Hi, Im a christian for almost 2 years I think, Ive read my bible, christian book, like theologies, encouragements, I write "amazing" things on my journals, gave encouragement through texts, chats emails. Words I never thought I could think of amazes me so much. When Im reading my journal it amazes me I never really thought I wrote that. But heres the problem, Why does everytime I speak infront of people, infront of a person, I dont know How to deliver, to express, to say, to explain things to them, its like I dont know what to say. Sometimes when Im leading a group bible study I caught myself thinking of what to say to them, it makes me feel so bad.For short, its easier for me to share when it comes to writing, texting than to speaking. Please, can I get an explanation or encouragement or pray for boldness, courage and confidence on sharing Jesus.
How come I still can't?
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Some people have a natural talent for speaking. Some for writing. Or other talents. You just don't have a natural talent for public speaking. It's not a bad thing. Many people don't. This isn't to say you shouldn't ever do it. It will just be more work for you than for others. And it has nothing to do with how much you know, but your ability to speak. Its not a boldness issue either. It's just the way you are made. You're stressing out over a personality issue. Sounds as though you are better at writing than speaking, i'm the same way.
As far as needing to think about what you're going to say, everyone does that. It would be weird if you didn't.
As far as needing to think about what you're going to say, everyone does that. It would be weird if you didn't.
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Perhaps it's not so much an inability to speak in front of others, but more what a person is practiced in.
Well polished public speakers become well polished by doing it a lot and placing effort on improving every time. I'm certain many of them have experienced the same as you're describing when they began. Actually most all of us have in one setting or another.
Notice when you're writing it takes longer to type or write out the words you've already thought of than just speaking them ..
...So while your hand is doing something; your mind is able to think ahead into the next thought.
But with speaking, you are speaking the words in real time as they form in your mind. So there's no delay implemented.
You could try delaying the sentence by thinking of what you're going to say before speaking, and give your mind a chance to think ahead to the next point you're going to make.
Instead of speaking in real time as the words form in your mind instead you would be speaking what you've just thought about a second ago.
I don't know if you play and read music but an example of this method would be...
....say you are going to play a Sonata with violin,
Instead of playing each individual note in real time as you're reading them...you may read the notes a bar ahead before downloading that information to your hands.
This would allow you to stay ahead knowing what needs to be done next while playing what was behind.
Your hands know what you're going to be expressing next through your instrument of sound what your mind has already taken in...
To a bystander it may appear as though you're playing the notes as you're reading them but instead actually playing the notes from the previous bar while looking ahead to the next bar of notes.
You can transfer this method by simply replacing an instrument by allowing your voice to be your instrument of sound.
Thinking ahead while speaking your last pre-memorized thought.
In a group bible study it would be a good idea to preplan everything you'd like to point out and address as well as anticipate what questions may arise in the discussion so you know how to address them.
As well remember that if the Lord is going to speak through you at any given time, he will offer you the words.
Well polished public speakers become well polished by doing it a lot and placing effort on improving every time. I'm certain many of them have experienced the same as you're describing when they began. Actually most all of us have in one setting or another.
Notice when you're writing it takes longer to type or write out the words you've already thought of than just speaking them ..
...So while your hand is doing something; your mind is able to think ahead into the next thought.
But with speaking, you are speaking the words in real time as they form in your mind. So there's no delay implemented.
You could try delaying the sentence by thinking of what you're going to say before speaking, and give your mind a chance to think ahead to the next point you're going to make.
Instead of speaking in real time as the words form in your mind instead you would be speaking what you've just thought about a second ago.
I don't know if you play and read music but an example of this method would be...
....say you are going to play a Sonata with violin,
Instead of playing each individual note in real time as you're reading them...you may read the notes a bar ahead before downloading that information to your hands.
This would allow you to stay ahead knowing what needs to be done next while playing what was behind.
Your hands know what you're going to be expressing next through your instrument of sound what your mind has already taken in...
To a bystander it may appear as though you're playing the notes as you're reading them but instead actually playing the notes from the previous bar while looking ahead to the next bar of notes.
You can transfer this method by simply replacing an instrument by allowing your voice to be your instrument of sound.
Thinking ahead while speaking your last pre-memorized thought.
In a group bible study it would be a good idea to preplan everything you'd like to point out and address as well as anticipate what questions may arise in the discussion so you know how to address them.
As well remember that if the Lord is going to speak through you at any given time, he will offer you the words.
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I agree with what others have said on here. Some people are gifted with speaking, others writing, etc. Maybe you best fulfill your purpose on this Earth by writing? That could be God's plan for you. Have you considered writing a book? But if you are adamant about becoming a speaker, then pray about it, I'm sure God will answer.