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Leilanii

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If your questioning if you love him this much... then chances are you dont.
 
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holly454

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ive bn wiv my bf for ova a yr(though wev split a couple of times). hes always sayin how 'in love' wiv me he is& askin if i love him. the trouble is, i dno, wev gone quite far physicly in the past. so ive diffinatily felt lust. we r quite good friends anyway&i dont think ide mind gettin married to him. i jst dont want to think its love wen its jst hormones&lust or anythin. our friends say we r a 'perfect match'. the trouble is im jst not sure!! but hes gettin rly upset ova it:( :( cos he thinks we rt gno split&its his fault i dont love him.
how do i know if i do?! :( :(
 
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nanabean

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I am a mom of two girls ages 21 and 23, so I may not be who you WANT your advice from.....but I will give you my "two cents worth" anyway. Any boyfriend who "gets upset" over your decision not to sleep with him (ie: have sex with him) does NOT love you.....because when a person loves another, they respect them, and want what is best for them. Having premartital sex, and at such an early age too!, (your only 16!!! you have soooo much more life ahead of you...why rush into anything??) is NOT what is best for you!! I am wondering how old your boyfriend is??..I don't think it is what is best for HIM either. Remember to respect yourself, listen to your own mind, and do what you know is right. In other words...Stick to your morals and if it means he leaves......then it was never meant to be. (If he leaves....certainly you can see he doesn't love you!) You've probably heard all of this before, I have NO "magic words" but, I will pray that you know that what God has in store for your life includes respect of yourself from yourself, and others as well!!! Take care of you........and God bless you

One more thing....you said you are "quite good friends anyways"....well, do what quite good friends do!! go bowling, walk the mall, TALK, be together (out in public areas would be good for warding off "hormones & lust"!!!) get to know each other, take in a movie (at a theater, not a drive-in!) go to an amusement park......get the idea?? Go have fun....you can even gaze into each others eyes and hold hands..but do it in moderation, and somewhere without a bed!!! hahaah ok ok..enough from me. I will be praying!!!
 
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ChristineDaae

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Honey, I went through exactly what you're going through right now a few months back. Listen to your friends. Remember how you felt when you first fell in love with him. If you're this worried about it, (I am still) it just means you're insecure and you need encouragement and support from your man.
 
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holly454

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thanx to every1 who replied:). Nanabean il try to keep ure advice in mind&make sure we go to public places together. we were tlkin bout our morals the other day& he respects that ive dicideed i want to wait till marrige, so alls good! thanx ChristineDaae, uve rly helped! i guess i am quite insecure. recently hes bn rly understanding& keeps sayin jst how much he loves&vaules me, he rly is amazing to me! yeah, my friends r prob right:)
thanx to every1 prayin for me:) x
 
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