

Thank you to anyone who takes time to give me advice

lightbliss · May 6, 2011

I think that, as long as you're sincere in you repentance and prayers, God will forgive you.

It's not about making yourself feel sorry or guilty; you know what you've done was wrong because you brought it to God. When you repent, Christ forgives you. There is no need to feel guilty as though you're unsure of God's grace.

Danielc · May 6, 2011

Thank you

, you're advice means alot to me!

. And I really respect what you said, and its a good way of viewing this topic, its great advice, but sometimes I still feel like "how do I know god really has forgiven me? , if I didnt pray with a feeling of being sorry for my sins"

Vladimir_Ukr · May 6, 2011

You need to believe in forgiveness because you repent to your sins.Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners as written
for all have sinned and fall short of the
glory of God,
and are justified freely by his grace
through the redemption that came by
Christ Jesus. Romans(3:23,24)
Therefore, stand firm, let nothing move you. I wish you could understand me. God bless you, Danielc.

basschick · May 6, 2011

God forgives, you just have to earnestly ask for and receive the forgiveness. He doesn't withhold forgiveness until you feel like dirt for so many days per sin after you repent-His love, forgiveness, and grace are right there, waiting to be poured out at an instant's notice. The price for our sins was already paid by Jesus. And once we have repented, have turned our sins over to God, and are forgiven there is no reason for us to try to take it back and make ourselves feel bad for something that, as far as God is concerned, is wiped from our slate and is no longer there the instant that we asked forgiveness

Rather than trying to focus on mistakes of the past, focus on what is ahead of you! As long as your focus is behind you, you'll find it to be difficult to move forward.

Reikon · May 6, 2011

GOD knows that you WANT to feel sorry, even though you don't. And, if you confess this to him(I don't know if you did or not yet), he'll forgive you. I've done things that are considered a sin and I still don't feel sorrow for them . Why don't I feel sorry? Because some of the things I've done that are considered a sin I don't see them as a sin. I see it as right. For example, arguing with my mother. As stated in the ten commandments (Thou shall honor thy mother and father) this is a sin to go against authority but, still, I don't feel sorry for arguing with her at times because I see it as doing right. I feel that I SHOULD argue with her sometimes, even though truthfully I shouldn't no matter what.
So, I think the reason why you don't feel sorry for doing some things is because you don't see it as a huge sin.

Danielc · May 10, 2011

Thank you everyone. I love the wonderful and helpful people on this website

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terryfunk · May 11, 2011

Hi Daniel.

I too, feel that way. However you cannot force yourself to feel something that doesn't really come from inside your heart. If you feel sorry or guilty, then pray to God and thank Him for everything that He has done in your life. You cannot make God loves you more, as his love is infinite. What you can do is to love Him and please him because you LOVE him, not because you're trying to make him love you.

The bible says there is no condemnation in Christ Jesus. It's always good to reflect, but if it comes to the point where you really get stressed about it, it's not good. Ecclesiastes talks about meaningless in being a religious person - read some of it, I'm sure you'll get some enlightment.

living4Him93 · May 15, 2011

God doesn't need your tears as a proof of your sorrow. He knows your heart. He knows it better than you do. From the very beginning He knew you inside and out. Rejoice in that, my friend. Many people won't take an apology if you don't seem heart broken over it, but all that God requires is sincerity and a desire to make a change and use His strength to avoid the temptation. He knows you'll slip up and fall short, but He loves you all the same.

JesusUndercover · May 16, 2011

Dear Daniel,

I know exactly what you mean, i have been trough the same in my years.
All you need to do is commond Satan to leave and say For God died on the cross to forgave my sin and so it is! For God is lord and savior, and do not think to much about it, just pray Satan will do and try everything to get you back from you where. I will pray for you! another Good advice is Go to Church seek up the pastor and ask him to pray with you and hellp you trough these time's. God fogave you and that is .! no matter what Satan says he lost you won! God won! your save you will have moments that youll fall thats ok. just dont stay in it pick your self up and move. Think about it for getting baptized then you commit your self to God It is to show the Worl/Satan that you'r from God and that is the Road youll walk. U can always mail me.

