HELP ME!!!

[zbrow13]

I'm sorry. I'm new here and think that i was called back to my christian family as my final resort. I have a major problem right now that doesn't directly link to faith but involves it.

I'm 14 nearly 15 and have never dated a girl. For a few years now, there has been one major girl looming over me; we'll call her Jessie. Anyways, i met Jessie at church after my neighbor forced me to join his children's choir. This was back in 3rd grade. When i first met her i couldn't stand her. Now we're hardly ever seen apart in that building.

I fear now though that things may be coming to an end. I've realized now that i truely love thiis girl and would do anything for her. The quuestion is can i give her up? She is currently seeing a guy where she lives. I fel like i don't even have a chance. I see her once a week for an hour or two. I recently sent her an email that told her i loved her and she hasn't responded. I need help!!!

 

[Crusader_D]

I can tell you now that I know exactly what you are going through. Do not fret, it will seem like you are on the edge of a cliff. But you have your life ahead of you, and you will have plenty of opportunities. If she refuses your feelings, relax, for you have her best wishes at heart if you truely love her. If not it is lust, and your separation is for the best. Just pray that the boy she is with will treat her as good as you would have if she denies you. Remember, in the end God Jesus and the Holy Spirit are the only ones that truly matter.

 

[Ugly]

Alright man, i know you will probably ignore this advice as most teens your age think they're older and more grown up than they really are. I remember being your age and thinking i knew all about what being in love is. And how relationships at that age are supposed to be life long loves. Fact is chances are this is not the girl you will end up with. And even if it is who God does want you to marry one day, doesn't mean you'll be dating the next four or more years. At your age you are not ready to truly grasp love. You may care for her, and love her to some degree, but the kind of love that takes place in long term relationships is just not something a 14 year old is mature enough to comprehend or capable of feeling.
Really you should forget dating at your age. Dating at your age only leads to your heart being broken over and over. If you think its not true, there are thousands and millions of people that are proof otherwise. And if you think you're 'different' than all those people, well, they all felt the same way.
Give her up, give up dating. Focus on God and your walk with God. When Gods timing is right, and you're the right age, He'll bring you the right one.

 

[shemaiah]

^^I agree, at this age you are too young to grasp love and to even be dating. You may have some feelings for her but right now, I suggest you just build a relationship with Jesus while you are still young, put Him first in everything you do and He will help you in such and much more. God bless

 

[worldlover]

I can't give you the best advice since i myself have never dated a girl as well but i can suggest something from a Christian perspective. Number one, always pray and ask to God for a sign and make it a routine every night before you go to sleep. Secondly, if you feel that it's God's will then, never be afraid to make a move by befriending her first. Thirdly, be patient because you're still young to enter into intimate relationships besides, you don't need to rush things as the right time will come naturally. Lastly, always keep in mind that whether you two are meant for each other or not, i'm pretty sure God will always have better plans for you ahead so, just follow the wave and be more confident. God bless you.

 

[zbrow13]

Ok, update here. I saw her Wed. @ church but we didn't talk. She then emailed me l8r saying she wasn't mad. Things still on shaky ground. Her grandpa who i am close to has cancer (just foynd out). Will continuue to pray.

 

[Aqua_Girl09]

Don't listen to them. >_< your love is as real as anything else. when ppl get older the forget that at your age what you feel is JUST as big as what they do. it gets a bit more complicated as you get older. >_^ but its still just as important.

BUT to tell you the truth its not worth the heart ache you're about to put yourself through. don't go chasing this girl cause if shes ment for you then she'll find her way back to you. chasing her down is just going to exhaust your heart and make you focus more on her instead of the life you should be living for God. plus. you're not even CLOSE to an age where marriage is an option. and TRUST me its hard enough to stay pure let alone when you're been with some one for years. >_<

focus on God and what he wants for you and that girl that is ment for you (whether it be her or someone even better) will come to you when its time and not anytime before. kk. pray for peace in your heart and you'll get it. ^_^

 

[kewl42]

you felt what is called infatuation. there'll be others. don't worry yourself over it.

 

[Warrior_4_Christ]

Bro I get exactly what your going through, im 17 and have only dated once and that was when i was about your age. It felt like nothing before, we then broke up after being together for 3 years. Yea it hurt for awhile but i was able to overcome that by seeking the Lord Jesus Christ and the true love he has for us. But now at 17 years of age I have found that girl who makes everything better by her just smiling, i get what your going through i honestly do but i wish i was like you though, haha I still have'nt told her how i feel but reading your story has reminded me that if we love something we should take that leap of faith. Just as we have faith in our Lord. Your buddy Warrior_4_Christ