Desire For Relationship A Distraction

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4YourGlory

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Hi, I'm a 16 year old female. Recently, within my life, I feel as if I have been seaching and searching for "the guy." I understand how young I am, and that these things should not matter to me, but they do. I've never been in a relationship because my parents did not allow it, until I turned 16, which was about a year ago. Even now, I haven't dated anyone, but I feel as if curiosity is consuming me. I feel as if finding a relationship with a guy is taking away from my relationship with God. It really is a big distraction for me. Any suggestions on how not to be consumed with finding a boyfriend? I know this sounds really shallow, but its a problem for me. Please help, any advice will be appreciated. Thanks and God Bless!
 
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Ecclesiastik

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4YourGlory said:
Hi, I'm a 16 year old female. Recently, within my life, I feel as if I have been seaching and searching for "the guy." I understand how young I am, and that these things should not matter to me, but they do. I've never been in a relationship because my parents did not allow it, until I turned 16, which was about a year ago. Even now, I haven't dated anyone, but I feel as if curiosity is consuming me. I feel as if finding a relationship with a guy is taking away from my relationship with God. It really is a big distraction for me. Any suggestions on how not to be consumed with finding a boyfriend? I know this sounds really shallow, but its a problem for me. Please help, any advice will be appreciated. Thanks and God Bless!
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"Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things." Colossians 3:2

Focus on Jesus Christ, the author and finisher of our faith. The pursuit of a relationship for self-fulfillment is a strong lie that our culture has imparted to us. Paul said it is better to be single because you can serve the Lord with your full heart. Focus on serving the Lord. If God intends for you to be married, you'll know when the right person comes along. Pray on it, God isn't dead, He hears our prayers and listens to them if we are living in obedience (God does not bless disobedience). But you will go through a lot of grief if you go out actively pursuing a relationship. You'll also go through a lot of grief if you "settle" on someone who is not on fire for Jesus Christ. You'll also go through a lot of grief if you yourself are not on fire for Jesus Christ. As Solomon said "take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines." If you've got even a "little" unrepentant sin running through your life (or your bf), your relationship is in jeopardy of being spoiled because you keep God out when you desire to keep sin within.

And as Keith Green says "Just give it your best! He'll take care of the rest."

God bless
 
cinder

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If you date someone you will end up either marrying them or breaking up with them.

You live in a society that tells you that romance is the epitome of happiness and fulfillment and that without a relationship you can't really be happy. That's a lie.

Learn to develop solid friendships and non-romantic relationships and find your fulfillment in serving God. I would also highly recommend the book Singles at the Crossroads by Albert Hsu. It's the best book on christian singleness I have ever read. Please spare yourself the heartbreak of a breakup and the emotional stress of looking to someone else to define your value. It just isn't worth it to taste some of the fruit that has been so long forbidden.
 
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4YourGlory said:
Hi, I'm a 16 year old female. Recently, within my life, I feel as if I have been seaching and searching for "the guy." I understand how young I am, and that these things should not matter to me, but they do. I've never been in a relationship because my parents did not allow it, until I turned 16, which was about a year ago. Even now, I haven't dated anyone, but I feel as if curiosity is consuming me. I feel as if finding a relationship with a guy is taking away from my relationship with God. It really is a big distraction for me. Any suggestions on how not to be consumed with finding a boyfriend? I know this sounds really shallow, but its a problem for me. Please help, any advice will be appreciated. Thanks and God Bless!
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Hey honey
You sound lonely, so here's what you do:
1 Find a church where you can find some good female friends that are Christians, you can all do stuff together.(So much fun)
2 Do more stuff with your family, families can seem like their a drag sometimes, but try to stay positive and be a good influence on them, also if you have siblings try to be a good example to them, or else they will follow your foot-steps and end up in a bad spot .
3 Focus on your education, tell yourself if I am self-supporting I will find a good god-fearing husband in 5 or 10 years.
4 Read the bible more often,
Hope you have a wonderful life.
God Bless
Simon
 
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