fighting depression that never seems to get better..

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BrittanyBoo

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hey guys. so , for the last 3 years of my life , i have been fighting a severe case of depression. i also suffer from anxiety. when i try talking to people about it , they always tell me things like "it'll get better" or "you'll be okay". it's hard to take that advice when i feel like things aren't getting better , and that i WON'T be okay.. nobody seems to understand. it's like they think i'm kidding or something.. i've prayed and prayed about it , and even had many others praying for me. i don't get why my prayers aren't being answered.. i see a professional counsler that it's so bad , but things never change for me. i really don't know what to do anymore. i feel like everything is weighing me down from the minute i wake up , to when i go to sleep. i am constantly trying to cover it up when i'm around people , but i just can't anymore..
someone please help?​
 
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Kyouken

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Once someone has been born again, they have every thing they will ever need right on the inside of them. That place? Their spirit. Why? You receive Christ and your spirit becomes identical to His. Galatians 5:22-23 - "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, [and] self control." You've already got it! But how does one bring something from the spiritual realm into the physical realm? As for the fruit of the Spirit, you need to go to believing that you already have it! I'm sure you've probably asked for some sort of peace, but once someone already has something, it's easier for them to believe they have it, right?

John 14:1 - "Let not your heart be troubled, for you believe in God, believe also in Me." Jesus was telling His disciples to do this before He was going to be crucified. I mean, that must seem pretty far-fetched - Jesus was about to die, and He told His disciples to do that. He would be unjust to give them a command that they couldn't do. In fact, He was telling them that they should rejoice because He was going to His father! Also, Jesus told His disciples to do this when they weren't born again. That means if they could do it then, it's very possible for us to control our emotions now. I'm not saying it's easy, but it's very possible.

John 3:16 - "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Widely known verse, probably most memorized/quoted. I bring this verse up because it's the one of the best statements God uses to describe exactly how much He loves us. He loves you, BrittanyBoo, personally. He loves you more than you could begin to understand, although the Bible paints a darn good picture. He carries your picture around in His wallet. He loves you! This next statement will seem weird, but bare with me - if you even begin to feel depressed, you've got to look in a mirror and minister to yourself. I mean that you need to keep telling yourself that God loves you. Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word. Eventually (however long it takes you, there's no set time) you'll get to a place where you may feel His love tangibly. Then again, I'm not quite sure what brings this, but it's happened to me a couple of times.

Lastly, as far as unanswered prayers go, it depends on what you're praying sometimes. There are some spiritual laws that need to be followed (I'm not sure what you've been praying for specifically, so I'll leave it at that). Rather than thinking that your prayer has gone unanswered, believe that He has already answered it. Your senses aren't always reliable, and seeing isn't always believing. God only wants the best for you. I have more on this area, but my brain isn't working at the moment.

John 14-16 should help you a lot. God bless!
 
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Kyouken

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I hope that helps (I'll be praying for you!)!
 
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Laura4060

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I know what you're going through, I really do. I have been severely depressed for the last five almost six years. I started talking to a professional counselor over a year ago. Since then I've never really felt completely better. Sure I've had my ups, but I've definitely had way more downs. To the point I've attempted suicide multiple times. I've always really covered it up with a fake smile and laugh, but lately that's been a lot harder. The only real relief I have found is in God. The closer I get to him, like really get, the better I feel. It's hard to stay close to God for me, but he is helping me because he wants me to defeat the devil and get out of my depression. If you ever want to talk I am here for you.
Love your sister in Christ,
Laura
 
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wing2x

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Me is depressed too, but not always. It sometimes gone when I interact with other people. Mostly it occurred when I am alone.
 
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HeftyFine

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Hey if you're depression is so bad that you cannot do daily activities anymore and want to stay in bed all day then you must see a psychologist and have him see evaluate where the problem lies so that you can be referred to a psychiatrist who can provide anti-depressants. Counselors only help so much and if it's something like a chemical imbalance then no amount of talking it out is going to help. Sometimes medication is needed and it's nothing to be ashamed of! People who get headaches take pain killers, people who have diabetes take medication so why should it be different for something like depression? I have Bipolar disorder and take mood stabilizers daily and at first I HATED the idea of taking medication but you know what, it helped and made my life so much better. I had courage again to face the world. Praying is still vital and you will always need God but there's NOTHING wrong with taking medication to help. It is there and if you have depression, you have it. It sounds like you are struggling so really, see a proper psychologist not just a counselor so that he/she could really evaluate you in depth. You are not alone and you can get help. Hugs.
 
