Should I have to compete?

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SimperFidelis

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There is this guy ive known for two years and I think im really in love with him, however hes dating this other girl. Him and I dated this passed summer and I cheated on him and ive regreted it ever since. He told me he forgave me for what I did but i couldnt handle the long distance and ended up breaking up with him. He asked me back out a couple weeks ago and i wanted to say yes but i had a lot going on and couldnt handle a relationship. About a week later i was talking to him about it and he told me he was with this other girl. I told him I understood and that it was okay. He continued to talk to me like he had before, telling me he loved me and such, even though he was with this other girl and he still wants to take me to prom, but when I talked to her I felt like I was loosing him. I told him that i didnt want to have to share him with her and he got kind of defensive and used everything i did wrong against me. When he talked to his girlfriend about it she texted me and told me to back off because i couldnt "win" him back be cause i cheated on him. I feel like im completely losing him. This is the only guy ive ever liked that my dad actually approves of. What am I suppose to do?
 
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Ugly

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Few pieces of advice, i'm sure you won't like any of it, but this comes from age and experience.

First, trust me, this guy is NOT worth your time. He's obviously playing both you and his girlfriend. He's trying to have you both at the same time. He's a user. And there may be an element of revenge against you in his behavior as well.

Next, you admit to cheating on him, now you want to break up his relationship to have him back. I'm sorry, but you're being selfish. You had your chance, two chances, and now those chances are gone. Its wrong of you to go after someone already in a relationship.

It sounds to me like you are not mature enough to be in relationships, cheating, trying to breakup others relationships so you can date the guy. This are clear evidence you don't know how to conduct yourself in a relationship maturely.

I usually suggest to people your age to not even bother dating. Mostly dating is about finding a future spouse, but it is incredibly rare for most kids your age to marry someone they start dating. All you are doing is setting yourself up to have your heart broken repeatedly, so that by the time you ARE old enough to start seeking a mate you will have a lot of ill feelings towards dating, and in some cases, men. Now you'll have issues in your relationships instead of starting fresh and clean emotionally. Why put yourself through all that and make it harder on yourself when you're older?

I'm not trying to be mean or insulting, just giving you honest answers for you to think about. I hope you consider these words carefully and learn to make wiser choices.
 
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Aqua_Girl09

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Hes totally using you. hes being a scum bag. >_> and you're better then to have to compete with some other girl for his "Love". the men are supposed to be chasing the women. Let her "win" whatever kind of boy shes getting cause hes not giving you the respect you deserve. and think about it. if he can have a girlfriend and talk about how much hes in love with you then what will stop him from falling in love with someone else when "his eyes are on you?"

there are OH so many things wrong with this relationship. he needs to grow up. he says hes in love with you but hes with some other girl in a week!? It took me TWO YEARS to get over my first ex. and if he WAS in love with you he would have dropped her in a heart beat to get back with you. this sounds like a messy high school love that going to just get more and more out of hand. leave him alone. those fairy tale guys are out there. you just gotta be picky enough to find one (they tend to blossom and come out of the wood work around your second and third year of collegeM >_^)
 
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