Teen struggling with homosexuality.

[nicknack100]

For the past 5 years (18 in just over a month, so since I was 13) I've struggled a lot with homosexual desires, I've never given into any in real life, only online, but sin is sin. I gave my life to Christ when I was 14 and I'm the only Christian in my family so confiding in my Mum is not an option. I just find it so difficult to withstand this temptation, I've been 1 week clean from masturbation and pornography but I still get the temptations on a daily basis, I don't want to meet the woman of my dreams and still see men in that way. I do my schoolwork online/at home so shutting off my computer just isn't an option.
I pray A LOT about this although I haven't read my Bible for a very long time, I do go to church (A.O.G.) every Sunday and I love it, I also go to a weekly men's connect group meeting in my church aswell as church youth group every week so I'm not falling short on fellowship. What are some ways to overcome this? I don't want to have to deal with this for my whole life, my biggest fear is that Satan catches me when I'm most vulnerable and I don't reach out to God and I end out having sexual intercourse with another man.

 

[Channa]

Satan won't catch you. God is with you all days and he leads you through the storm. It will be better soon, because of God. I'll pray for you and I'm sure more people will. You're not alone! Bless'

 

[nicknack100]

Thank you, it really means a lot

 

[TheBlackRider]

Don’t give up.*
For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. - Hebrews 4:15

Jesus died for you to be free. He lived a perfect life, and then took on every sin you’ve ever*committed on the cross. It was an act of agape - sacrificial love that He poured out for you. He bled for you. He was*separated from His Father for you. He died for you. You were the thought on His mind as He carried that cross up that hill.
No temptation*has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful;*he will not let you be tempted*beyond what you can bear.*But when you are tempted,*he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. - 1 Corinthians 10:13

Jesus will provide a way for you to get through this. SO many struggle. So many struggle with this. But I know that Jesus is enough to get you through - you have to abandon yourself and give everything to Him. It isn’t easy. It doesn’t feel natural for you to give yourself up. But if you do - the good and the bad, Jesus will grow the good and destroy the bad things about you as you get closer and closer to Him.

There are two huge things you can do for yourself:
1. Grow and maintain a personal relationship with Jesus Christ - be in His Word, in His Church, in prayer. Seek Him with your whole heart and you WILL find Him.
2. Tell someone. Secrecy is killing you here. Tell someone of the same gender in your life that you trust. Have them hold you accountable - it will help you a ton.*

5*Trust in the*Lord*with all your heart
****and lean not on your own understanding;
6*in all your ways submit to him,
****and he will make your paths*straight.
-Proverbs 3:5-6
In all your ways SUBMIT to HIM, and He will make your paths straight.

That’s not a guess…that’s a promise. If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here. But this is some serious advice above, and I swear if you give yourself up to God, He will change you. It may not be all at once, but the more you give Him, the more He will change about you. God bless you!








This was written by a friend of mine ^^^^^^^^^(asdeepcriesout.tumblr.com) but I thought it might be a bit helpful for you?

Just remember that our God is always by your side. He's holding you by the hand, and he's going to guide you. It's tough--i know it is. But flee to God's Word when you struggle. Turn to him. Cry out to him! He will hear you. He can and WILL deliver you. Just pour out your heart before God. He is a loving father, a fantastic brother, and the closest friend you can ever have. Focus on strengthening that bond and relationship with Him, and one day that struggle will fade--it will still be there, but you won't feel temptation's pull as strongly then. Stay strong, my brother! You are not alone. God is with you to the end of the line!

And I shall try to keep you in my prayers as well!

 

[Revelator7]

The fear of the Lord will certaintly help you. In the book of Isaiah it says that Jesus delighted in the fear of the Lord. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom and to shun evil is understanding. You need wisdom, and you need understanding to retain that wisdom. The Bible has all the knowledge you need. But you need the spirit of wisdom and revelation to really get somewhere in God. The fear of God will teach you that God has the power to destroy both your soul and body in hell. You need to work out your salvation with fear and trembling daily. The Bible teaches us that the fear of the Lord is clean. If you're dealing with an actual spirit (a demon sent on assignment to fill your mind and emotions with lust for men) then understand that evil spirits are considered unclean spirits. You might be dealing with a spirit of lust. Pornography is a portal/door. You must close it, otherwise your flesh will feed like a ravenous wolf and you won't be able to put an end to the addiction. Fearing God is your first step. If you meditated on your life and look at it from the end, you'll quicken yourself. Think about the day of your death. Think about how fast life actually is, and how long eternity is. Compared to life on earth, eternity in hell is so long. You'd want to die because of the pain, but you couldn't die. And suicide is not the way to go either, it just gets worse in hell. Becareful for outlets. when you replace your addiction, your flesh will look for other ways to fill itself. Fill your body and soul and spirit with the Word of God, mainly, with loving God and people. Honor your parents, because it will go well with you as Scripture says. I would put yourself in places where there are females. Don't always be around men, but activitly seek sisters and mother figures in the church. You need to be mothered and nurtured and cared for. Love, R - a fellow past bisexual turned Christian

