There's this girl who I liked for a while. She says she cares. And she always says I'm the most amazing person. But I find out later that she's been back stabbing me and to make things worse. Sometimes she would insult me right to my face. Then it would be the same reason everytime. "I was just mad about something else" I feel like she hates me. It's been so emotionally challenging to even see her during the school day. What should I do?
I really need advice :-/
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Run. This is a pattern of verbal abuse. Get angry, take it out on someone, then say 'it's not my fault'. If she's like this now it will only get worse as she gets older. There is nothing good here to stick with. I don't care how nice she acts or what she says about how great you are, she will continue to mistreat you. People who show this pattern almost never stop. Time and age does not stop them. Losing their family doesn't stop them.
And part of the pattern is being so nice. Because the niceness is part of what keeps you from leaving. Yeah, she called me an idiot, but... No buts. Just get away and fast.
And part of the pattern is being so nice. Because the niceness is part of what keeps you from leaving. Yeah, she called me an idiot, but... No buts. Just get away and fast.
If you are a Christian, then you are looking for those that are seeking to figure out, rightly divide, prove all things and hold fast to that which is true/Good ... from scripture, and that are habitually(Not perfectly) seeking to live in accordance with it.
Those that only draw near with their lips but aren't seeking to figure out, and do what He says, out of Love for Him, aren't His in spite of their possible beliefs to the contrary. Christians have no business dating, or spending time with, those that are not habitually in this process in the first place lest you put yourself into the position of falling in love with someone who is lost, and thus becoming one flesh with a disbeliever. Trust me. If you are a true believer and you disobey, it will end badly for you.
Those that only draw near with their lips but aren't seeking to figure out, and do what He says, out of Love for Him, aren't His in spite of their possible beliefs to the contrary. Christians have no business dating, or spending time with, those that are not habitually in this process in the first place lest you put yourself into the position of falling in love with someone who is lost, and thus becoming one flesh with a disbeliever. Trust me. If you are a true believer and you disobey, it will end badly for you.
J
When i think about a relationship, and how i would like it to be i keep coming back at those things:
- you share the believe in God and your personal saving by Jesus Christ
- you put the Lord above everyone else, even your partner
- you feel safe and secure in the presence of your loved one
- you talk to eachother about what is bothering you and about what is making you smile
- you want to make your loved one smile by doing small things with big meanings/thoughts
- you trust your loved one
- being with your loved one turns you into a better person
- no matter what, you will support your loved one and your loved one will support you
- you dont discuss private problems in public or with others without letting your loved one know/ask permission
I do have more to fill the list but from what i hear/read about your relationship with this girl i already see a couple of things that are not like i think a good relationship would be. I want to be clear that this list is not the truth or a list you should stick to. But think about those things and pray to the Lord. He knows what you should do. Is your relationship according with His Word? Is your relationship bringing you closer to the Lord and is it glorifying His Name?
Talk to this girl about it and if she doesnt want to change things that she is doing wrong then think about letting her go. You deserve someone that makes you happy, gives you a place to feel safe and loved. Someone that loves you and gives you no doubt about that at all. You really do.
- you share the believe in God and your personal saving by Jesus Christ
- you put the Lord above everyone else, even your partner
- you feel safe and secure in the presence of your loved one
- you talk to eachother about what is bothering you and about what is making you smile
- you want to make your loved one smile by doing small things with big meanings/thoughts
- you trust your loved one
- being with your loved one turns you into a better person
- no matter what, you will support your loved one and your loved one will support you
- you dont discuss private problems in public or with others without letting your loved one know/ask permission
I do have more to fill the list but from what i hear/read about your relationship with this girl i already see a couple of things that are not like i think a good relationship would be. I want to be clear that this list is not the truth or a list you should stick to. But think about those things and pray to the Lord. He knows what you should do. Is your relationship according with His Word? Is your relationship bringing you closer to the Lord and is it glorifying His Name?
Talk to this girl about it and if she doesnt want to change things that she is doing wrong then think about letting her go. You deserve someone that makes you happy, gives you a place to feel safe and loved. Someone that loves you and gives you no doubt about that at all. You really do.
A
You don't have time to such nonsense. she wants to act like that then let her do it on her own. Everyone around her is eventually gonna leave her and she'll learn her lesson and change that attitude. But don't sit around and wait for it. I spent YEARS waiting for best friends to act like best friends and they were all just bullies. And it took until college for me to realize. I don't have to put up with these people.
There are PLENTY of other things and people to invest your time in then someone who is going to hurt you and bring you down.
There are PLENTY of other things and people to invest your time in then someone who is going to hurt you and bring you down.