Blessings!! God Loves you so so so much

Danielc said:

Tobby17 · May 16, 2011

Danielc, it's not until you're tearing ur clothes and crying dat convinces God dat u're really sorry. It's the sincerity in ur heart. As long as u already feel guilt for ur past sins and you want are willing to give ur life to God. Just do it!. It's as simple as that.

God will not forsake anyone. If u confess ur sins sincerely from ur heart, God is more dan willing to forgive you. U don't need all d drama.lol

REDMama · May 19, 2011

You are trying to force yourself to feel sorrow and repent, but maybe you are not ready. You know that and God knows that, and don't hurt yourself.

Keep having faith.

Did you ever consider, based on what you feel you have done wrong or someone has told you, unless they have laid burdens too heavy for you to bear, and a guilt trip, that whatever you did was not all that bad.

If you are to repent, there will be a time.

But for now, I would not worry.

Ask your pastor, of your family if they believe and agree with the same thing you do, or a trustworthy friend.

This is your life.

And those bad thoughts, everyone has them, some more than others, don't think about, when you get the thought, think a different one, grab a book, do something you like, replace it with something else. You'll get a godly and christlike passion.

I am on christianchat for a similiar reason, to keep me busy, and not dwell and think on the bad, and God gave me life, so let's use it!!!!!!

Enjoy some of your time if you can.

Have a good day.

livingbygrace · May 19, 2011

Danielc said:

I don't know if you have heard of Charles Spurgeon. He was a famous preacher in England. He said that when we become Christians satan puts thoughts in our head to discourage us, to make us feel miserable and not good enough for God, he wants us to give up with Him, beliving we are too much of a sinner to be a Christian

One day satan came to Luther and said to him

'So Luther, you are a sinner'

Yes I am, Luther replied. But Christ died for sinners.' He said it was like cutting the devils head off.

The point is, we are all sinners saved by grace

I remember when I was at senior school. Swear words would come into my head, now I have done much wrong in my life but I have raley sworn, I hate bad language. But because those words came into my head, I felt terrible guilt, how could I be a Christian with those words in my mind?
And I used to look at some of the girls in my school and my mind was not pure in thought towards them. And I would think
How can I be a Christian with thoughts like this in my head?

And one day I was in church and there was a message and this was 34 years ago and I have never forgotten it.

Do not look at yourself, look to Jesus

You know I thought as a youth that Jesus died for the sins you committed before you became a Christian, but after that you had to shape up real quick, and if you did anything much wrong after that you were in danger of going to hell. I knew you could ask God to forgive you your sins and He would, but the trouble for me was, I was coming to him more and more often asking for his forgiveness, as I tried harder and harder not to sin or do anything wrong, and the more guilt I felt at any perticular sin in my mind or committed the stronger came the desire to commit the sin. I don't know if all of this makles sense to you or not

But now I know that Jesus died for ALL my sins, his death on the cross was for every sin I could ever commit as long as I am looking to him and trusting him, and wanting in my heart to follow him.
So if you look to Jesus and thank him for dying for your imperfections, if you stand on the fact he died for all your sins, you may not get so dispirited. Yes, you will feel it acutely when you muck up, we all do, but keep looking to Jesus, your salvation depends on what he did on the cross for you, not how sinless or perfect you can make yourself.

Now, a voice in your head will tell you
'You can't be a Christian and have those thoughts.'

Ignore it, that is not Jesus talking, he just wants you to trust him all the time, no matter what, your bottom line is faith in him, not your own personal goodness. For if you are looking to him and trusting him, you do not want to deliberately sin do you?

And you know what? You will start to have peace, and much of what is coming into your mind will stop

Because if satan knows he cannot get you to turn away from trusting Jesus by thoughts he puts into your mind there isn't much point in him trying so hard to put them in your mind is there.

You ain't gonna be perfect, none of us are

But remember, Christ died for the ungodly/sinners, not the righteous

And he isn't wanting to see you striving to become sinless by your own effort, he wants you to trust him to change you into all he would have you be, and he wants you to trust thsat he is doing it, despite the negative things you see in your own life. So will you trust Jesus, or will you look at your own imperfections. One leads to ha[ppiness and peace, the other to a depressing life

God Bless

wolfywolfs · May 20, 2011

what did u do that was so bad

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