For teens who are dating.

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
I

imepaula

Guest
#1
#1
Just some general questions
  1. Do you think its ok to kiss or to wait til you are married?
  2. (For guys)If your girlfriend dressed sexy would you like it or would it bother you?
  3. Do you think there is an appropriate age in which someone can date or does it not matter?
  4. Does it bother anyone about how teens are notorious for switching boyfriends/girlfriends a lot?
 
G

GodIsMightyToSave

Guest
#2
#2
  1. Do you think its ok to kiss or to wait til you are married?
If you can kiss and refrain from having impure thoughts/actions/speech, then okay. :D
  1. (For guys)If your girlfriend dressed sexy would you like it or would it bother you? N/A
I'm a girl. If my boyfriend dressed sexy in public (like wore no shirt), I would be bothered by it.
  1. Do you think there is an appropriate age in which someone can date or does it not matter?
No appropriate age - we're all different. However, I think we should abide to an extend this world's law. NO TO BEING JAILBAITS. That's just being a stumbling block! Also, no flirting with someone you're not interested in!
  1. Does it bother anyone about how teens are notorious for switching boyfriends/girlfriends a lot?
Oh yes. Don't they care about another person's feelings? Don't they care about themselves? They are going to become so emotionally worn out, I fear for their standards and their increasing need to experience or feel 'love'. I think it's important to have God fill that God-shaped hole in your heart before you look for a spouse. Spouses are meant to compliment each other on their journey towards God, not make you whole.
 
K

Kiwi71

Guest
#3
#3
i have recently be saved and im trying to obey what the bible is teaching but im finding it very diffcult im 18 and living at home, have no job and a girlfriend i dont trust. i think this is a very good and strate up answer as sed above. QUOTE

""Oh yes. Don't they care about another person's feelings? Don't they care about themselves? They are going to become so emotionally worn out, I fear for their standards and their increasing need to experience or feel 'love'. I think it's important to have God fill that God-shaped hole in your heart before you look for a spouse. Spouses are meant to compliment each other on their journey towards God, not make you whole. ""

Im finding it hard because before i met Jesus i was living in sin and sleeping with her every night now she see this dramtic change and me not wanting to arrr.. du it with her any more and thinks iv changed then she stays with me in my bed an i think im strong enuf to keep from temptations then i get the memories bak of how good it was and away i go again sining. What du i do because i do love her but i kinda want this burdon of temtation to just leave.

i want to mary her but i have no job im living at home still and the bible says you are to leave your mother and fathers house and come together with the one you love and then you are as one.

After all this message iv typed just now it has just come to me. this is a challenge set infront of me from God for me to make the most of and become stronger christian. if you read this please pray for me that i choose all the riyt paths. written by Jesse
 
I

imepaula

Guest
#4
#4
Kiwi71 said:
i have recently be saved and im trying to obey what the bible is teaching but im finding it very diffcult im 18 and living at home, have no job and a girlfriend i dont trust. i think this is a very good and strate up answer as sed above. QUOTE

""Oh yes. Don't they care about another person's feelings? Don't they care about themselves? They are going to become so emotionally worn out, I fear for their standards and their increasing need to experience or feel 'love'. I think it's important to have God fill that God-shaped hole in your heart before you look for a spouse. Spouses are meant to compliment each other on their journey towards God, not make you whole. ""

Im finding it hard because before i met Jesus i was living in sin and sleeping with her every night now she see this dramtic change and me not wanting to arrr.. du it with her any more and thinks iv changed then she stays with me in my bed an i think im strong enuf to keep from temptations then i get the memories bak of how good it was and away i go again sining. What du i do because i do love her but i kinda want this burdon of temtation to just leave.

i want to mary her but i have no job im living at home still and the bible says you are to leave your mother and fathers house and come together with the one you love and then you are as one.

After all this message iv typed just now it has just come to me. this is a challenge set infront of me from God for me to make the most of and become stronger christian. if you read this please pray for me that i choose all the riyt paths. written by Jesse
Click to expand...
I'd say not to stay alone too much and not to lay in bed with her too much temptation.
 
