Let's kill two birds with one stone!

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tyrone19

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I have two problems that are weighing on me and that, I feel, are stopping me from reaching the next step in my Christian journey. I hope somebody can provide some guidance! I'm an 18yo male, if that helps.

The first is vanity. I workout A LOT (5-6 days a week) because I need to gain weight for rugby and I like getting stronger. Recently on a school trip, I was topless and there were girls came into our room asking for a roll of tissue. They all started staring at me and hitting on me, saying how I looked good and stuff. I didn't really heed it until after the trip when I started getting vain and started working out to impress girls, not because I enjoyed it. And I never used to use the mirror as much as I do now, and it is now completelyI habitual. want to stop being vain but I don't want to stop working out and become unhealthy; can anyone help out?

The second problem is lust. I've never had a girlfriend (my mum said it would be a distraction). But it actually feels like everywhere I look there is something sexually tempting me (advertisments, girls in school clothing or lack of it etc). I recently overcame watching porn/masturbation, thanks to this site, but I don't want to relapse. It feels like I'm being tested somehow, like I am getting more than my fair share of temptation.

I'm not sure if these problems are related or not, because they both started within a couple months of each other. Any guidance is welcome.
 
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Richie_2uk

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tyrone19 said:
I have two problems that are weighing on me and that, I feel, are stopping me from reaching the next step in my Christian journey. I hope somebody can provide some guidance! I'm an 18yo male, if that helps.

The first is vanity. I workout A LOT (5-6 days a week) because I need to gain weight for rugby and I like getting stronger. Recently on a school trip, I was topless and there were girls came into our room asking for a roll of tissue. They all started staring at me and hitting on me, saying how I looked good and stuff. I didn't really heed it until after the trip when I started getting vain and started working out to impress girls, not because I enjoyed it. And I never used to use the mirror as much as I do now, and it is now completelyI habitual. want to stop being vain but I don't want to stop working out and become unhealthy; can anyone help out?

The second problem is lust. I've never had a girlfriend (my mum said it would be a distraction). But it actually feels like everywhere I look there is something sexually tempting me (advertisments, girls in school clothing or lack of it etc). I recently overcame watching porn/masturbation, thanks to this site, but I don't want to relapse. It feels like I'm being tested somehow, like I am getting more than my fair share of temptation.

I'm not sure if these problems are related or not, because they both started within a couple months of each other. Any guidance is welcome.
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Hello Tyrone19. Well First you have more than 2 problems, What I mean by that. in the first problem, you have vain or rugby. So theres 2 problems alone in the first one. So the phrase you should be saying killing 3 birds with one stone. you say you are trying to keep in shape, and to be fit and strong for the sport that you do. But you are tempted by girls and there flirtatious effect on you. you have a choice.

Rugby?. you have to keep in shape and fit and strong for the sport. so you have to keep in focus on the sport requirements. OR
Impression? to impress the ladies, but for what extent? Only you can make those choices. you have to weigh what best for you, there is a saying that goes like this: You can have the cake and eat it at the same time. You have to weigh up whats will benefit you more and what you really want to do. Empress the girls? or keep to your heart in for the sport you chosen to do.

Your goal is to become a good Rugby player right? to become good at something. you must learn the basics, after that, learn to advance on the basic, after that, become a master of what you want to do. But how? when there are distractions in the world that pulls you away from achieving your goal. it is hard, and will be hard, But that all depends and you heart, and your attitude towards achieving your goal.

As your phrase Kill 2 birds with one stone. Well you can do better. Don't kill at all. What I mean by that? Why waste your time bending down to pick up a stone, look for 2 birds to get in line of each other. and take your aim to throw the stone, only to find out, after all that effort. you miss. Take that phrase out of the equation. and find time. to lift both your problems to God in prayer. Sorry to add another challenge to your life. But all it takes is for you to lift the problem you have in prayer to God. He knows your heart. he knows your mind, he knows all. But by your faith and trust in God. you will achieve the original goal you set out to do.

Romans 8: 11 hope that helps.
 
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Ecclesiastik

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Hello,

I struggled with similar things in my past. If I could give you any advice it would be to really think about things...about what you are and what people are. We are just dust. To pursue lust and pursue arrogance is not a tad better than the folks who waste their days away sucked away in World of Warcraft.

Let me give you a tough portion of the Bible. The one that most people in modern day society struggle with.

"Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world.The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever."
1John 2:15-17

"Dear friends, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from sinful desires, which wage war against your soul."
1Peter 2:11

You can't have one hand on the world and one hand on Christ. You can't even have one finger on the world and the rest on Christ--your hand will break! A lot of churches advocate a system that would be the equivalent of having "safe sex" with the world. But the only biblical solution is abstinence from the lusts and desires of the world. This is the only way you can have both hands on Christ. If you are facing both ways (or in other words- double-minded) you will be unstable in all your ways and never live a Spirit filled life.

If you meditate on these things with prayer, fasting, and Scripture you will do well.

God bless you.
 
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Staystrong

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Being a teen and all, u understand that that is a huge temptation. I'm a girl see how some of my friends tempt some guys. My advise is remember who u are. Remember your morals and values. Keep your mind on what is important in you like. I guess the rugby family and God or more. Just wait for that perfect one. And when she comes trust me she won't look at your body but you. Don't forget to pray. Prayer is the key. Good luck
 
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KeziaIsing4Jesus

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Well the thing's control yourself, when you see the girls, ask to the Lord , there are nothing he can't do , everything i want to i ask to him, i'm 16 and of course i want a boyfriend, and yes everytime i see a boy i think : He could be the guy , and it's annoying, But i'm asking to him bring me the right one, Just ask him, and he'll bring you the the right girl in the right moment though, Patience is the thing that a christian one must have .
And remember, Who do you need impress? GOD or girls? All that i'm and everyone is saying is worthless if you don't to do it
 
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