Going Back to Youth Group...The Struggle

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TAussieBon22

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Hey yall,

We all know the graduation just happened probably a month ago and now its time to take over their spots as Seniors

At my youth group that class that just graduated were mainly the people I spent the most time with at youth, but I also talk to the underclassmen a lot as well. They always were there and so easy to talk to and they made you feel accepted.

Now that they have moved on to college my love for my youth group has just gone downhill and I don't enjoy it anymore.

It's so hard to talk to anybody because they all form their little cliques and groups and you can socialize with them for a little bit, but you can just tell that they don't feel like talking to you and they want to go back to their group.

I haven't been going to the youth group in a long time and I really want to go back, but I'm afraid that everyone is gonna look at me strange and ask me. Where have you been? What's wrong with your walk? and I don't know what to say plus I'm kinda embarrassed.

Respond if you can relate to this or if you have some advice. I would greatly appreciate it! Thanks!
 
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ryancasper15

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just be yourself someone become your friend
 
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RuthieB

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I have been there (kinda), I started attending my church's youth group 2 years ago but after a year I left, because I couldn't be bothered trying to get into a "group" or make friendships with people who didn't want it, I haven't been since and one of my main reason I don't go to church anymore is because of the youth group.

I have no advice but you will be in my prayers, God bless.
 
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shawntc

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I'm not sure I was ever truly accepted by my second youth group. My first one welcomed me readily. But by the time I entered my second one (at a new church) I was college aged while the others were mainly high schoolers. I didn't get involved in teen drama and was more of the intellectual type. I don't think they cared much for me because of that.
 
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Kizzy

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Ah man, I feel your pain. The whole clique issue is a hard thing to break up. Creating unity in a group of teens is a hard thing to do, something that I've, unfortunately, not seen done successfully in any church I've been too. My first three years of HS youth group were spent wishing that we could just get along and everyone could be involved and respected and accepted but that wasn't the case. I felt like the outcast in youth. So many cliques were formed during those three years and in my Senior year things got so much worse and the end result was my leaving the church because of all those issues.
I hate to hear all this is happening within your group and I'll be praying for you guys. Unity within a youth group is so important. Best of luck! :)
 
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kittycat7

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Praying for you.After Jesus said this, he looked toward heaven and prayed: "Father, the time has come. Glorify your Son, that your Son may glorify you."
—John 17:1​
 
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Fubario

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Start hanging around older men and women with more experience in the Lord, you learn a lot more, hopefully can do more for the Lord with guidance. Also sometimes being around people in the same age group is unfruitful unless you have the same heart and mind for the Lord.
 
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heart-on-guard

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TAussieBon22 said:
Hey yal

We all know the graduation just happened probably a month ago and now its time to take over their spots as Seniors

At my youth group that class that just graduated were mainly the people I spent the most time with at youth, but I also talk to the underclassmen a lot as well. They always were there and so easy to talk to and they made you feel accepted.

Now that they have moved on to college my love for my youth group has just gone downhill and I don't enjoy it anymore.

It's so hard to talk to anybody because they all form their little cliques and groups and you can socialize with them for a little bit, but you can just tell that they don't feel like talking to you and they want to go back to their group.

I haven't been going to the youth group in a long time and I really want to go back, but I'm afraid that everyone is gonna look at me strange and ask me. Where have you been? What's wrong with your walk? and I don't know what to say plus I'm kinda embarrassed.

Respond if you can relate to this or if you have some advice. I would greatly appreciate it! Thanks!
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Why not invite your own group of friends at school or be friendly to the newcomers to your youth group? You know people are not always what they look like. Someone may have felt like that too in your youth group and just waiting for you to approach them and also watch if they really dont like talking to you or ur just misunderstanding them for being shy. Having ur own group of friends where ur comfortable with is normal but i believe what binds you altogether is your love for God. Just love them the way God wants you too and take time to discover who they are. I hope i helped. And dont be afraid to come back. As one of the youth leaders i am always thrilled to see youth that i havent seen in a long time so theres nothing to be ashamed about. More powers for your youth.
 
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Lucy68

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Just go....the awkwardness will soon disappear :). The longer you put it off, the harder it will be.
 
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LucyLoves

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I so feel you... I've been going to my church since the 6th grade and when i first went there it was easy . But then i left the church for like a year and coming back was so different my old friends had new friends and I was just like an outsider. But i noticed it was my fault i was kinda hoping everyone would just accept me right away. Not what happened i needed to get myself involved and join groups. I kinda forced myself in lol. but it all worked out in the end ! Dont be awkward just act like a good time and it'd be okay.;)
 
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OddOne

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Hey!!
I go to boarding school so I only go to youth when I sleep over at a friend's house for the weekend. The 1st time I went to one of the youth nights, I hated it because everyone stuck to their groups. I guess I was expecting a welcoming party because the other youth group I had gone to the week before welcomed me in.
So I get where you are coming from.
Are there other churches you can try out? Its always cool to check out other churches because you may meet new people and see how they do stuff.
Someone also mentioned that look for people who are always chilling alone, and talk to them... The "outsiders" are sometimes the cooooolest people because their way of thinking is tooo unique! And if you decide to go, go with a friend. And try getting in the groups with her. Its always fun to have a partner with you if things get awkward:) you will laugh about it later!

All the best, hey!!!
 
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