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shirley

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i ve been fighting depression very severe since the age of 12 ive been in the hospital 2 times for sucidial thoughts i know what your all going through i tried haging myself when i was first married id drink to make the hurt go away my dad beat me sexually and vrbaly abused me shared me wth men i have ptsd severe depression im on diffrent meds still trying to feel better i thought having a close friend would help it did for awhile but that person dont understand its a man the sweetest man you could ever meet im confused about love what does it feel like does it mean to hurt im falling out of love with my husband its only part of his fault he was an alcholic and he beat me too but he dont drink anymore or beat me i know god gave his life for us but whos gonna miss me nobody im unwanted my granma told me a story when i was born i had double pnuemonia my father told the dr let me die he didnt want me so thats why feel like living im tired of rejection n lies like i said love hurts somedays are diamonds somedays are gold but the hurt wont go away need a true friend to help me and understand
 
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peachetty

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So... just one question. why are you depressed? what started this? its hard to deal with depression cause depression doesn’t just "happen" something has to trigger it. usually its not a small thing ither, but later on remembering the thing small or big may send you right back down......... to the very pit of hell.... but! your not supposed to be there so like i think someone else said take hold of the spirit that God has given you... and he hasnt given you a spirit of fear or anxiety or anything like that so anything not of that spirit you have every right in the world to take hold of it and cast it out cuz it aint supposed to be there :) YAY JESUS lol

and like dont cut yourself off from the world :D ik like when im depressed and all i think oh goodness.... i dont wanna go be with those people... they are too happy then i get more sad... then i end up doing the thing and then BAM i break the little chain of doubt and join in with the people and i cant be depressed!

you know exercising actually adds in some good hormones or something to your brain making it just think clearer and stuff.

sometimes i really think depression is just a big spirit that comes to you in the shape of a cloud and is just all big and dark and puffy and you cant see out of it real well and it like erases good thinking.... its really annoying... so like when people tell you things you cant quite preserve them right cuz well... you have a cloud thats just sitting on you... yucky right? So yeah... not good...

So like i said to get rid of it will take work and lots of prayer but you cant let it get you down you have to attack it from the inside out! what kid of music do you like? what makes you jump up? have that playing the moment you wake up. read your bible the moment your awake even if its just a minuet! go in the bathroom and look in the mirror and say im beautiful cause God made me this way! ( you might end up on the floor laughing cuz well... you just woke up and ya! every morning is a bad hair day! :p i did that one time and just like laughed for 5 min really cuz my hair was soo crazy and yaa)_ :p so ya! take charge of your day! look that spirit in the face and spit at it the word of God and dont give it a break till it just gets tired and leaves! (depress it!)
ill be praying for you! :) i hope this helps somewhat :)
 
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xtinaz

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All i can share is my testimony and how Gods Word really helped me. EVen after I was saved I fought deppression daily but ive found out it is a process involving you and God. It takes time. Healings, forgiveness...getting rid of deep roots...

Start claiming Gods promises for you :) I thought also that depression must be who I am and how I should feel - ild felt that way for so long it felt like it would always be a part of me!

Meditating on scriptures really helped me.

When I got down or anxious ... ild literally reapeat the same verse like a trillion times
' For God is not a God of disorder, but of peace!' (1 COR 14:32)

When things turned black ...
' My GOD turns darkness into light! ' ( PSALMS 18:28)

Put on the garment of praise for the garment of heaviness. Seriously it works! Its hard at first coz you just dont feel like praising him haha ( man I had some battles with this one) but it lifts the heaviness :) [FONT=Times New Roman, Times, serif]Isaiah 61:3 [/FONT]

(2 COR 5:17) Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.

You dont have to be a great bible scholar to really gain the power of Gods word in your life :) These are really simple scriptures, but so powerful.
The best one for me was (ROMANS 12:2) Do not be conformed to this world,but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

The renewal of the mind is amazing, claim it :) Endure hardship it will only strengthen you. It is hard loosening strongholds and familiar ways of thinking - and remember his promises, spend time with him. Find your purpose/vision and dreams in him. Its normal to feel down sometimes but dont let it control your whole day and manifest into a great dark cloud. I pray you will find this helpful, I know you can breakthrough this - if God is for us, who can stand against? What can stand against? How big is your God :)

Much love xx
 
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xtinaz

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DONT LET THE PAST DETERMINE YOUR FUTURE. If I can breakthrough from my dark past I know you can all too :) Be open to God and his promptings, dont be afraid of change and be willing to work with him :) Prayers with you all, love x
 
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