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countrychick

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I feel like im slipping back into who i was, i dont want to go back. I hated the sadness and pain but it feela like that girl is taking over once again. Please someone anyone help. I have prayed and prayed but i keep slipping back into what i was.
 
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What is it you are slipping back into? A feeling of loneliness? Depression? What is it you are wanting to avoid?
 
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countrychick

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Loneliness, depression, the feeling of helplessness. Like im helpless, like i cant get out. Like im trapped, like no one cares, and it always ends up killing me inside.
 
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Many people on here are going to tell you to pray to God and give you words of encouragement through scripture. When it comes to spirituality, I won't be able to help you. But maybe I can still offer you some encouragement.

It's easy to feel like nobody cares about you, especially when you're a teenager. This really won't change, most people aren't going to show much interest in your problems. Of course, when you bottle up your emotions, most people won't even be aware of your problems. And this is generally where loneliness plays its part. When you bottle up your emotions and you don't have many good friends, it's hard to find someone to confide in.

Personally, I believe the first step to dealing with depression is coming to terms with who you are. If you're feeling lonely, is it because you find it hard to make friends? This is often the case, but please correct me if I'm wrong.

After you come to terms with who you are, take the time to appreciate yourself and the fact that you're alive! Even in the midst of deep depression, try to find a moment in your sorrows where you can just smile. Maybe you're smiling because even when everything seems to have fallen a part, you're alive. Or maybe it's because you know there are still many possibilities out there. Perhaps you smiled because you know you can at least experience the pleasures of an activity you might enjoy such as reading or writing (if these pleasures include drugs or self mutilation, find better activities that aren't dangerous to your well being).

Lastly, you need to figure out what you need to do to change yourself for the better. I was heavily depressed in high school and I found I had a hard time making friends. So, when I began going to community college, I made it my goal to talk to more people. I would look for people who looked like they weren't too busy socializing with other people - or too busy working on other projects. Even if I didn't know what to say to them, I would go up and just try to strike some sort of conversation. Sometimes people reacted quite positively, while other times they didn't show much interest in what I had to say. Part of this experience was building confidence. Another part was learning how to deal with rejection. And in the end, I learned rejection isn't nearly as painful as I initially thought - and that it was worth it to meet new people. I'm still quite reclusive, but I'm very comfortable with who I am, I have a handful of great friends, and I know that no matter how bad things seem to get - I can always work hard to bring myself back up.

Obviously, it's not going to be nearly as simple as that. But, hopefully, it will be a good place to start.

I'm not sure how much this information will help you - I'm not a professional when it comes to this kind of stuff. But here's to hoping it does help!

If there are any issues you want to talk about, any barriers you want to bring up, or if you want to know specifically how to overcome certain challenges, just let us know. : )
 
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countrychick

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Thank you and i do have a hard time making friends bc i never know what to say and im afraid of getting hurt. But thank you
 
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Thank you and i do have a hard time making friends bc i never know what to say and im afraid of getting hurt. But thank you
Part of making friends is learning how to deal with rejection and other social issues. It's better to potentially embarrass yourself and to learn how to get past the moment than to continue feeling shy.

I once gave a humorous speech in class. I got an encore, everyone wanted to hear more! So I went back up and tried to continue what I was doing before. Everyone just starred at me - regretting the fact they were asking for more. I swore I could hear crickets! D :

But, I also got past it. And the moment when they were laughing, that was a feeling I held onto. I continued to give humorous speeches and I realized that sometimes, I needed to focus on doing what I personally felt was humorous. Another speech I gave was poorly received because everyone in the room were were quite preppy, didn't care for me, and didn't share my sense of humor. I knew this going into the speech, but I did the speech for myself. Turns out, my teacher got a kick out of my speech, as well as two or three other people in the class. It was a note taking class and my teacher wanted us to talk about our goals. I made up a wild story and when one of the confused kids complained I wasn't telling the truth, my teacher laughed, "I never said you had to tell the truth."

Eventually, I got another encore for a more serious speech I did, as well as a few laughs from numerous other times I spoke in front of my class.

The moral of the story is, tackle your fears head on and don't let other people get you down.
 
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countrychick

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That sounds like you had fun giving the speeches. I used to sing infront of my class they always wanted me to sing a lot, it made me feel good when i sang, but one dayy i just stopped.
I will try to come to terms with who i am. And not let my fears controle me.
 
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fire-rescue

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I dont know where you are at spiritually but what we all need is a personal relationship with jesus not just religion. Everyone feels lonely sometimes. Life is full of struggles but its how we choose to react. React in faith and lean on jesus as your god and savior, your comforter and friend. If you need someone to talk to im here for you and many others here as well. Surround yourself with those who will encourage and lift you up. Even though we cant solve your problem it helps to have good christians to try to strengthen your faith.
 
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countrychick

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Thank you fire-rescue, i must admit i have not felt close to God since the day after i got resaved.
 
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fire-rescue

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The world and its struggles can get you down in a hurry. I listen to christian music and watch christian tv to keep god on my mind and stay close to him. Its not easy and youre not alone in that.
 

Channa

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As Firerescue says, you're not alone. God is with you ^^ Will pray for ya
 
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countrychick

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Thank yall. And thank you channa
 

Livvy_Holt

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Pray. Ask God to help you. Pray and never stop.