J

JesusChaser

Guest
#5
#5
imepaula said:
Just some general questions
  1. Do you think its ok to kiss or to wait til you are married?
  2. (For guys)If your girlfriend dressed sexy would you like it or would it bother you?
  3. Do you think there is an appropriate age in which someone can date or does it not matter?
  4. Does it bother anyone about how teens are notorious for switching boyfriends/girlfriends a lot?
Click to expand...
1. Im thinking you mean kiss before or after your married lol. Personally im going to wait till im married with my wife. I have kissed a girl and it was pointless the relationship ended after a week. It wasn't because of the kiss but because the relationship failed and now I have to go to my marriage bed knowing I can't give my EVERYTHING to my wife and that bothers me.

2. Well it depends on how you look at this. By Gods standards women are beautiful by the worlds standards they are hot. . .yeah gimme some of that which is digusting! Also we are to be moddest in how we dress so if my date is wearing something immodest im going to tell her and I think that if the girl is a true christian she will apreciate me saying something.

3. I don't think there is a real age to date. Personally I don't agree with dating I think it is so poluted by the media and society that as Christians we forget and fall into sin. I think we should really ask ourselves: Are we living our lives according to Gods plan? If we are to "date" then it should be in Gods standards and it should be for marriage! No exceptions!!! But then again everything should be in Gods standards lol.

4. For me it does because like I put above dating is for marriage. Also when you go out with someone or "date" them then you start to get attached and one thing leads to another and another and next thing you know sally and bob both lost thier virginity. And it gets old hearing the same story how sally is depressed and cries her eyes out that bob left her and they got attached. It's simple. Don't date! Also to make the matter worse they now have to face the fact that they have given themselves away to someone that might not be their spouse. Notice how devorce rates have raised within the last. . . .ohh hundred years? Guess what? Dating has come onto the scene. Maybe us as "Christians" should raise up and put two and two together and for those of you that don't see it don't say that it's an unfair to say that but its true. Sex before marriage is at an all time high right now. 92 percent of people that start dating at the age of twelve have sex before they are out of high school! Over 90 percent!!! Wake up Christians and stop acting like the world.
 
N

nanabean

Guest
#6
#6
Kiwi71 said:
i have recently be saved and im trying to obey what the bible is teaching but im finding it very diffcult im 18 and living at home, have no job and a girlfriend i dont trust. i think this is a very good and strate up answer as sed above. QUOTE

""Oh yes. Don't they care about another person's feelings? Don't they care about themselves? They are going to become so emotionally worn out, I fear for their standards and their increasing need to experience or feel 'love'. I think it's important to have God fill that God-shaped hole in your heart before you look for a spouse. Spouses are meant to compliment each other on their journey towards God, not make you whole. ""

Im finding it hard because before i met Jesus i was living in sin and sleeping with her every night now she see this dramtic change and me not wanting to arrr.. du it with her any more and thinks iv changed then she stays with me in my bed an i think im strong enuf to keep from temptations then i get the memories bak of how good it was and away i go again sining. What du i do because i do love her but i kinda want this burdon of temtation to just leave.

i want to mary her but i have no job im living at home still and the bible says you are to leave your mother and fathers house and come together with the one you love and then you are as one.

