Hi I'm Kayleigh, I'm 14, and I struggle with bisexuality. It started at age 12 when I had a best friend that also struggled. We kissed, and I was hooked. I am a virgin, but that's about all I am holding on to. I am seeking others who also struggle to build each other up, and become friends, guys and girls.
Do you struggle with bisexuality?
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hallo Kayleigh
Sorry, no, i've never struggled with such things. But perhaps try this site.... XXXChurch.com Their main emphasis is on porn, which i know isn't your problem, but i believe they may have resources for you that may help anyways. Perhaps links to more fitting sites. It is a ministry site. Hope you find something helpful there.
Sorry, no, i've never struggled with such things. But perhaps try this site.... XXXChurch.com Their main emphasis is on porn, which i know isn't your problem, but i believe they may have resources for you that may help anyways. Perhaps links to more fitting sites. It is a ministry site. Hope you find something helpful there.
Jesus is the God of love! He will accept you whatever sexuality you have and whatever people say. He looks at what is in your heart and if you are attracted to men or women (or men and women) it is the same to him.
But before you get inside a relationship be careful so that you know that your feelings are true and don't rush into anything. And also remeber to be openly gay/homosexual takes a lot of courage (depending on where you live) as you are often scorned (and many times the ones that scorn you are christians that just don't know jesus and have forgotten that they should not judge).
So... it is nothing wrong with you. And whatever happens Jesus will love you as he loves all people that spreads love and goodness in the world!
Take care
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But before you get inside a relationship be careful so that you know that your feelings are true and don't rush into anything. And also remeber to be openly gay/homosexual takes a lot of courage (depending on where you live) as you are often scorned (and many times the ones that scorn you are christians that just don't know jesus and have forgotten that they should not judge).
So... it is nothing wrong with you. And whatever happens Jesus will love you as he loves all people that spreads love and goodness in the world!
Take care
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You should know that its actually normally for healthy individuals to sometimes feel curious about 'what its like to play for the other team' at one time or another. Its normal, but many people will never admit to it, so few people know that its normal. A study was done years ago. The important thing is to not act on these feelings. Once you do, I imagine it might be hard to go back.
I would just say be yourself, and be with who you want to be with regardless of their gender. And don't let people convince you that you're wrong or evil, cause you are not. If you honestly want to change and be 'saved' then by all means go for it, but don't feel like you have to be pressured into it. Peace.
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Herm.
I've never had bisexual inclinations, personally. But I ain't gonna hate on anyone who does. If it wasn't something to struggle with, then it wouldn't be a problem to begin with.
But at the same time, I can't say that those who are engaging in homosexual activities are in the right, either. Though, it's not my place to judge another man's servant (God's servant in this place.) It is my duty to try to help out when a brother/sister in Christ is doing wrong! (Well, at least from my understanding.)
I'd like to do so in a loving manor, though. So, please don't take what I have to say offensively.
I recollect the story of Sodom and Gomorrah. Where God smote the whole city because they were such a sexually perverted people. I'm sure most of ya'll remember when that lot of guys who wanted to have relations with those angels were smitten with blindness. This would indicate to me that God considers sex something sacred to take place between one man and woman.
God said he never changes. And, when Jesus came along, it wasn't God who changed. It was his policies. Jesus fulfilled all of the Leviticus laws so we wouldn't have to, but he didn't change what was right and wrong in the eyes of God. He gave us an infinite, get out of jail free card to get away from sin. Not a licence to do so without any penalties.
Assuming these two statements are correct, this means that it's alright if you HAVE sinned. But, not alright if you KEEP sinning. And, it is a sin in God's eyes to have sexual relations with those of the same sex. So if you have engaged in bisexual activities before, that's totally fine so long as you repent of it and come back to God. But it's not okay to continue being bisexual while trying to still serve God.
Our heavenly father said that you cannot serve two masters. And, if you're having sex with someone of the same gender, who are you doing it for? Certainly not for God... You'd be serving your own desires. And, in my experience, serving your own desires only leads to bad things.
So, with that said, there's one more thing I'd like to convey.
You can love whoever you wish without having sex with them. I love my sisters, father, mother, and a few relatives dearly. But, I'd never want to have sex with any of them. I've known people who loved their best friends more than they did their boyfriend/spouse without wanting to have sex with them.
In this way methinks it's acceptable to love everyone regardless of gender, though those of the same gender are not to be loved in the same intimate way you would your husband/wife of the opposite gender.
Well, that's it. You don't have to take it for granted, by do at least try to consider it. I ain't hatin' on you for what you struggle with. Part of love is understanding after all.
I've never had bisexual inclinations, personally. But I ain't gonna hate on anyone who does. If it wasn't something to struggle with, then it wouldn't be a problem to begin with.
But at the same time, I can't say that those who are engaging in homosexual activities are in the right, either. Though, it's not my place to judge another man's servant (God's servant in this place.) It is my duty to try to help out when a brother/sister in Christ is doing wrong! (Well, at least from my understanding.)
I'd like to do so in a loving manor, though. So, please don't take what I have to say offensively.
I recollect the story of Sodom and Gomorrah. Where God smote the whole city because they were such a sexually perverted people. I'm sure most of ya'll remember when that lot of guys who wanted to have relations with those angels were smitten with blindness. This would indicate to me that God considers sex something sacred to take place between one man and woman.
God said he never changes. And, when Jesus came along, it wasn't God who changed. It was his policies. Jesus fulfilled all of the Leviticus laws so we wouldn't have to, but he didn't change what was right and wrong in the eyes of God. He gave us an infinite, get out of jail free card to get away from sin. Not a licence to do so without any penalties.
Assuming these two statements are correct, this means that it's alright if you HAVE sinned. But, not alright if you KEEP sinning. And, it is a sin in God's eyes to have sexual relations with those of the same sex. So if you have engaged in bisexual activities before, that's totally fine so long as you repent of it and come back to God. But it's not okay to continue being bisexual while trying to still serve God.
Our heavenly father said that you cannot serve two masters. And, if you're having sex with someone of the same gender, who are you doing it for? Certainly not for God... You'd be serving your own desires. And, in my experience, serving your own desires only leads to bad things.
So, with that said, there's one more thing I'd like to convey.
You can love whoever you wish without having sex with them. I love my sisters, father, mother, and a few relatives dearly. But, I'd never want to have sex with any of them. I've known people who loved their best friends more than they did their boyfriend/spouse without wanting to have sex with them.
In this way methinks it's acceptable to love everyone regardless of gender, though those of the same gender are not to be loved in the same intimate way you would your husband/wife of the opposite gender.
Well, that's it. You don't have to take it for granted, by do at least try to consider it. I ain't hatin' on you for what you struggle with. Part of love is understanding after all.
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Hi kayleigh =) Im 20 and started "exploring" when I was in middle school (dont remember what age).... I understand what u r going through. I went from bisexual to lesbian and back n unfortunately was very unsure of what I wanted and what was right for a long time. I continue to be attracted to females (more than males) but I have chosen not to act on it.many years it took me to really accept that biblically it is wrong - and though god forgives and loves us - once we are aware that something is wrong to do, it is impossible to continue while knowing it is wrong and expect to be given the same kind of grace as when u were unaware.... many say it is not wrong and i completely understand where they r coming from - but in my personal search n prayer I have found that it is...i have to ask often n wholeheartedly for god to help me not to act on my desires... n the only advice I feel I can rightly give u is to pray and search ur bible for urself until god speaks to you, and shows u what he wants for ur life.
