Did God Intend for Masturbation to be a Release for Teens?

[jonathan1221]

Hey Guys Its been awhile.

Anyways I used to watch pornagraphy but stopped about 7 months ago and have been clean since. There are definitely times where I have struggled and wanted to watch it, and the beginning of the those months can be hard because the desire to watch porn becomes great. Now being clean for so long I don't have a strong desire to watch porn that much but what is still here is the desire to masturbate.

There are tons of articles (including some on this site) that talk about the masturbation whether it is right or wrong and no where in the bible does it say it is.
I do know that masturbating to a fantasy and the likes of that IS WRONG. Tons of scripture that support that.

At the same time being a teenager we constantly have moments where are sexual libido might shoot through the roof...
In the past I have spent tons of time fighting that desire because in the past when I had those moments I would look at porn and do what comes next....

What I am wondering though is it possible that God intended masturbation for a way to keep our "sexual drive" under wraps until we are married?

Using masturbation as a physical side to keep those things under wrap instead of worrying about it all day to only feel guilty if anything is done such as falling into temptation because you don't want to masturbate but the images might quench your drive a little.

That worrying is a sin in itself.

I am not saying that this should be done by ANYBODY who has problems with porn etc. I am in a place though where I could do it without thinking of porn or even a person and only be focused on my body.

I am posting this for some comments on what you guys think about this subject and I would highly appreciate Well thought out comments.

 

[Mammachickadee]

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The male penis, like all muscles, have nerve endings. Nerve endings repeatedly exposed to friction become less sensitive and detached. The mind is very similar in its response to repeated exposure. Any time the mind reviews something it becomes less energized by the activity. Masturbation and pornography desensitize the human mind and the penis until it requires more and more extremes to get the same sensation. Another handicap of pornography is that it creates in the viewer certain assumptions and expectations that might make an everyday, "boring" sexual relationship with one person a disappointment. You will most likely have in your mind that certain things are normal, or that your sexual partner will be capable or even interested in fulfilling these fantasies. Young men and women especially have it rough because a majority of them (who are believers especially and know the type of make they should look for) will marry an innocent with relatively little experience and uncertainty sexually. You will have fun discovering together as innocents, but much of the surprise is somewhat dulled if you already have pre-conceived notions.
You have come to know your body and how to achieve release with enough satisfaction to last until the next one. There is something to be said, though, for a man who values his sexuality and sensitivity enough to go through some self-control. As a married nymphomanic I have come to the place in my life where I have to value my husband's heart and our sexual relationship enough to not spoil it all at my own hands. It is TORMENT some days... but well worth it by the time something does happen. You are 17 hon. Right now you are training for college and an adulthood of little self-indulgence. If you learn to control your mind now you will find it easier to save yourself when you are on the threshold of marriage. I would recommend using meditation on the Lord as your method of relaxation instead of indulging. It's hard (trust me... I know lol), but well worth it when you can give your wife your everything some day.

 

[starfield]

Masturbation is accompanied with fantasizing and lusting and I believe sexual desire should be satisfied only within the boundaries of marriage between husband and wife so I don't think it is God-intended for teens in order to “keep their sexual drive under wraps until marriage”. Try to exercise self-control, occupy your mind with pure thoughts, be productive; remember as the adage goes, an idle mind is the devil's workshop.

 

[kenisyes]

God invented sex. Then society invented making you wait until you are 20 or 30. Mamachickadee has a lot of wisdom. But there is a reason masturbation is not mentioned in the Bible, and what you think about when you are doing it can make it exercise to be ready for marriage, as well as well as diversions from proper sex later.

 

[Mammachickadee]

Masturbation is accompanied with fantasizing and lusting and I believe sexual desire should be satisfied only within the boundaries of marriage between husband and wife so I don't think it is God-intended for teens in order to “keep their sexual drive under wraps until marriage”. Try to exercise self-control, occupy your mind with pure thoughts, be productive; remember as the adage goes, an idle mind is the devil's workshop.

