Being a Christian Girl vs. Going to College?

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justagirlinalonelyworld

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Hi.

So! I have a few questions for all of you girls!

I am 18 and I want to go to university. However, my parents are not so keen. My mother wants me to focus on finding a husband (I am in no way ready!) and my father won't let me move away to go to school.

I do kind of want to go to college/university and I have found some good christian schools, but my parents are not even willing to compromise. I don't want to disobey them, but I feel that I should be able to further my education.

My brother was accepted into many schools and he was allowed to move to the U.S (we live in england) and go to school there. He is in med school, and my parents never once resisted the idea of him going to school or encouraged him to give up on education.

But, because I am a girl, this changes things in their eyes. I do wish to lead a spiritual life and plan on keeping myself pure until marriage and I know that I will not be going to school just to ogle the boys, but I feel that I can lead a pure life while learning.

Am I wrong? Should girls not go to college?. I do not agree with my parent's viewpoint, but what can I do without disobeying them?
 
Oct 22, 2013
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ALWAYS follow your heart. It is a great thing to go to college, and if you have the opportunity, take it. I'm not saying to go behind your parents backs, but instead to really talk with them. Tell them what you just told us when you made this thread. Make them know you are serious about wanting to do this. Make them see how much you want it, and hopefully they will change their minds. Best of luck! :)
 

DeanMarZ

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Like Lauren said follow your heart listen to God.
 
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HookEmHorns

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Pray about it. By all means, please don't follow your heart; follow God.
 
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That is what I meant by follow your heart. I just assumed she was saved, (which I probably shouldn't be assuming things) but if she is saved, then her heart will follow God. Sorry for the confusion haha
 
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heartbrokenandhoping

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I'm also 18 and just finished up my freshman year at a university. I just wanted to throw in that I was actually not a Christian entering college. I had set morals, but I was not a follower of Christ. In fact, I was in a relationship with someone who steered me away from God. However, starting school at my university is actually what brought me to be saved. It's actually a funny story, I was walking through campus and a girl stopped me and told me I'd get a coupon for free pizza if I filled out a contact card. I did it, and received a call from her a few days later asking me to attend a Bible study group. I told her no at first, but then a voice spoke to me. I ended up calling her back and going to the group, and the rest is history! I'm now a devout Christian and love the Lord with all of my heart :) I spent the entire year doing Bible study, going to church, etc. I guess my point is that many people believe going off to a university automatically means you're going to get caught up in all the negative connotations associated with them, I'm sure you know what I'm talking about! But it doesn't have to be that way at all. There are so many God-loving, caring people that can help you continue to grow in your faith as well. I definitely would talk to your parents about that, and remind them that college is what you make it to be. Personally, I chose to make it a chance to grow closer to God every day and I plan to my next three years there as well. If they still don't listen to that, pray about it. God will guide you to where He wants you to be. Trust in Him and have faith. God bless and I'll be praying for you!
 
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You're an adult, and you're going to learn that wisdom doesn't always come with age and that your parents are often wrong as much as anyone else.

If you want to go to college, then it's YOUR choice. Your parents don't own you. You're of an age where you must think for yourself. That's not to say you should never listen to your parents, but you're ultimately the judge of your actions. If you disagree with your parents, you don't have to abide by their rules (unless you're relying on them in some way). Chances are, you are relying on your parents, so you might have to slowly find a way out of this predicament.
 
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You're an adult, and you're going to learn that wisdom doesn't always come with age and that your parents are often wrong as much as anyone else.

If you want to go to college, then it's YOUR choice. Your parents don't own you. You're of an age where you must think for yourself. That's not to say you should never listen to your parents, but you're ultimately the judge of your actions. If you disagree with your parents, you don't have to abide by their rules (unless you're relying on them in some way). Chances are, you are relying on your parents, so you might have to slowly find a way out of this predicament.
Naa, they don't own you, they just pay da bills. BTW, you didn't give them a reason to say no, did ya?
 
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Don't listen to your parents, honestly. You are an adult and now old enough to make your own decisions. There is a time in a lot of people's lives where they realize that their values differ from their parents. If you go to college, you can always drop out. But if you get into a marriage too fast you probably will hate it and either have a miserable and unhappy life or go through a nasty divorce. And if you parents are a hardheaded and not understanding as you say they are, then they will probably look down on you for a long time of not life. Not to mention divorce fees, attorneys, and court appearances. And there's also the chance of the church excommunicating you (which I think is a load of bull and hypocritical of churches to do.)

Go to college, seriously. Just because you're a christian doesn't mean you have to shelter yourself and be afraid of the world that God created for your. Be strong.