Does he like me or not???!!!! Confused!

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
C

CryingRose94

Guest
#1
#1
Okay, so there is a guy I like, that I've liked for about 3 months now, since I saw him, he is one of my friends brothers and goes to my youth group. For the first 2 months he did not say a single word to me, I'd see him look at me, but when ever I actually looked back at him he would turn away, if he said bye to some of my friends who I'd be talking to, he would glance at me really fast than turn away. I finally got the courage to talk to him, and I went up to him and one of my friends because they were talking about my fave topic...music... and just talked mainly to my friend, but I'd ask the guy I like questions about his interests when it comes to music (which I really knew alot of anyways because I've gotten to be real good friends with his sister)...anyways, ever since than he makes teasing joke towards me but not mean or anything and he likes to stand near me alot here recently. I'm just curious, does it sound like he likes me back or not?
 
F

FireBug

Guest
#2
#2
Sounds to me like he might like you, but I don't know the dude personally. So, why don't you go to the guy upstairs, pray about it. He knows more about you (and him) than you (or him) know yourself (or selves) :)
That, and He can tell you whether or not it's a good choice to like this guy too.
 
C

CryingRose94

Guest
#3
#3
Yeah, the guys is a Christian though so I do not see why it would be a bad thing to like him.
 
F

Finny101

Guest
#4
#4
FireBug said:
Sounds to me like he might like you, but I don't know the dude personally. So, why don't you go to the guy upstairs, pray about it. He knows more about you (and him) than you (or him) know yourself (or selves) :)
That, and He can tell you whether or not it's a good choice to like this guy too.
Click to expand...
That was really good advice. I couldn't say it any better my selves.
 
F

FireBug

Guest
#5
#5
CryingRose94 said:
Yeah, the guys is a Christian though so I do not see why it would be a bad thing to like him.
Click to expand...
Didn't say it would be bad... just might not be right for you. Maybe God has someone better in mind for you. ;)
 
C

CryingRose94

Guest
#6
#6
Well, if God does than I'll probably stop liking this guy like I do.
 
B

BlueAngel

Guest
#7
#7
CryingRose94 said:
Well, if God does than I'll probably stop liking this guy like I do.
Click to expand...
That's what praying about it does. You need to know if the guy is right for you. If he isn't, move on. The best thing in the world for you to do, is to wait until you know the guy is right for you, and then you can like him without being worried about it.
If God says he's right, then he'll inevitably like you... cuz no mater who we are, God's plan pulls us all in at some time. ;)
Good luck girl!
 
S

Seraphotic

Guest
#8
#8
Religiously, pray heaven down xD
Speaking from experience from being a guy, some guys take awhile to see the line that spots three ways friend, like a sister, oh I like this girl(maybe we should date)

He sounds, based on what you've said like he sees you as a friend, give abou two months or so and he'll be seeing the line. (it really does take us that long though we don't like to admit it, I personally take about five or six months haha, but I'm kinda ditsy sometimes)
 
B

Bobbyking

Guest
#9
#9
CryingRose94 said:
Okay, so there is a guy I like, that I've liked for about 3 months now, since I saw him, he is one of my friends brothers and goes to my youth group. For the first 2 months he did not say a single word to me, I'd see him look at me, but when ever I actually looked back at him he would turn away, if he said bye to some of my friends who I'd be talking to, he would glance at me really fast than turn away. I finally got the courage to talk to him, and I went up to him and one of my friends because they were talking about my fave topic...music... and just talked mainly to my friend, but I'd ask the guy I like questions about his interests when it comes to music (which I really knew alot of anyways because I've gotten to be real good friends with his sister)...anyways, ever since than he makes teasing joke towards me but not mean or anything and he likes to stand near me alot here recently. I'm just curious, does it sound like he likes me back or not?
Click to expand...

The fun of youth dating (Godly ones I mean).... :cool:
Hi CryingRose94, my suggestion? Be around, be fun & vibrant and let others (girls & guys) see your love for the Lord in your lifestyle. Such contagious behavior will attract many to you, and if you haven't, start developing godly & close friendship with girls! (I think that's the priority for your age now).. Not withstanding, guys will also be attracted by such behavior. There's nothing wrong with that. however, to go serious dating with a single guy, you may want to seek the Lord and his timing.

And for this guy? You never know... sometimes a guy may look confident in many things but when a girl approaches him, he changed to a nervous rock. Nothing negative here though. Or perhaps he's just not ready even though he has a liking for you. Whatever the case, learn to trust God in this. Psalm 37:4, Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desire of the heart. :)


 
S

SantoSubito

Guest
#10
#10
This is a situation I have a lot of experience in because until I was 17 I was in the same boat as this guy. From experience I can pretty solidly say that he likes you. When I was in HS I did the same thing with a girl in my Latin class; I would look over at her then look away when she looked at me, and even though she clearly liked me (I was told by a mutual friend) I could hardly ever muster up the courage to talk her. Thankfully one day I just walked into Latin class, kissed my crucifix, made the sign of the cross, asked her out, and everything worked out for the best.