This is not always true. Men have their spontaneous urges and some go simply go by method and sensation.

 

[starfield]

This is not always true. Men have their spontaneous urges and some go simply go by method and sensation.

Sexual urges are normal response from hormonal influences but that’s one thing, it’s another thing to entertain lustful thoughts for a long period of time and then act upon them via self-stimulation. This is when self-control is needed. Masturbation without lust, if it's possible, is fulfilling sexual urges while focusing on nothing or objects I presume, which is potentially brainwashing and destroying of oneself. One's mind can become reprogrammed by it that they prefer it to the regular act which can ruin their future matrimonial life. God intended sexual bonding to be between a husband and wife.

 

[PennEd]

Hey Guys Its been awhile.

Anyways I used to watch pornagraphy but stopped about 7 months ago and have been clean since. There are definitely times where I have struggled and wanted to watch it, and the beginning of the those months can be hard because the desire to watch porn becomes great. Now being clean for so long I don't have a strong desire to watch porn that much but what is still here is the desire to masturbate.

There are tons of articles (including some on this site) that talk about the masturbation whether it is right or wrong and no where in the bible does it say it is.
I do know that masturbating to a fantasy and the likes of that IS WRONG. Tons of scripture that support that.

At the same time being a teenager we constantly have moments where are sexual libido might shoot through the roof...
In the past I have spent tons of time fighting that desire because in the past when I had those moments I would look at porn and do what comes next....

What I am wondering though is it possible that God intended masturbation for a way to keep our "sexual drive" under wraps until we are married?

Using masturbation as a physical side to keep those things under wrap instead of worrying about it all day to only feel guilty if anything is done such as falling into temptation because you don't want to masturbate but the images might quench your drive a little.

That worrying is a sin in itself.

I am not saying that this should be done by ANYBODY who has problems with porn etc. I am in a place though where I could do it without thinking of porn or even a person and only be focused on my body.

I am posting this for some comments on what you guys think about this subject and I would highly appreciate Well thought out comments.

Please take it from me. DON'T GIVE SIN A FOOTHOLD IN YOUR LIFE! Don't make deals with it, don't rationalize with yourself. Your flesh will NEVER be satisfied. Masturbation is sin. You may engage in it awhile, somewhat benignly you may think, but it is likely to only grow and get worse, and you may find yourself doing things to satisfy it that you never thought you would. It is sex outside of marriage. Don't fool yourself into thinking you can engage in it without lustful thoughts of some kind. This is a lifelong struggle for many, if not most men. It is likely that you will stumble from time to time. Feed your Spirit EVERY day. Try fasting to get better control over your bodies fleshly desires. May the Lord help you on this issue. In Jesus name. Amen.

 

[AmberGardner]

There are definitely times where I have struggled and wanted to watch it, and the beginning of the those months can be hard because the desire to watch porn becomes great.

It's the same way with masturbation. The more you do it, the less control you have over it. And that means it will lead you right into lust and fantasizing every time. You're thinking about SOMETHING when you do it, and it's sex, with somebody. You lose control of your mind, and it skews your reality. It causes you to have the wrong ideas in other areas of your life. It confuses things. What has your mind will manifest itself one way or another. The Bible talks a lot about the mind.

Neither is it relegated to teens. We all have to battle it.

John 8:34 Jesus replied, "Very truly I tell you, everyone who sins is a slave to sin.

Matthew 15:19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts--murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander.

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.

Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Matthew 5:14 “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden.

 

[choosingmylife]

I'm just gonna put a bunch of scripture that support why no should masturbate. The Bible uses the words "sexually immoral" a lot.

1st Thessalonians 4:3-5
James 1:14-15
1st Corinthians 6:9-12
1st Corinthians 6:19-20
Romans 13:14
Ephesians 5:3

 

[jonathan1221]

Thanks everyone. Definitely have gained more insights into the matter. I HIGHLY appreciate the advice and I thank you all for putting the time and thought into your comments.

 

[SarryBear]

I found this post very helpful as a young teen also!