what about enjoying our youth?

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Eyram

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The bible says we should enjoy our youth. i know it doesn't mean going to the clubs and fornicating and all that stuff. but what about having a girlfriend, and making out. not necessarily having sex, but just kissing and carressing. whats wrong with that. afterall we are just enjoying our youth as the bible said.
 

JimJimmers

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Which verse are you referring to, Eyram? I can't think of which one you mean.
 

T_Laurich

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Youth is more then finding a 'mate'. Youth is about creating memories, and chasing dreams. I had this exact talk with my father last night. I thanked him for a wonderful childhood that since I'm about to graduate, I look back on my life and it seems I have lived 18 childhoods. And all have been more the fantastic. This brought a smile to his face and then he said.

"I am glad you liked your childhood, but that was to introduce you to some things. I taught you how to snowboard, fish, hike, ride a bike, kayak, smile, laugh, and love... I taught you all these things so when you get to your age you can make memories for yourself. You will make more memories now then you have ever had your whole life. What type of memories is up to you."

I don't believe youth is wasted on the young, I believe the old waste their youth...
 
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Eyram, the reason why many in their youth do not get girlfriends, make out, kiss, and caress has to do with culture and also because when one does these things, some think that since they have a girlfriend, therefore it is kind of like marriage, therefore let's have sex in here even though it is not marriage. Also, when one does make out, kiss, or caress, it tends to excited forbidden passions in others and thereby can be a precursor to premarital sex. As for the verse in the Bible, I do not know the reference of a verse that had to do with enjoying one's youth and I do not know if such a reference exists either. God bless.
 
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Eyram

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Ecclestiastes 11:9, sums up to that effect
 
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Eyram

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Ecclestiastes 11:9, sums up to that effect. but it also says. that remembere for all your actions God will bring you to jundgement
 

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I see no problem with having a girlfriend, kissing and whatnot. I'm a bit more hesitant about making out, because that's generally a more lustful activity and we are told to avoid lust. A relationship with the right kind of person is doubtlessly a wonderful thing.

But surely youth is more than just relationships! What about travelling, having new experiences, staying up until sunrise playing Call of Duty or whatever with your friends, meeting people who are your utter opposites and somehow getting along with them, and so on. As teens and young adults we are at our physical prime and are physically and socially capable of bouncing back from most mistakes we make. You break a bone at 18? That'll heal up in a few weeks. Break a bone at 30? That sucker's gonna take longer to heal, and it's still gonna ache afterward. Try starting a business. If it flops you won't lose as much. During your youth there is so much possibility, and I think that's part of what Ecc. 11:9 says.

But let's not forget the second part of that verse: "Yet know that God will bring you to judgment for all these things."

I like that you pointed out there's a limit to what we ought and ought not do in relationships. During your youth we also have more energy than we ever will to serve God. In addition to experiencing new things and broadening our horizons, we should also keep ourselves anchored in Jesus and the Word. Establishing a solid walk with Christ when you are young will give you the foundations to continually do so the rest of your life. Start it early, and things will go smoother.


 
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Nowhere in that verse does it talk about getting girlfriends, kissing, caressing, and making out. I have read it and it does not go into detail.
 

JimJimmers

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Amen to that. As far as dating goes, I personally don't believe kissing is wrong, but 'making out' covers a whole range of things. The best thing I can tell you is to ask to be filled with The Holy Spirit, and ask God to lead you to proper romance, while following His laws.
 
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kenisyes

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Do you know this old rhyme? I learned it from kids a little younger than you, who use it tease their playmates:

(Boy's name ) and (Girl's name), sitting in a tree,
K-I-S-S-I-N-G
First comes love, then comes marriage,
The comes (girl's name) with a baby carriage.

"But know that for all these things, God will bring you into judgment". That's the rest of the verse in the OP.

I'd think twice about including kissing and making out under enjoying your youth.

Besides, in the Bible times, they were long since married by age 18, and acting like adults with a family and a job.
 
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Ugly

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Sounds more like OP is trying to justify his actions by isolating scripture rather than having scripture support his desires. Don't misuse the bible to justify your lusts.
 
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Eyram

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This is enlightening. Have to say, i'm both disappointed and relieved. at least to know is better than to live in ignorance. thanks guys.
 
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TosinAsLeader

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This is enlightening. Have to say, i'm both disappointed and relieved. at least to know is better than to live in ignorance. thanks guys.
It is only a waste of time to start a thread and give others the right to post their opinion on this subject. It is a "public" forum after all.

Second, I find it hilarious that the same person who likes a comment disagrees with that person hahaha!
 
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FAITHFULGILLIAN

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I have allowed boys to kiss me and usually that leads them to try to push things further. I often wonder whether it is my fault in encouraging them by allowing them to kiss.
 

shawntc

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I have allowed boys to kiss me and usually that leads them to try to push things further. I often wonder whether it is my fault in encouraging them by allowing them to kiss.
I doubt it's your fault they try to go further. Do you make it clear what boundaries you have? Us men can be rather thick-skulled. ;)
 
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kenisyes

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I have allowed boys to kiss me and usually that leads them to try to push things further. I often wonder whether it is my fault in encouraging them by allowing them to kiss.
My wife told me that women and men experience kissing differently. Girls feel more loved, boys feel more sexual. I know it was true for the two of us. You need to be aware of the difference.
 
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FAITHFULGILLIAN

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I doubt it's your fault they try to go further. Do you make it clear what boundaries you have? Us men can be rather thick-skulled. ;)
I do but the trouble is guys think you are just playing hard to get!
 
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MissCris

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I do but the trouble is guys think you are just playing hard to get!
True story. Even some of the "Christian" guys I dated (back before I got all...old and married) wouldn't accept that my No really meant NO. Like I was just some cute little helpless thing that didn't know her own mind. "Your mouth says no, but your eyes are saying yes!"

*Gag*

Bah!
 
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FAITHFULGILLIAN

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True story. Even some of the "Christian" guys I dated (back before I got all...old and married) wouldn't accept that my No really meant NO. Like I was just some cute little helpless thing that didn't know her own mind. "Your mouth says no, but your eyes are saying yes!"

*Gag*

Bah!

Heheh. Boys think they can read your mind but it's their own mind they are reading.
 
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ChristianGuy0

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Ask yourself, when you get married, do you want your wife to say "Oh I really made sure I "enjoyed my youth" by getting lots of boyfriends and making out with them before I met you."

Or would you rather her say, "I enjoyed my youth by serving God with all my heart and pursuing exciting goals- I didn't get into lots of relationships or make out with boys though- cos I was waiting for the one I was going to marry- and I picked you!"

If you would prefer the latter, then you should act that way yourself.. Save as much as you can for your future wife and it will be better for you, imo. Have faith that God will provide in this area of your life.

I don't think "making out with chicks" is what the writer of Ecclesiastes had in mind when he said to enjoy the days of your youth lol :D