 

[Little_Light]

Avoid all temptations. Call out to God when those desires get to you. I never dealt with homosexuality, but I had a very bad porn problem and I get many temptations to this day.

Do not expect once you get a hold of it, for it to just go away. Temptations will always be there, but crying out to God is all we have in this twisted world we live in.

I'll be praying for ya.

 

[breno785au]

Rom 8:16-17
16 The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, 17 and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him.
(ESV)

My struggle with porn has caused much suffering, but it is good to suffer as we are children of God. I'm settling with my heart that I may always have the temptation, but where I am weak, He is strong. Suffering is good for us, it helps us grow and we are not to be ashamed of our weaknesses so God can be strong for us so we can share in the glory with Him in the end. Suffering and weakness is something that should be talked about a lot more.

 

[LatoyaQ]

what happened to me when I started to pay more attention to God was that I had these gay OCD thoughts and at first I really thought I was turning into a lesbian because if I saw a girl anywhere in my mind I would call her "sexy" but at the same time I didn't mean it cuz I knew deep down in my heart that I'm not a homosexual I'm actually really homophobic and someone said how if i'm scared of being gay,then that means im not gay. At the end of the day, I know who i am and who I belong to and that is Jesus. And when the devil whispers homophobic thoughts I would b like whatever and go about my day. Eventually I overcame those thoughts and I feel good.

 

[gentlewolf]

I struggled up till a few days ago since I was 14. I'm 17 now. I became free when asked God, Lord take this burden firm me. Your word says you are not the author of confusion. So Lord. I give this burden to you.. After that I felt an overwhelming peace knowing that god gave me a sound mind. Then I told my pastor and I found out that most of the youth had gay or lesbian feelings at some point in their life. So I feel for you and just want to say it can be over come with Christ

 

[dfarmer2001]

God, your heavenly father. Your father through the good times, your father through the bad times, your father when your asleep, your father when your awake, your father for forever and always.

Jesus says, "I will make a way when there seemeth to be no way."

God Bless you, I feel God will move in your life soon.

 

[kmb9]

(sorry if my english is not that good) well, it could be easy to just say: you are in sin! reabuke the hosexuality in the name of Jesus!, but is not that easy, i struggle a lot with porn and homosexual thoughts, i have a wierd attraction to men and i feel so guilty when these dreams or thoughts come to my mind cus i know God dosent like it, but He has showned His mercy all the time, i know you cant just ignore those feelings, is shometing that you cant get rid of, is a daily fight and when you are about to win the fight gets even more difficult, what im trying to do is to have a daily comunication with God, tell Him what you have done and how do you feel. The first place satan attacks is your mind. read Philippians 4:8
i hope that this can help you at least a little bit, if you wanna talk you can pm me
God bless

 

[Matthew4Jesus]

Hi my friend, I am sorry to hear that you are struggling with this very difficult sin.

Let me Begin by saying, through the power of the Holy Spirit you can overcome this!

Phillipians 4:13 -- "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me"

MY best advice for you right now it to throw yourself into God's word, his word is life! (John 6:68) Jesus Christ can set you free from this challenging and deadly sin, but how will you be able to combat this sin without the word? Without the word of God how can you expect to combat the lusts of the flesh and Satan, you are left defenceless which is why you fall prey to it time and time again. You need your daily food, which is the word of God.

 

[ThomistColin]

For the past 5 years (18 in just over a month, so since I was 13) I've struggled a lot with homosexual desires, I've never given into any in real life, only online, but sin is sin. I gave my life to Christ when I was 14 and I'm the only Christian in my family so confiding in my Mum is not an option. I just find it so difficult to withstand this temptation, I've been 1 week clean from masturbation and pornography but I still get the temptations on a daily basis, I don't want to meet the woman of my dreams and still see men in that way. I do my schoolwork online/at home so shutting off my computer just isn't an option.
I pray A LOT about this although I haven't read my Bible for a very long time, I do go to church (A.O.G.) every Sunday and I love it, I also go to a weekly men's connect group meeting in my church aswell as church youth group every week so I'm not falling short on fellowship. What are some ways to overcome this? I don't want to have to deal with this for my whole life, my biggest fear is that Satan catches me when I'm most vulnerable and I don't reach out to God and I end out having sexual intercourse with another man.