After all this message iv typed just now it has just come to me. this is a challenge set infront of me from God for me to make the most of and become stronger christian. if you read this please pray for me that i choose all the riyt paths. written by Jesse
Click to expand...
Hi...I am not a teen, indeed my two daughters are even out of their teens, so maybe I shouldn't be in here, but when I read this thread title I thought it was advice from an "older" person to the teens in here, and wanted to see if it was sound....hahaha!! :D Now that I've read the whole thread, your post Kiwi71, does stand out and I wanted to first let you know that I will be praying for you.and your girlfriend as well. Can I ask you a question?? Why would you want to marry "a girlfriend I (you) don't trust" ?? You are just 18 years old, please think alot about what you want in life before adding marriage with someone you "love" but "don't trust" Trust is HUGE in ANY reationship, but when it comes to marriage it is one of the basic stable necessities. I realize you have said you have already slept with her (ie. had sex with her) but within changing your ways of looking at things and trying to live according to God's word, please consider re-evaluating the whole of your relationship with her before going into a deeper committment, ...marriage should be for life. IF she is the one you are to marry, then you should be "equally yoked" which means (to me) that she would come around to understanding where you have been lead by God. I will pray that words will come to you to explain to her that you are changing to better your (and ultimately hers as well) relationship with your Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and that by....not sleeping with her, you are trying to respect and honor and love her, rather than reject her. I do pray that what I have written will help even in some small way....my prayers go out to you. God Bless.....
 
Last edited by a moderator:
K

Kiwi71

Guest
#7
#7
hi nanabean. ye your completly rite if i dont trust her form the start then there aint realy nothing there.
I guess i love her and want her ta find God thats why i keep falling back but let the trust thing laps because
i care for her. We curently are friends now at this stage and i thin thats where it should stay. if its ment to
be God will see i through.
 
I

imepaula

Guest
#8
#8
Kiwi71 said:
hi nanabean. ye your completly rite if i dont trust her form the start then there aint realy nothing there.
I guess i love her and want her ta find God thats why i keep falling back but let the trust thing laps because
i care for her. We curently are friends now at this stage and i thin thats where it should stay. if its ment to
be God will see i through.
Click to expand...
good for you! God will send the right woman , I promise. :)
 
S

sarah10101

Guest
#9
#9
i personally don't think there is anything wrong with kissing. i mean it's up to the individual and as some people said it would bother them knowing they kissed someone it didn't work out with, but i don't see it as a big deal. kissing is a good way to show affection sort of the same way hugging is. i personally don't think doing other things (up to sex) is wrong either as long as you're comfortable, but i could be wrong and maybe my opinion will change after hearing what people have to say about that.

i think people can date whenever they are ready, but sometimes when people are really young it's kind of pointless. it doesn't really go anywhere and they think they're feelings are a lot deeper than they really are.

and if my (figurative) boyfriend jumped right to another girl after me i'd definitely feel like i meant nothing to him at all. i think people who move from relationship to relationship right away probably didn't have many feelings for the previous person they were with.
 
Rehoboth16

Rehoboth16

Senior Member
#10
Aug 5, 2009
575
17
18
#10
My mother and I have talked about some of these situations before. From these discussions, I have learned and agreed that dating is not wrong if seen or done with God in mind all the time. If ur mind is kept on God, u will want to please him and not make him angry. Dating should be about getting to know someone else for the possibility of marriage not for anything else and that's why most people should examine themselves properly before to know how mature they are.

The way I see it, sex is something beautiful that was created by God as a sacred thing between man and wife.....Why waste that on someone who u will probably not marry? Wait until u r absolutely sure and have "tied the knot" under God almighty.

Kissing also depends on ur level of maturity.....Can u handle it without it going too far. If u can't, it's probably not a good thing to do.
 
Last edited:
K

Kiwi71

Guest
#11
#11
sarah10101 said:
i personally don't think there is anything wrong with kissing. i mean it's up to the individual and as some people said it would bother them knowing they kissed someone it didn't work out with, but i don't see it as a big deal. kissing is a good way to show affection sort of the same way hugging is. i personally don't think doing other things (up to sex) is wrong either as long as you're comfortable, but i could be wrong and maybe my opinion will change after hearing what people have to say about that.

i think people can date whenever they are ready, but sometimes when people are really young it's kind of pointless. it doesn't really go anywhere and they think they're feelings are a lot deeper than they really are.

and if my (figurative) boyfriend jumped right to another girl after me i'd definitely feel like i meant nothing to him at all. i think people who move from relationship to relationship right away probably didn't have many feelings for the previous person they were with.
Click to expand...