Simply put hes just shy. The best thing you could do is take the initiative and ask him out or at least drop some very strong hints.
 
T

Tobby17

Guest
#11
#11
LOL.. Seriously anyone who tells you to pray about this, is simply asking you to waste ur time.. You like him, you will only hear what you want to hear.. Do yo actually think if you pray, you will take No for an answer????..

Better still, just take ur time and make sure you don't make a wrong decision.. That's all i can say..
 
T

tjogs

Senior Member
#12
Jun 28, 2009
323
18
18
#12
Tobby, that kind of prayer wasn't the prayer suggested to do. If you are praying really, not just pretending you'll get the ansver God wants to give.
 
J

jonnoboy

Guest
#13
#13
Awww, sounds like this guy may have a little liking to you haha, lucky you! Nothing wrong with healthy Banter.... like others say... Pray! Trust! and answers will come!

Jonno
 
C

CryingRose94

Guest
#14
#14
Thank you everyone! I really like the ones of you who say he likes me...lol...seriously though I would never ask him out myself, cuz my dad would kill me, he is strictly for the guys being the ones to ask the girl out...I do not really see it that way, but I am not gonna do it cuz I love my dad and respect his wishes while I'm under his roof... But any idea on how to drop hints, without seeming desperate? And ideas on working him out of being shy around me?
 
S

SantoSubito

Guest
#15
#15
CryingRose94 said:
Thank you everyone! I really like the ones of you who say he likes me...lol...seriously though I would never ask him out myself, cuz my dad would kill me, he is strictly for the guys being the ones to ask the girl out...I do not really see it that way, but I am not gonna do it cuz I love my dad and respect his wishes while I'm under his roof... But any idea on how to drop hints, without seeming desperate? And ideas on working him out of being shy around me?
Click to expand...
That complicates it a little bit, because since hes so shy I'm not sure if he'll ever get the courage to ask you out. As far as hint dropping goes when you make eye contact with him from across the room make sure you smile, and during a conversation do simple things like a light touch on his arm. Breaking the touch barrier will go a long way towards making him less shy around you and encouraging him to ask you. Just make sure he is the only guy your doing this kind of touching with, or else he might see you touching him as "something she does to everyone", and not as something that is unique to him. Finally the most important thing is to make sure he knows that your single, so just get one of your friends to ask you if your single and make sure he is close enough to overhear.

To ease him into talking to you getting him alone (or at least make sure you are the only one nearby) will usually ease shy guys up. Yes, this may seem counter-intuitive but he is actually more afraid of embarrassing himself in front of his friends than he is of embarrassing himself in front of you. The next best thing would to be to walk up and talk to him when he is with one of his closest friends.

Last but not least strike up a conversation about something he knows a lot about or is passionate about.
 
C

CryingRose94

Guest
#16
#16
One common ground we have is music, and he was with a good friend of his when I walked upto them a month ago. It was really a mutual friend actually, and the topic was music, so that really opened a door for me. All three of us liked similar bands that also helped, but I'm way to shy to actually touch him.
 
S

SantoSubito

Guest
#17
#17
CryingRose94 said:
One common ground we have is music, and he was with a good friend of his when I walked upto them a month ago. It was really a mutual friend actually, and the topic was music, so that really opened a door for me. All three of us liked similar bands that also helped, but I'm way to shy to actually touch him.
Click to expand...
It doesn't have to be any major long-contact touching. Like if he mentions a band that you like just put your hand on his shoulder or upper arm and say something along the lines of "Really? I love them!". Or if there is a band playing nearby that both of you like you can use the mutual friend you have to go as a group with him and maybe a few others.
 
T

Tobby17

Guest
#18
#18
lol.. Why are you being thought how to get a boyfriend, girls know better than that...o_O

Why don't you just ask him if he likes you..:p
 
J

jonnoboy

Guest
#19
#19
awww, Rose haha bless ya!! Listen follow santo's advice....its really sound advice! He sounds a wise old bird :p

I really hope it works out for you both!

God bless, and Good luck

Jonno
 
C

CryingRose94

Guest
#20
#20
Yeah, I'll probably be seeing him tonight maybe I could try to find a point in time to do something like that, but are you sure that touching him would not look desperate? Also another awkward thing is, is he is three months younger than me, that might look a little wierd, don't ya think?
 
You must log in or register to reply here.