Hey Nick,

You are not alone. The Lord is good, even in the darkness, He is Good. Because brother, there are many of us.

1. Begin to seek a life of chastity. That includes working on not masturbating or looking at pornography. If you do, don't get angry or depressed, acknowledge and confess and then move on.
2. Begin to seek a life of prayer. Morning prayers, prayers before class, before tests, before meals, while driving, and before bed. Share with God everything. Even the details that others here may detest. God knows your thoughts and knows your mind. However, when you open yourself to God, hiding nothing, not even the details that embarrass you, you will find a stronger relationship with God.
3. Pray for the Lord to heal you of this, and if the Lord chooses not to heal you of this (AND HE MAY NOT) PRAY for the strength to stand, the strength to walk, and the strength to carry this cross.
4. Don't live in the closet. Admit who you are, even to those you love. Hiding this attraction (even if sinful) should not be done, for evil thrives in darkness.
5. Find a group of celibate homosexuals and ex-homosexuals (we both exist, though the latter are extremely rare) that can help keep you accountable. This is important, because they know what you are going through, and they trust in God to help you and them.
6. Don't let anyone ever tell you that you are not precious, that you are not loved, that your are not cared for, and that you are going to Hell. Because those people do not know God and they don't know you.

The Lord bless you and keep you,
Colin

 

[Angelique]

Hi nick.

Im so proud of you. I want you to know in your weakness Gods strength will be made perfect if you keep seeking God with all your heart. Every single christian has sin issues we have to deal with, so dont let the enemy make you feel all alone in this struggle. Mine is feeling worthless and unlovable..I struggle to not see myself as others do but as God sees me.

I pray that the lord delivers you and gives you peace to know that in Christ you have and will overcome. May the Lord lead you to people who will love you and guide you with Godly wisdom during this season in your life.
Bless you always precious child of the living God. Happy birthday too.

 

[Jamal]

There are two men inside of you, the old man and the new man. Whichever one you feed gets stronger.

 

[chesser]

My aid vice would be that if you can find a way to get yourself to be attracted to females, then go for it, but make sure your not faking it just to make yourself, your Christian friends or even because you think it will make God happy(he can tell when your being disingenuous you know). If you genuinely cannot become attracted to a woman, there's nothing wrong with that, you only do wrong when you go against Gods law and have relations(romantic ,sexual, emotional,etc.) with another man. I would suggest to you in that case to be a lifetime celibate. Even Paul says that those who marry and stay monogamous do good, but those who stay celibate do more good. If celibacy is the path God has laid out for you then go down that path, but do not go against him and give into your desires, strong as they may be, but also don't try and fool God, it won't work.

 

[ThomistColin]

My aid vice would be that if you can find a way to get yourself to be attracted to females

That is the worst advice I've ever read. OP ignore this tripe. Its nonsense and destructive.

 

[Quake10]

You are not the only one going through this. Im a male, and i have a strong desire to crossdress, im straight, but still im saying there are people like u who are struggling too. You arent alone, im still struggling through this, i have not yet gained victory over this yet, but i pray i will. Just pray to God and ask Him for help. He loves you!

 

[Elijah19]

How is this advice destructive if the post is only encouraging the natural, God-given attraction which God mandated that men should feel toward females? After all, that is the only non-sinful and natural alternative provided he doesn't commit adultery of the heart. On that note, adultery of the heart and a healthy God-given attraction to the opposite sex are not the same thing by any token. The advice follows God's natural order as long as you put Jesus first and don't sin by lust.An attraction towards what God created this young man to be naturally attracted to is the next best thing he needs in addition to a deeper trust in God.Natural desire, tamed by Godly self control and used only within marriage, is nothing to call sinful, but a gift.

 

[Elijah19]

Romans Chapter 1 calls homosexuality "unnatural" and Leviticus Chapters 18 and 20 condemn it lethally... not that I think the death penalty parts apply anymore, because after all we have Grace and everything. But the fact of the matter still remains:

People who condemn homosexuality on basis of the Bible are not being judgmental or unloving or proud... they are just agreeing with God. If you want to agree with God, you must condemn what he condemns... homosexuality and everything else ... plain and simple.

For my struggling friend on here... please stand by what the Lord says to you in love. He is trying to save you and the devil will try to contort His words. God bless...