Well i think that kissing is highly dangerous. some of you laugh at this coment but just
keep reading give yourself a chance to hear the truth and to make your call.
Kissing is dangerous. it seems harmless enough at the time but eventualy will spyral out of control.
It has in my life and made me very sadd at times. kissing does and will lead on to sex.
It doesnt matter how strong you think you are its if Jesus Christ is in you or not, i have
strugled with this kissing and i have fallen short, i haved sind. and i still strugle with things now,
but i turn to the bible were every rule in it is fair just and faultless. it doesnt matter if you
think you can do it, kiss without the rest it will eventualy creep up on you if you turn a blind eye
to the bible and its laws. i didnt obey and i found myself insacure jelous angry untrusting sadd
and in the end completly alone thats when i gave up and turned to Jesus. it says he will never
leave you or forsake you. so if you make the decesion to obey his rule remeber you are not alone
so dont feel lonly read the bible and he will come to you and comfort you in his powerfull scriptures.
KISSING LEADS TO A THIS WORD
BEING CALLED (Caught In the Moment) and heres how it happens.
kissing = hands
hands = touch
touch=feeling
felling=a like
a like=a follow up
a follow up resaults in sex
and sex = SIN
now think about it is kissing realy worth it.
is a moment worth giving yourself up for.
wouldnt you rather stay pure for the cost of only a moment, to no that you urself have been
saved and wating for the ryt person to give urself to for life.
and for your partner to have the thought that you havent been defiled by any one else and that you
are his.. now thats special thats worth giving up a moment thats worth giving up a feeling.
i wish i could have saved myself but God has his reasons for things to happen in peoples
lives, maybe it happend so i could get this message out to the younger generration, im a young
person i have drunk myself stupid put myself in harms way lusted for woman had stupid
drunkin fights broken the law and been through a few relationships.... im 19 and only now
that iv found Jesus Christ have i started living a happy life, a certain life, and a certain way.
Hope this message helps someone somwhere.
GOD BLESS YOU ALL
 
C

Chybike

Guest
#12
#12
Let for me,kissing during dating may be good in a way to show affection but in the other way round,it can stimulate the both friends & lure them in to sex,which is a sin. My opinion to this,is better not to be involved than to set ur self ablaze,in inordinate affection.GOD BLESS
 
N

NoTearsShed

Guest
#13
#13
Do you think its ok to kiss or to wait til you are married?
If its only kissing then i think its okay...

(For guys)If your girlfriend dressed sexy would you like it or would it bother you?
Im a girl o.o

Do you think there is an appropriate age in which someone can date or does it not
matter?
13 & up

Does it bother anyone about how teens are notorious for switching boyfriends/girlfriends a lot?
I think you should only date those you like OR love not just to date or because you are berly starting to like them , or have a crush on them or because they are there for you, relationships should be about strong feelings & caring for one another also we should date people who believe in God Or are willing to hear about him =) Because otherwise they may cause us to stray from God.
 
L

lawngnome4444

Guest
#14
#14
Just some general questions
  1. Do you think its ok to kiss or to wait til you are married? I wouldnt rush into it.
  2. (For guys)If your girlfriend dressed sexy would you like it or would it bother you? bother me if u guys where trying to wait for marriage
  3. Do you think there is an appropriate age in which someone can date or does it not matter? id say anything before hs is way to young but i think the later u wait till ure 18+ the better
  4. Does it bother anyone about how teens are notorious for switching boyfriends/girlfriends a lot? i dont understand why u should only date if u are looking for marriage and only date some one u would
 
C

ChristineDaae

Guest
#15
#15
Of course kissing is all right. However, french kissing and passionate kisses should be saved for the man you intend to make your husband.

Sexy dress in public would bother me. If my paramour, my boyfriend, wore no shirt in public I would be enraged. His body is MINE! to look at. No one else's!

No, there is no "right" age to start dating. I am going to marry soon and I am only 17. Given that knowledge, how long ago did you think I started looking for a husband? =)

YES!!! If you cannot picture yourself stayig with a man for a lifetime, why bother asking him out!?
 
You must log in or register to reply here.