Fooling around with a girl...

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Okay, I am a girl who is 17 years old. I know that doing stuff with the same sex is wrong..anyway, I have a friend who is bi...and her and I have fooled around like 3 times. I all most puked while she was doing stuff to me. But I felt bad and did not want to hurt her feelings so I let her keep doing what she was doing. And my best friend and I (who is a girl), we kissed...but things went a little further than kissing. I'm not a lesbien, I like guys, I really do. I just do not know if God will forgive me for this...and I feel horrible...I need some answers..
 
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Cupcake, liking guys is not the answer. It is not "doing stuff with the same sex" that is a sin, but ALL sexual immorality is sin in God's eyes. God will forgive you, but to repent is to cease the sin, not only saying you're sorry. If this friend is doing things to you that make you feel like throwing up, she is taking advantage of you, and you need to stop seeing her. (And that goes for male friends as well. You need to be around people who respect your boundaries.)
 
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Cup97cake said:
Okay, I am a girl who is 17 years old. I know that doing stuff with the same sex is wrong..anyway, I have a friend who is bi...and her and I have fooled around like 3 times. I all most puked while she was doing stuff to me. But I felt bad and did not want to hurt her feelings so I let her keep doing what she was doing. And my best friend and I (who is a girl), we kissed...but things went a little further than kissing. I'm not a lesbien, I like guys, I really do. I just do not know if God will forgive me for this...and I feel horrible...I need some answers..
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JimJimmers is right, "fooling around" with anyone counts as sexual immorality, and although it will be an unpopular opinion to hold you should express it when pressed. God says, "Again, when a wicked person turns away from the wickedness he has committed and does what is just and right, he shall save his life." and "None of the transgressions that he has committed shall be remembered against him; for the righteousness that he has done he shall live." - Ezekiel 18
If you feel horrible it only means that you are not totally lost, and that God is still working in you.
 
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JimJimmers said:
Cupcake, liking guys is not the answer. It is not "doing stuff with the same sex" that is a sin, but ALL sexual immorality is sin in God's eyes. God will forgive you, but to repent is to cease the sin, not only saying you're sorry. If this friend is doing things to you that make you feel like throwing up, she is taking advantage of you, and you need to stop seeing her. (And that goes for male friends as well. You need to be around people who respect your boundaries.)
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This! she isn't a friend if she's making you do something you're not okay with...and if she causes you to stumble...leave. is your relationship with Christ really worth friendship?
 
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You need to set up boundaries for yourself, to protect both you and those around you. Don't worry about hurting people's feelings, if they're mucking around with you. That's not on! Let them know that you're not okay with it. Then, have nothing to do with such people. They're only bad news. I'm sorry to hear this happened to you but God welcomes those who repent and ask for forgiveness. He's greater than our sins!
 
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God will forgive you :)... but don't put yourself in a situation that it will happen again and I agree with kingerik :) God Bless
 
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I know how you feel. Been there done that and I'm not proud of it.
The worse part of what I did was I did like it. The only reason I felt bad was because I knew it was sin but at the time I just didn't care.
But after I turned 17 my life changed and I seeked God for help and I repented from it.
For the longest time I thought God hated me. But then God spoke to me one night when I was studying the Bible.
And it hit me hard.. God told me he loved me but hated my sin. But I also felt this warmth come over me and felt like God was saying he forgave me because i repented and he knew my heart was truly sorry for what I had done.
God is a LOVING FATHER.. and He forgives us of our sins if we truly are sorry and repent from them.
Get away from the things that make you sin. Then seek God to help you change your heart.
Its hard to let go of people you love and care about but sometimes we have to let go of family and friends if ithelps us stay way from sin. Your relationship with God is more important than any friendship.
 
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Pres19 said:
I know how you feel. Been there done that and I'm not proud of it.
The worse part of what I did was I did like it. The only reason I felt bad was because I knew it was sin but at the time I just didn't care.
But after I turned 17 my life changed and I seeked God for help and I repented from it.
For the longest time I thought God hated me. But then God spoke to me one night when I was studying the Bible.
And it hit me hard.. God told me he loved me but hated my sin. But I also felt this warmth come over me and felt like God was saying he forgave me because i repented and he knew my heart was truly sorry for what I had done.
God is a LOVING FATHER.. and He forgives us of our sins if we truly are sorry and repent from them.
Get away from the things that make you sin. Then seek God to help you change your heart.
Its hard to let go of people you love and care about but sometimes we have to let go of family and friends if ithelps us stay way from sin. Your relationship with God is more important than any friendship.
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Great answer, and I am glad that God did all those things for you. You are just 19, but I think you understand what is important in life :)
 
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AslanII said:
Great answer, and I am glad that God did all those things for you. You are just 19, but I think you understand what is important in life :)
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Thank ya :)
 
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Cup97cake said:
Okay, I am a girl who is 17 years old. I know that doing stuff with the same sex is wrong..anyway, I have a friend who is bi...and her and I have fooled around like 3 times. I all most puked while she was doing stuff to me. But I felt bad and did not want to hurt her feelings so I let her keep doing what she was doing. And my best friend and I (who is a girl), we kissed...but things went a little further than kissing. I'm not a lesbien, I like guys, I really do. I just do not know if God will forgive me for this...and I feel horrible...I need some answers..
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I get you, my best friend tries to behave inappropriately with me a lot too, I tried shouting at her and it always just ends as a joke. It might be difficult to get her to take you seriously when you're being strict, especially if you're usually very nice.

I suggest you to send her an email or text explaining how you're uncomfortable with such behavior,believe it's sinful, and that you can't allow it anymore(mentioning that it nauseates you might be good too, so she gets the message that you're not even remotely bi curious). If she continues to disrespect your boundaries, it's better to leave such company, you don't really need friends who are constantly trying to take advantage of you.
God bless :)
 
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My advice: cut off the relationship. Do not let her use what happened as blackmail to keep exploiting you. It's time to grow up, learn to be assertive and set boundaries for people, and be your own person. If you need to share this with your parents, so that they will support you in this decision, do so. Either way, refuse to be exploited further.

Next, go to a good Christian church (you may have to explore a few to find a church home) and make new friends that are genuine Christians and live godly lives.

You've been playing with fire and apparently somewhat naively (e.g. ignorantly). Such sinful roads never get better as time goes on: only worse.

You are NOT a homosexual. Choose a healthy normal road to walk with healthy normal people. Do so.
 
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