Okay, so I always hear the "wait till you're married" position on sex, abstinence, etc. etc. And that's all fine and good, it is indeed in the Bible. But what is God's definition of marriage in the first place?
You have to consider that the Bible was written several years ago, and that what's "married" for those in the bible times, may have been vastly different than what it is today, and what it is today might be vastly different than what it is 500 years from now.
For example, maybe in the year 2500 marriage means you cut off your arm with a knife. And I don't know about you, but at that point I'd opt out of marriage.
So what you have to do is look at the true meaning of the law, what's the point of it? Like "don't eat pigs", really translates to "don't eat things that will give you diseases". It's a practical sort of law. So why not have sex until marriage?
Well most obviously it has to do with parenting, if you had sex back then, there was a pretty good chance of a baby coming out of it. Moses' contraception methods were pretty much limited to timing. So to avoid having a bunch of stray kids with unknown parents running around, marriage is created. 2 people are committed to the human being that they brought into the world, until the day they die.
So it's a commitment thing. So if someone plans to stay with another person for the rest of their lives, then wouldn't sex be okay? It's the same principle, and it's the same concept. The only difference in "marriage" is that the government has to sign a paper, and if you ever want out you're going to have to go through about a year of legal battles.
Does God care if the government knows about your relationship? Probably not.
And honestly if you get divorced, it's pretty much exactly the same as having premarital sex. Marriage is important because there's a permanence to it, and if that permanence is lost then you might as well have never been married.
What are your thoughts on the matter?
You have to consider that the Bible was written several years ago, and that what's "married" for those in the bible times, may have been vastly different than what it is today, and what it is today might be vastly different than what it is 500 years from now.
For example, maybe in the year 2500 marriage means you cut off your arm with a knife. And I don't know about you, but at that point I'd opt out of marriage.
So what you have to do is look at the true meaning of the law, what's the point of it? Like "don't eat pigs", really translates to "don't eat things that will give you diseases". It's a practical sort of law. So why not have sex until marriage?
Well most obviously it has to do with parenting, if you had sex back then, there was a pretty good chance of a baby coming out of it. Moses' contraception methods were pretty much limited to timing. So to avoid having a bunch of stray kids with unknown parents running around, marriage is created. 2 people are committed to the human being that they brought into the world, until the day they die.
So it's a commitment thing. So if someone plans to stay with another person for the rest of their lives, then wouldn't sex be okay? It's the same principle, and it's the same concept. The only difference in "marriage" is that the government has to sign a paper, and if you ever want out you're going to have to go through about a year of legal battles.
Does God care if the government knows about your relationship? Probably not.
And honestly if you get divorced, it's pretty much exactly the same as having premarital sex. Marriage is important because there's a permanence to it, and if that permanence is lost then you might as well have never been married.
What are your thoughts on the matter?
