To Date or Not to Date.. that is the Question.. opinions Please?

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What's your Opinion on Dating?

  • Sure, dating is Ok as long as you're Careful

    Votes: 3 60.0%
  • I think it's for the Better to wait until After high School so you're more Serious

    Votes: 2 40.0%

  • Total voters
    5
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JesusChaser

Guest
#21
I find it truly amazing how people put a secular meaning/thing in with something that is of God!! I mean look at dating. . .what does it mean to you? Where do we get our examples of dating? I surely don't get it from great Christian individuals. And how can we know how to date? I mean there are no permanant records of dating anywhere and also dating is a modern phenom that is sweeping this world. Where in the bible does it talk about dating? No it doesn't! I mean what does it usually talk about getting spouses? Some people are like that is not for me well what is for you? How is dating in any way biblical? Also those that view recreation dating (just for the fun of it). . .it just serves as a good lesson? Yeah a good lesson for hooking up and and doing the naughty naughty and then what happens? You catch something or have a baby. And most of the time people say it won't happen to me. So until I can have a proper example of dating im staying away from it!
 
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_VaNeSsA_

Guest
#22
I really think you should wait in dating till after high school that way you can focus on your school work and on God more. Just ask God for patience and for him to bring you "the one" for you when He thinks it's time!!
 
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NoTearsShed

Guest
#23
I find it truly amazing how people put a secular meaning/thing in with something that is of God!! I mean look at dating. . .what does it mean to you? Where do we get our examples of dating? I surely don't get it from great Christian individuals. And how can we know how to date? I mean there are no permanant records of dating anywhere and also dating is a modern phenom that is sweeping this world. Where in the bible does it talk about dating? No it doesn't! I mean what does it usually talk about getting spouses? Some people are like that is not for me well what is for you? How is dating in any way biblical? Also those that view recreation dating (just for the fun of it). . .it just serves as a good lesson? Yeah a good lesson for hooking up and and doing the naughty naughty and then what happens? You catch something or have a baby. And most of the time people say it won't happen to me. So until I can have a proper example of dating im staying away from it!

Agreed BUT theres a difference dating with only kissing & holding hands (NO touchy down there or up there or near there) is different from dating & doing naughty naughty.
I never really dated (meaning i havnt really went to places with my boyfriend or a guy only, I only been out with a guy or boyfriend alone like once or 2 times with them...never really had a single date...) But i have had boyfriends..2 months the longest relation ship T_T they were mistakes....
BUT i also think that if you have a child hood friend who you are close & he or she loves God also or is close to God & you two develop a love for each other why not start datin just no sex.
That way you can get to know each other & then decide to marry & then from there what they do alone is no ones but their & God Bussiness.

It does not speak in the bible from were i know that we should date but if we dont have a boyfriend girlfriend relation ship first then how can we have a marriage.... if people rush into marriage fast then maybe one cheats on the other or something... which is worser so in a way i feel that dating is okay as long as you dont have the x. BUT at the same time its also good to keep faith In God about the one he made for us to be with....
This is such a confusing topic =/ No one really is completly correct (including myself) since God is the only who can say what is right or not....
Thank God right now im single & as of today i want to stay that way for a while...
unless someone intresting comes a long o.o
 
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BellaFlor

Guest
#24
I think one should be waiting for the one God has for you.
When you wait you will get even more blessed trying everything with the Only and True Love for You!
What isn't more Beautiful than experiencing your first kiss, cuddled, and etc, by the one that God has for you?
Waiting will make everything more precious and special for both of you. And know that there is a reason for God wanting one and each of us to wait,
there is a reason for that He has a "right timing" for everything, including for us getting a husband/wife. We should put our trust in God, and let Him lead us to the right one when the right timing is there. That way you will get and feel more blessed and thankful about waiting too! :)
 
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Rissa77

Guest
#25
Bellaflor, you sound like a poet because that was beautiful. I would put music to that right there. Makes me smile.

Dating is such a strange concept.

I didn't do it during high school because God called me to singleness during that time. After high school.. I still didn't date, but I got too interested in dating, and with the wrong guy. Even that caused problems that I'm paying for.

Dating is too casual. Making matches in Biblical times was very serious business. The parents chose the mate unless the man chose the girl and got her parent's permission. They would of course make sure this man was of Biblical standard and worthy of their daughter. The two shared a glass of wine together and technically they were married (it's a more complicated procedure, with lots of symbolism but I'm making it short and sweet lol). Then the groom would go away and prepare their home. The party starts when he returns to fetch his wife, an ordeal that involves the whole community. Then they ride off into the sunset... *scratching dj noise*

2000 years later..
And it's turned into dating today.

Yea... there's got to be some middle ground somewhere, right?

:D There is! It's called courting. It's difference is in its purpose and focus.

You're financially ready to support a spouse and family. CHECK
You're spiritually ready to support a spouse and family. CHECK
You're after God's will and not your own. CHECK
You're content with being single because you are able to focus solely on God, but you feel Him moving you toward consideration of marriage at this time. CHECK
This isn't simply about pleasure and companionship. This is about marriage. CHECK
You have prayed a LOT about this step, and is asking for God's direction. CHECK
You have either heard from God about a particular person, or you feel Him leading you toward a particular person and with God's guidance, you would be willing to explore the possibilities of marriage with this person. CHECK
Your goal is to make God the center of absolutely everything, and you create boundaries so that the relationship completely pleases God. CHECK

Got all those? Then you're ready for Biblical courting. The concept is all over the Bible, though it may not spell it out as clearly as other things.

This is the checklist I follow. So far, I'm not even close. lol I feel God directing me to two more years of singleness, if not more. I'll hit that road when it comes. But as Paul said, it is better for us young ones to be single so that we can better focus on God without the distraction of a spouse (he can go into detail of that for you). And that should be our focus at this time - God. Focus solely on Him and He will tell you when it's time to start including a special someone, and who that will be.
 
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BellaFlor

Guest
#26
Thanks Rissa77, I do also like to be writing poems ;) :)

I mostly agree with you there. All the dating concept today is just too silly. Although I sure respect others if they want to date a lot before meeting the "Right One", I mean, it is their choice. But I myself have always been "a Romantic", I always wanted, since being 15, to be getting into a serious relationship, and most preferable, with the "Right One" for me. I had to Know that my Now husband were the right one for me, and God gave me that knowledge, or else I wouldn't have been happy feeling insecure about it all the time. I was always Very Picky on that part, meeting the "Right One". And as long as we have a BIG Faith in Him letting us know when and with who He has for us to marry, the More Blessed We Will Be. With a Everything Is Possible God, and that Knows of all our deep longings and needs within our hearts, why should we worry? Why not just keep on Trusting In Him, and keep on waiting till He tells us that Now We Are Ready For It? Truly He Knows When The Right Timing Is There, And His Right Timing Is Always The Most Perfect Timing For Us!

Cheers! :D
 
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Charlotte91

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#27
the best thing to do is just follow God's plan he has for you
 
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flozzzy

Guest
#28
i wouldnt say high school kids are stupid, some kidz become adults way b4 ppl see them as adults. but ye i agree we have had less years of experience wit life, and so might not be as wise sometimes as older ppl.
 
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JesusChaser

Guest
#29
i wouldnt say high school kids are stupid, some kidz become adults way b4 ppl see them as adults. but ye i agree we have had less years of experience wit life, and so might not be as wise sometimes as older ppl.

And once you are as old as us you will realize that high school students are dumb. Lol. Also this is a very very good reason that they shouldn't date, they don't have to age or experience in life to make big desitions!