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Jman96

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So I really need some prayer and support. Recently I have been going through some issues and I don't know where to go. I feel like if I go to my youth pastor or leader they will just judge me. For the past two years or so I have been struggling with pornography, and masturbation. I feel like I am such a horrible person and when I go to youth group I hide it and I really want free of it. It's controlling my life. I once had such a strong love and passion for the lord and my lust and sexual desires keep running it down into the ground. I feel this is something I can't get over without Jesus and I need prayer and support. I really ask, if you have any advice and supporting words please share. I am sick of letting my God down.
 
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Jewliah

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We are always going to let our God down. We sin. What we need to do is take it day by day. This issue can be addresses like a drug or alcohol problem. It is addictive. Where ever you get your porn, stay away from it. Even if you have to stay away from your computer. Go straight to your bible and read. Keep your hands off yourself! Keep your eyes on God. Pray and seek His help when you feel tempted. He is there with you always! You need to confess this to someone. Your youth pastor or maybe a senior pastor or counselor at your church. They are there to help you get through this and keep your eyes on God. There was a man at my church you confessed his porn problem in front of the entire church! People still treated him the same. It actually made an impact on the church. That we are all human and will be tempted daily. You just need to change your focus and believe it or not, it will get easier. You can be transformed through The Word. Keep reading and keep praying! Thank you for posting your confession. God sees this first step and He will be faithful! I'll pray for you.
 
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Crimeny

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this is a problem i also struggled with a while ago, i can tell you that the first steps you wanna do is shift your focus away from pornography by taking up other activities or hobbies, placing filters and parental controls you cannot modify or having a friend do that for you so that when you get the itch or the craving you can't get on it (for any computer in your house). I recommend also taking a break from your laptop for some time, i know that usually when you got nothing to do and you are bored you look for that immediate pleasure or rush and it can take a hold of you. Another thing for you to maybe try is doing lots of mental work after some recovery, if you stimulate your forebrain more, you gain more control over yourself, and 100% prayer with Jesus just talking about this addiction problem and making at least an honest attempt to maybe repent, because if you don't then it sort of becomes a vicious cycle and it is very hurting.

Don't worry bud, this is a tough problem but I have confidence and I think Jesus has confidence in you as well that you will get through this lust and temptation, and I know for many of us here as males if you looked at the singles section also have had similar problems. The key is avoiding the source of temptation and resisting it and then the tempter leaves you alone, because heck even now I still get lustful thoughts and they can be frustrating, none of us are perfect and coming to Jesus and asking him to take this burden of sin and help us change is really the only way we can progressively become better people.

So take some action, and don't let those thoughts and lazyness get to ya! Just sort of struggle through until you say no and then bam close the laptop or the computer and maybe walk out or something.
 
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You need to trust in the power of Jesus' blood. You need the washing in the water of God's word. Confess your sin to God and He will forgive you.
 

shemaiah

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Bro, completely turning away from sin is something only God can do for you. My advice is draw nearer to God and He will change your perspective, mindset and your response towards sin including pornography. Try going on like a 3 day fast away from any electronic device, and in that time seek God more and ask Him to change you. God bless you
 
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crissy17

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Experiencing temptation isn't a sin but we must be careful not to put ourselves above being tempted. Having a humble attitude will help us recognize our weaknesses and seek help in overcoming temptation.Life's temptations and trials test our worthiness, our faith in Christ, and our obedience to God's commandments. Trials and making choices between good and evil are necessary to God's plan.God is faithful. He always provides a way of escape. When tempted, your job is not to bear up under the weight of temptation, but rather, to look for the escape route God has already provided.Ask for his strength to stand up under the temptation whenever u encounter it..
Though it can be helpful to read God's Word when you're being tempted, sometimes that's not practical. Even better is to practice reading the Word daily, so that eventually you have so much of it inside, you are ready whenever temptation comes. If you are reading through the Bible regularly, you will have the full counsel of God at your disposal..Trust in Him in all things..God bless u.
 
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Ugly

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Try this site XXXChurch.com A ministry centered around sexual based addictions like porn.
 
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Kyouken01

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The only thing I have to add is that a lot of teenage boys have struggled with sexual sin and a lot still do (I am of no exception, my friend). I'm sorry that you aren't able to talk to your pastor/youth pastor about it; I don't know how it feels but I imagine it must not be fun at all not be able to talk to them about it considering their position. I do however understand what you mean when you say you're tired of letting God down. I've felt that pain as well concerning this, and I'm sure a lot of people have felt it concerning other things as well. This isn't an easy thing to confess, either - sometimes I've said to myself, "Man, I wish it were something else! If it were that, I'd definitely have no problem telling someone!" I bet some people wish they were in my position too.

The primary thing that has worked well for me has been filling my mind with the Word of God and meditating on that. Doing that will change your very being. Not all at once of course, but it's a step in a better direction, I can assure you of that.

I'll be praying for you!